Integrating Our Anger and the “Pending Tasks” of Resentment, Irritability and Hatred - From the Trilogy “Essential Emotions”: Manual 3 of 3 -: Trilogy: "ESSENTIAL EMOTIONS - The True Way Back Home", #4

By Montse Hurtado Cancini

The Trilogy "ESSENTIAL EMOTIONS - The True Way Back Home" includes 3 manuals: "INTEGRATING OUR LOSSES", "INTEGRATING OUR FEARS" and "INTEGRATING OUR ANGER", all of them available in a single volume, or separately. This is the first set of manuals in my editorial series INNER CONNECTION IN 8 STEPS. The intention of this Trilogy is to facilitate and train the recognition, expression and healthy integration of 3 of our elemental emotions: SADNESS, FEAR and ANGER (this manual), so that your responses to the situations that trigger these experiences in you, can be conscious, coherent and, therefore, healthy, constructive and "evolutionary". My approach, Inner Connection, privileges the value of our elemental nature, in whose codes are inscribed the guides of our coherent and healthy responses to each situation, especially those in which our emotionality has a leading role and function. This is the basis of the concepts, reflections and practices to which I invite you.
Why do I use the expressions "to integrate", "integrating"? Well, "Integration" is a word that is commonly defined as "the process of combining into a whole, into a single unit", which, ultimately, is what this series is about: returning to our true home, to who we truly are, linking together the whole pieces that configures us, from our origins and our passage through life. As I will tell you in the Introduction of this manual, from my point of view, achieving this, in a conscious and respectful way, is one of the most important bases of our psychological health and well-being: our coherence.
Regarding the specific objective of this manual, the idea is to manage healthy and coherently (with respect to our elemental nature and circumstances) the momentum of ANGER: the "coherent emotion" that requires us to act in an energetic and focused way, in favor of what it is fair, dignified and / or intensely required, in every challenging situation that disrespects and / or violates our territory, integrity, dignity, or imprisons or frustrates us. For this you have the first 3 chapters dedicated to reflections on the related basic concepts, and then you have the step-by-step in chapter 4, that will guide your practices. Additionally, you can request the step-by-step of this manual in a personalized audio version, with your name, which will facilitate your internal connection exercises, visualizations, conscious breathing and other practices. I will send this last resource to you, on demand.
I hope this reading can represent a significant contribution to suggest my readers to undertake the deeply healing task of recognizing important aspects of our elemental nature, comprehending our attachments and other basic tendencies, respecting our times and processes of internal change, and from there, choose and create our way of life in an increasingly sentient, conscious, genuine and fullness way.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Montse Hurtado Cancini
• Release date: Dec 21, 2021
• ISBN: 9781005754716

Montse Hurtado Cancini

FROM VERY EARLY in my life, I have dedicated myself to exploring the principles that govern the wonderful human psyche, the intangible flow of its energy between rationality and irrationality, its earthiness and its transcendence. In this path, my intention has always been focused on discovering fertile ways to facilitate integral health and well-being, which progressively lead to the fullness and fulfillment of each being. And it is precisely on this path that I increasingly understand and strengthen my conviction that learning to connect inwardly and know ourselves offers us the most valid and precise keys to many of the issues that concern us in our lives. On these bases I lay the 4 keys of my approach, which I explain in detail in my Blog: https://citaconmontse.blogspot.com/ and in the Introduction of the books of my series Inner Connection and Inner Connection in 8 Steps (available here at Smashwords and on other platforms). So I have decided to share with you the immense variety of experiences and resources that I have integrated throughout my 28 years of service as a facilitator, Psychologist and Integral Psychotherapist. Likewise, I offer you my books, sessions and courses, in various areas of support for your psychological health, expansion of consciousness, well-being and personal / spiritual development. Professionalism, companionship, empathy, creativity and dedication, are values that guide our sharing in the various environments of my work, from the respect that every noble human being inspires us. I invite you to be part of our community, which I wish and hope will become a fertile point of convergence of our diverse perspectives, growing together, from mutual support, benefit and well-being... contributing integration initiatives to our world, connected from our constructive differences, freedom of being, tolerance and mutual respect. Visit me, check my publications, contact me: I am at your disposal 😊

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SERIES: INNER CONNECTION IN 8 STEPS

TRILOGY: ESSENTIAL EMOTIONS - MANUAL 3 OF 3 -

INTEGRATING OUR ANGER

And the pending tasks of Resentment, Irritability and Hatred

A guide to understand and validate your ANGER, the emotion that allows you to channel your vital energy, acting with impetus and focus in favor of what is coherent, fair and worthy in each challenging situation that disrespects and / or violates your territory, your integrity, your dignity ... from an evolutionary perspective: your Inner Connection

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THIS IS THE 3rd MANUAL OF THE TRILOGY ESSENTIAL EMOTIONS- THE TRUE WAY BACK HOME

IN ADDITION TO THE ELECTRONIC VERSION OF THIS MANUAL, YOU HAVE AVAILABLE ITS PHYSICAL VERSION

ALSO, YOU HAVE THE COMPLETE ESSENTIAL EMOTIONS TRILOGY, WHICH INCLUDES, IN A SINGLE VOLUME, THE 3 MANUALS OF THE SERIES: INTEGRATING OUR LOSSES, INTEGRATING OUR FEARS AND INTEGRATING OUR ANGER (this manual)

ALL IN DIGITAL AND PHYSICAL VERSIONS

IN THIS LINK YOU HAVE SEVERAL OPTIONS FOR PURCHASING THESE BOOKS IN ENGLISH AND SPANISH:

MONTSE HURTADO CANCINI EDITORIAL LINE – ENGLISH AND SPANISH

… ALWAYS IN FAVOR OF YOUR EVOLUTIONARY DEVELOPMENT, YOUR HEALTH AND YOUR WELL-BEING

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Published by Montse Hurtado Cancini

Psychologist graduated in 1992, Psychotherapist and Inner Coach©

Registered and certified by the Federation of Psychologists Vzla. under no.: 4212

Copyright © 2021 Montse Hurtado Cancini

1st. Edition: October 2021

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TABLE OF CONTENTS.

