Step Parenting Getting It Right

By Brenda Van Niekerk

Step families or Blended Families Are the Norm Nowadays. The statistics show that 65 percent of remarriages will include children from previous relationships.

When families “blend” to create step families things rarely progress smoothly.

Some children may resist the many changes they face, while parents may become frustrated or disappointed when the new family doesn’t function like their previous family functioned.

This book teaches you to deal with basic issues such as privacy for individual family members, who should handle the discipline, giving your stepchildren space, not to expect respect, but to earn respect. How to deal with hot and cold behavior from your step kids.

Contrary to myth, step families have a high rate of success in raising healthy children. 80% of the kids grow up and turn out to be fine.

Do not beat yourself up about being a bad step parent, learn how to deal with the situation.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Brenda Van Niekerk
• Release date: Jan 6, 2012
• ISBN: 9781465886477

Brenda Van Niekerk

Brenda loves cooking, baking and experimenting with new ideas for recipes. Writing recipe books just flows naturally from that.

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Step Parenting Getting It Right

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Brenda Van Niekerk

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Content

Stepfamilies or Blended Families Are the Norm Nowadays

Many stepfamilies have to deal with conflict

The key to redefining a family is to develop an identity as a group

Points to Consider

Do Not Bad Mouth the Other Parent

Instead of venting any frustration in the children's presence

Scheduling step life can be brutal

Communicate and coordinate

Admit Mistakes to Your Children

Let the Children Approach You Do Not Push

Be Genuine

Nurture Your Childs Self Esteem

Provide Privacy for the Children phone and otherwise

Do Not Ask About What Happens at the OTHER House

Do Not Try and Outdo Or One-up the Other Parent

Do not compete with the real parent

Avoid Replacing other Parent

Do Not Expect the Other Family to Do Things YOUR Way

Respect individual differences

Develop new traditions

Letting the parent take charge

Do Not Attempt to BUY the Kids Favor

Listen and Ask Questions MORE than Talk

Tips on Listening To Your Stepchildren

Children should decide what name to use for you

Step Children and REAL Children should be treated as Equals

Avoid creating competition

The Arrival of a New Sibling

Find ways to experience real life together

Household rules

Keep the connection between biological families strong

Offer support to children living in 2 separate households

Schedule visitations so that the family is all together or all away on the same weekends

Do Not Expect Respect EARN Respect

To Foster Respect in A Family

Let the Natural Parent Administer the Discipline

Setting Limits and Enforcing Them

Discipline as the adult in charge not at the parent

Never be tempted to side with a stepchild against your partner

Expect HOT and COLD Behavior from the Kids

Recognize the pulls of Who am I Loyal to First

Schedule family outings

Behaviour problems

Do not dodge the You are not my parent comment

Allow Your Spouse to Have Alone Time with His or Her Kids

Take Time Out for Yourself

Schedule couple time

Stepfamilies or Blended Families Are the Norm Nowadays

The statistics show that 65 percent of remarriages will include children from previous relationships.

When families blend to create stepfamilies things rarely progress smoothly.

Some children may resist the many changes they face, while parents may become frustrated or disappointed when the new family doesn’t function like their previous family functioned.

Contrary to myth, stepfamilies have a high rate of success in raising healthy children. 80% of the kids grow up and turn out to be fine.

Being a parent to