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Is It Too Late? How to Repair a Broken Relationship With Your Friend or Family Member

Is It Too Late? How to Repair a Broken Relationship With Your Friend or Family Member

FromThe Mel Robbins Podcast


Is It Too Late? How to Repair a Broken Relationship With Your Friend or Family Member

FromThe Mel Robbins Podcast

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Length:
62 minutes
Released:
Jul 13, 2023
Format:
Podcast episode

Description

In this episode, you’re going to learn that it is never too late to try to repair a broken or difficult relationship.Research shows that estrangement is not only on the rise but that the majority of us have at least one extended family member or friend who is estranged.I know this is true in my own extended family, and I also have friends who are estranged from their parents.Whether you’re the person who’s cut off contact or you're the one wondering why someone you love did, our episode today will give you the language, tools, and context to start moving toward understanding and healing.Dr. Joshua Coleman is a psychologist and best-selling author who works with families to repair broken bonds and help them reconcile and improve difficult or estranged relationships.In fact, according to Dr. Coleman, the strategies he shares work, and the statistics are in your favor.I hope you share this with anyone you know dealing with a difficult relationship. It is very common, especially after a divorce and when there is a new spouse or significant other.When someone you love suddenly pulls away or cuts you out of their life, you need a playbook to help you know when to reach out and when not to reach out, and what exactly to say and not say.Today you’ll learn:Why estrangement is on the rise.What some therapists do wrong that can make things worse.What to do if you’re the sibling caught in the middle.How to take responsibility, even if you don’t think you should.Early mistakes we make that can lead to estrangement.Early steps we can take to avoid estrangement.How long it takes to reconcile and where to even begin.The pain of separation is real, but it doesn’t have to be forever. Xo, Mel In this episode, you’ll learn:01:04: The silent epidemic that’s happening right now is estrangement.02:10: What is estrangement?04:42: How "cancel culture" is impacting relationships09:07: The horrible advice for estrangement Dr. Coleman got in therapy.12:24: What moving towards a child's trauma looks like14:07: How do you know if someone has deliberately cut you out of their life?16:32: The most common complaint adult children have for their parents19:56: One of the most common pathways to estrangement22:04: The most common mistakes estranged parents make24:32: Why you cannot take things personally26:35: Why radical acceptance is a required step in reconnecting29:50: Let’s unpack why guilt doesn’t work.35:20: What to do when reconciliation isn’t desired by the other person36:32: What are the steps towards reconciliation?39:07: Why Dr. Coleman says that parents have a moral obligation to take the high road42:10: The silent treatment is wrong. Here’s why47:15: When you should stop reaching out for reconciliation49:30: What is an amends letter, and how should you write it?56:18: How do you engage with someone who doesn’t want to engage with you?  Disclaimer
Released:
Jul 13, 2023
Format:
Podcast episode

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You can change your life and Mel Robbins will show you how. Mel is in a category all her own. As one of the most widely booked and followed podcast hosts and authors in the world, she’s sought after by the world’s leading brands and medical professionals for her research-backed tools and motivation. And, at the same time, Mel has amassed millions of followers online, with her advice going viral online almost daily. Her female-led media company produces provocative, life-changing content, with millions of books sold, billions of video views, six #1 audiobooks, and the #1 podcast on Audible. Her work has been translated into 41 languages and has changed the lives of millions of people worldwide. And despite all that, Mel is one of the most down to earth and relatable people you’ll ever know. Probably because she learned everything she teaches the hard way: by first screwing up her own life, and out of necessity, discovering the tools and research that transformed her life and got her to where she is today. In the Mel Robbins Podcast, Mel gets more personal than ever, welcoming you into her life and taking you behind the scenes in real time. Every episode is packed with deeply relatable topics, tactical advice, hilarious screwups, compelling conversations, and the tools and inspiration you need to create a better life. Tune in and buckle up – your life is about to change. New episodes of The Mel Robbins Podcast drop every Monday and Thursday. To learn more about Mel, go deeper into every episode, find the resources and research she mentions, or submit a topic or question, check out www.melrobbins.com