Summary of Susan Anderson's The Journey From Abandonment To Healing

By IRB Media

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#1 The first fear is abandonment, which is the fear that someone will leave you forever. This is a primal fear that we experience as children, and it stems from the fact that our survival depends on maintaining an attachment to our primary caretaker.

#2 The grief process is similar to that of a death, but it stems from the circumstances that led up to the abandonment, not from the feelings of inadequacy that often accompany it.

#3 The Abandonment Syndrome is the anguish experienced by those who have lost love, and the courage to go on believing in life and in their own capacity for love. It is not limited to those who are able to succeed in their relationships, but can be found in the fragments of unlived life, unreached potential, and unfulfilled dreams.

#4 The five steps of the Abandonment Recovery Program are: identify your underlying wound of abandonment, take action to heal it, gain new information, identify unfinished business from the past, and practice hands-on exercises for improving your life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Feb 22, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669351214

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Insights on Susan Anderson's The Journey from Abandonment to Healing

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The first fear is abandonment, which is the fear that someone will leave you forever. This is a primal fear that we experience as children, and it stems from the fact that our survival depends on maintaining an attachment to our primary caretaker.

#2

The grief process is similar to that of a death, but it stems from the circumstances that led up to the abandonment, not from the feelings of inadequacy that often accompany it.

#3

The Abandonment Syndrome is the anguish experienced by those who have lost love, and the courage to go on believing in life and in their own capacity for love. It is not limited to those who are able to succeed in their relationships, but can be found in the fragments of unlived life, unreached potential, and unfulfilled dreams.

#4

The five steps of the Abandonment Recovery Program are: identify your underlying wound of abandonment, take action to heal it, gain new information, identify unfinished business from the past, and practice hands-on exercises for improving your life.

#5

There are many different types of abandoners. Some are callous, leaving a trail of discarded lovers along heartbreak’s Appian Way. And there are serial abandoners, who get some sort of reward from inflicting emotional pain on those who love them.

#6

When you are in the first stage of grief, you are in shock, pain, and panic. You try to keep the pieces of yourself together, but in spite of your efforts, your faith and trust have been shattered. The severing of this important emotional bond makes you feel that you can’t live without your lost love.

#7

Withdrawal from a relationship is like heroin withdrawal, and it involves intense craving and agitation for the love you are missing. You ache, throb, and yearn for your loved one to return.

#8

During the third stage of abandonment, your emotional wound becomes susceptible to infection, which can result in permanent scarring. You begin to idealize your ex at your own expense, and any implicit or explicit