Summary of Esther Perel's The State of Affairs

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Get the Summary of Esther Perel's The State of Affairs in 20 minutes. Please note: This is a summary & not the original book. Original book introduction: An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo-universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat-even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Feb 6, 2021
• ISBN: 9781638153634

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Esther Perel’s

The State of Affairs

Rethinking Infidelity

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The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (2017) by sex and relationship expert Esther Perel is an examination of unfaithfulness in romantic relationships—what it is, why it happens, and how different cultures handle it—as well as an exploration of what affairs can teach all lovers about healthy relationships. Perel takes a non-judgmental approach to the motivations of the cheater and the outside lover, as well as to the contributions of the betrayed partner to the relationship crisis.

Infidelity is hard to define, but usually it involves a sexual and emotional connection to a lover outside the primary relationship, as well as secrecy about that relationship. Estimates of how many Americans cheat vary widely because people aren’t honest about infidelity; approximations range between roughly 30 and 70 percent of men and women.

In America, and in other individualistic consumerist

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