Psychologies

Kind boundaries

After a long day, I’m settling down to some telly. I check my phone and there is an email from work – there is a problem. It doesn’t need resolving tonight but, now that I know about it, it’s on my mind, so I tell my partner that I’ll be a minute, and I email a reply. Twenty minutes later, he has wandered off and I’m wound up.

A friend asks if I can give her a lift with her shopping while her car is in the garage. My heart sinks – it will take an hour through evening traffic – but I say yes. By the time we get back, I’m frazzled.

Yes means no

“When it comes to boundaries, the responsibility is yours – not your overbearing parent, annoying co-worker or unruly kid”

Boundaries have always been an issue for me. As an introvert and HSP (highly sensitive person, or empath), I need space and

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