Summary of Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview: #1 I began writing a book about sex, and I was constantly asked about couples and eroticism. The comments I heard at a party were hardly novel. Can’t be done. Well, that’s the whole problem of monogamy, isn’t it. That’s why I don’t commit. It has nothing to do with fear. I just hate boring sex.

#2 The two camps are the romantics, who believe that passion is more important than safety and security, and the realists, who believe that safety and security are more important than passion. But both are often disappointed, for few people can live happily at either extreme.

#3 The need for security and novelty is a human instinct, and it is also true for every living thing. organisms require alternating periods of growth and equilibrium. Any person or system exposed to ceaseless novelty and change risks falling into chaos, but one that is too rigid or static ceases to grow and eventually dies.

#4 I want to get back the excitement I used to have in my relationship with my husband. I want to be appreciated as a woman, not just as a mother, wife, or companion.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Feb 28, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669354307

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Insights on Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

I began writing a book about sex, and I was constantly asked about couples and eroticism. The comments I heard at a party were hardly novel. Can’t be done. Well, that’s the whole problem of monogamy, isn’t it. That’s why I don’t commit. It has nothing to do with fear. I just hate boring sex.

#2

The two camps are the romantics, who believe that passion is more important than safety and security, and the realists, who believe that safety and security are more important than passion. But both are often disappointed, for few people can live happily at either extreme.

#3

The need for security and novelty is a human instinct, and it is also true for every living thing. organisms require alternating periods of growth and equilibrium. Any person or system exposed to ceaseless novelty and change risks falling into chaos, but one that is too rigid or static ceases to grow and eventually dies.

#4

I want to get back the excitement I used to have in my relationship with my husband. I want to be appreciated as a woman, not just as a mother, wife, or companion.

#5

The tension between the comfort of committed love and the excitement of new romance is captured by Adele in her breathless riff. She wants both the coziness and the edge, and she wants them both with Alan.

#6

The sexual revolution of the 1960s, women’s liberation, the availability of birth control pills, and the emergence of the gay movement have contributed to a