Summary of Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté's Hold On to Your Kids
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#1 The modern parent struggles to raise children who are not as respectful and disciplined as they were when they were children. Many parents feel as though they are not making any progress with their children, and they are growing more and more frustrated.
#2 The gap between children and adults has never been bigger. We struggle to live up to our image of what parenting should be like, and we feel as if we are failing at the task. We are also afraid that the world has become less safe for our children, and we are powerless to protect them.
#3 The state of affairs is ironic, given that more is known about child development than ever before and that we have more access to courses and books on childrearing than any previous generation of parents.
#4 The secret of parenting is not in what a parent does, but rather who the parent is to a child. When a child seeks contact and closeness with us, we become empowered as a nurturer, a comforter, a guide, a model, a teacher, or a coach.
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Contents
Insights from Chapter 1
Insights from Chapter 2
Insights from Chapter 3
Insights from Chapter 4
Insights from Chapter 5
Insights from Chapter 6
Insights from Chapter 1
#1
The modern parent struggles to raise children who are not as respectful and disciplined as they were when they were children. Many parents feel as though they are not making any progress with their children, and they are growing more and more frustrated.
#2
The gap between children and adults has never been bigger. We struggle to live up to our image of what parenting should be like, and we feel as if we are failing at the task. We are also afraid that the world has become less safe for our children, and we are powerless to protect them.
#3
The state of affairs is ironic, given that more is known about child development than ever before and that we have more access to courses and books on childrearing than any previous generation of parents.
#4
The secret of parenting is not in what a parent does, but rather who the parent is to a child. When a child seeks contact and closeness with us, we become empowered as a nurturer, a comforter, a guide, a model, a teacher, or a coach.
#5
The term peer orientation is used to describe the growing attachment of children to their peers. It is peer orientation that has muted our parenting instincts, eroded our natural authority, and caused us to parent not from the heart but from the head.
#6
Children’s brains must choose between parental values and peer values, parental guidance and peer guidance, and their own culture and peer culture whenever the two would seem to be in conflict.
#7
Peer orientation is so common today that it has become the norm. Many psychologists and educators, as well as the lay public, have come to view it as natural or even healthy. However, what is natural or healthy is not always what is normal.
#8
The rise of a children’s culture has been accompanied by increases in youth crime, violence, bullying, and delinquency. The lack of unconditional love and acceptance in peer relationships is going to have a profound impact on many children.
#9
The increase in peer orientation in our society is reflected in the suicide rate among children. The more peers matter, the more children are devastated by the insensitive relating of their peers, by failing to fit in, and by perceived rejection or ostracization.
#10
The problem with peer-oriented parenting is that it weakens the natural lines of attachment and responsibility, which in turn undermines healthy development. To raise children, we must reclaim them and take charge of providing for their attachment needs.
#11
The focus of this book is not what is happening out there, one step removed from us, but what’s happening in our own backyard. We have seen the increasing peer orientation of our own children, and we hope that can serve as a wake-up call to parents everywhere.
#12
We can’t reverse the social, cultural, and economic forces driving peer orientation, but we can work to keep ourselves from being prematurely replaced. We must place the parent-child relationship back onto its natural foundation.
#13
The analogy of an affair fits in many ways, not the least of which is the feelings