Summary of Tina Gilbertson's Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child

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#1 Estrangement is the condition of being physically and/or emotionally distant from one or more family members, either by choice or at the request or decision of the other. It can be roughly divided into three types: total cutoff, emotional estrangement, and on-and-off estrangement.

#2 Estrangement can be temporary, and it’s up to you and your child to make sure it isn’t lifelong. It’s becoming easier to reconnect with family every decade, which means it’s becoming harder to disappear.

#3 Estrangement doesn’t always mean total cutoff. Some parents feel estranged from their adult children even with regular social contact. The problem is that they begin to feel like strangers or intruders to their kids, rather than close and comfortable as they once were.

#4 Estrangement between parents and their adult children can be caused by a variety of factors, including pressure from social networks and the culture at large, personal ambivalence, and a desire for connection with family.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Mar 29, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669377757

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Contents

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Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Estrangement is the condition of being physically and/or emotionally distant from one or more family members, either by choice or at the request or decision of the other. It can be roughly divided into three types: total cutoff, emotional estrangement, and on-and-off estrangement.

#2

Estrangement can be temporary, and it’s up to you and your child to make sure it isn’t lifelong. It’s becoming easier to reconnect with family every decade, which means it’s becoming harder to disappear.

#3

Estrangement doesn’t always mean total cutoff. Some parents feel estranged from their adult children even with regular social contact. The problem is that they begin to feel like strangers or intruders to their kids, rather than close and comfortable as they once were.

#4

Estrangement between parents and their adult children can be caused by a variety of factors, including pressure from social networks and the culture at large, personal ambivalence, and a desire for connection with family.

#5

Estrangement is when someone isn’t talking to you because of a negative relationship, or when communication between you is so difficult or distressing that it’s minimized.

#6

Estrangement between parents and adult children is common, and might even be on the rise as family networks shrink and geographical distance grows. Because of the stigma still associated with this type of estrangement, people are often uncomfortable talking about it.

#7

Estrangement from parents is more common among marginalized communities, such as the LGBTQ community. It’s easy to understand why that is; some parents are devastated by their child’s nonconformity.

#8

The factors that lead to estrangement are often external circumstances such as divorce or third-party interference. Adult children are more likely to blame personal, negative characteristics of their parents for the estrangement.

#9

Estranged parents’ emotional vulnerability can make it difficult for them to mend the rift with their children. They don’t understand what their