Summary of Dr. Sherrie Campbell's But It's Your Family . . .

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#1 Toxic people are difficult to identify, because their toxicity is not easy to discern. They are often good at hiding it, and they can be difficult to deal with because we’re always dealing with a two-to-five-year-old in an adult’s body.

#2 Toxic people cannot tolerate consideration of others. When trying to have a conversation with them, they are self-referential rather than self-reflective. When you share something about yourself with such people, they immediately turn the account into a story about them.

#3 Covertly toxic people are those who are masters at feigning innocence, playing the victim, and claiming that life has treated them better than it has treated others. Their emotional abuse is done in a secretive manner that is difficult to spot and address.

#4 The majority of people, especially those who are healthy, assume too much responsibility for the wrongs in their lives because they want to be the first to own their mistakes when it is necessary. But a toxic person will never take enough responsibility.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Jun 4, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822530201

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Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 12

Insights from Chapter 13

Insights from Chapter 14

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Toxic people are difficult to identify, because their toxicity is not easy to discern. They are often good at hiding it, and they can be difficult to deal with because we’re always dealing with a two-to-five-year-old in an adult’s body.

#2

Toxic people cannot tolerate consideration of others. When trying to have a conversation with them, they are self-referential rather than self-reflective. When you share something about yourself with such people, they immediately turn the account into a story about them.

#3

Covertly toxic people are those who are masters at feigning innocence, playing the victim, and claiming that life has treated them better than it has treated others. Their emotional abuse is done in a secretive manner that is difficult to spot and address.

#4

The majority of people, especially those who are healthy, assume too much responsibility for the wrongs in their lives because they want to be the first to own their mistakes when it is necessary. But a toxic person will never take enough responsibility.

#5

Healthy people are easy to predict. They are consistent in who they are from one moment to the next, and their actions rarely match the grandiosity of their words. They are good-hearted people who are kind to everyone, not just those from whom they can gain something.

#6

When we are with toxic people, we find that our entire life is forced to revolve around their schedule, needs, feelings, goals, and ideas. They are so controlling that we end up living our lives around their every whim.

#7

Healthy love is when two givers come together. When this happens, it is like magic. It becomes a connection of you nurture me and I will nurture you, and together we will grow. Healthy love is fun and lighthearted.

#8

We love our family members and want them to love us back, so we choose to believe they don’t mean to treat us the way they do. When we rationalize and justify their mistreatment of us, it is called reverse projection.

#9

Reverse projection keeps us in a place of denial, as we believe we can fix or solve the problem. But the truth is that we cannot change anyone but ourselves.

#10

Toxic people do not