Falling in love … again

Martin Luther King Jr famously said, “Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.” Why is it then in romantic relationships that once the blossom of new love fades, it can sometimes feel like you’re sleeping with the enemy?

Think back to how you and your partner first met. Perhaps your eyes met across a crowded room. After a few dates, you’re finishing each other’s sentences. You get each other and just know you’ve found the one. Fast-forward a few years and with a mortgage, children, work stressors and bills to pay, the magic has turned into monotony and those blissful carefree days may seem like a distant memory.

You might now be a divorce daydreamer, or you may even imagine what life would be like if your spouse died, like Alisa Bowman, the author of Project: Happily Ever After: Saving Your Marriage When The Fairytale Falters. And no, she didn’t bump off her bloke in the end.

Many couples just plod along together over the years, far from the analogy of feeling like a pair of warm comfy slippers; they’re more like a pair of old boots that pinch your toes and don’t quite