Acknowledgements

SYNTHESIS

How to use this book

Note regarding the sequence of steps

Practical suggestion

Can you do step by step exercises accompanied?

INTRODUCTION

PART I.- BRIEF BASIC CONCEPTS

CHAPTER 1.- SENSATIONS AND EMOTIONS: OUR ELEMENTARY LANGUAGE

1.1. What is an emotion?

1.2. How to reverse dysfunctionality in functionality?

1.3. Conscious breathing and catharsis: two elementary techniques of inner connection

1.4. How to identify your own emotional management capacity or the requirement for professional assistance?

CHAPTER 2.- EXPANSION OF CONSCIOUSNESS AND EVOLUTIONARY CHANGES

PART II: INTEGRATING OUR ANGER AND THE PENDING TASKS OF RESENTMENT, IRRITABILITY AND HATRED

CHAPTER 3.- ANGER AND RAGE: VITAL FORCES IN ACTION

3.1. Definition of terms

3.2. The neurobiology of anger, and more ...

3.3. Life story, limits, and the problem: Active acceptance vs. Submission / permission

3.4. When should we stop to observe and comprehend the message of our anger?

3.5. Our anger and its pending tasks: Resentment, irritability, hatred ...

3.6. Managing anger in relationships: first the internal dialogue and then converse with the other one... Not against the other one!

3.7. The good anger and the healthy coherence: for a life without resentment, nor hatred ...

CHAPTER 4.- INTEGRATING OUR ANGER: INNER CONNECTION IN 8 STEPS

STEP 1

STEP 2

STEP 3

STEP 4

STEP 5

STEP 6

STEP 7

STEP 8

FINAL REFLECTIONS: GOING BACK HOME… BEING YOURSELF

ABOUT ME

CONTACT ME

ANNEX

ENDNOTES

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Acknowledgements

I thank the teachers of my university training, who from their genuinely warm disposition and respectful of the particularities and requirements of each of their students, in a fresh environment of freedom to be yourself and choose, not only gave me knowledge and professional experience, but also cherished values: empathy, solidarity, tolerance, openness, seriousness, professionalism, constructive criticism, excellence, creativity ... connection ... all integrated into my personal commitment to the Path of Consciousness.

I am grateful to the Humanist, Gestalt and Jungian Psychology Schools, whose diverse perspectives impregnate my professional approach and life values.

I thank my daring colleagues, such as Norberto Levy, Walter Riso, Sigrid Lange, Leslie Greenberg, among many other brilliant researchers, teachers and psychotherapists of the Academy, as well as the contributions of Antonio Damasio in Neurobiology and Daniel Coleman in the global diffusion of the concept and applications of Emotional Intelligence, who accompany me in the audacity to share interesting and committed writings that recover, decipher and dignify the nobility of our nature and its valuable elemental resources: our sensations and emotions.

In a very special way, I want to thank the invaluable work of Benjamín Sanchez Mujica, my precious teacher and best friend for two decades, who in a patient, conscientious and detailed way, has made the reading and suggestions of the English versions in every work of mine that he has read. May Life bless him with health and happiness in every step he takes.

Finally, I deeply appreciate each flash of Consciousness that has emerged in my path, especially in its darkest stretches, enlightening me in each present moment, allowing me to recognize, understand and embrace my own essential strengths, and from there, share each fruit of my harvest of life.

My best wishes to you, dear friend.

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SYNTHESIS

The Trilogy ESSENTIAL EMOTIONS - The True Way Back Home includes 3 manuals: INTEGRATING OUR LOSSES, INTEGRATING OUR FEARS and INTEGRATING OUR ANGER, all of them available in a single volume, or separately. This is the first set of manuals in my editorial series INNER CONNECTION IN 8 STEPS. The intention of this Trilogy is to facilitate and train the recognition, expression and healthy integration of 3 of our elemental emotions: SADNESS, FEAR and ANGER (this manual), so that your responses to the situations that trigger these experiences in you, can be conscious, coherent and, therefore, healthy, constructive and evolutionary. My approach, Inner Connection, privileges the value of our elemental nature, in whose codes are inscribed the guides of our coherent and healthy responses to each situation, especially those in which our emotionality has a leading role and function. This is the basis of the concepts, reflections and practices to which I invite you.

Why do I use the expressions to integrate, integrating? Well, Integration is a word that is commonly defined as the process of combining into a whole, into a single unit, which, ultimately, is what this series is about: returning to our true home, to who we truly are, linking together the whole pieces that configures us, from our origins and our passage through life. As I will tell you in the Introduction of this manual, from my point of view, achieving this, in a conscious and respectful way, is one of the most important bases of our psychological health and well-being: our COHERENCE.

Regarding the specific objective of this manual, the idea is to manage healthy and coherently (with respect to our elemental nature and circumstances) the momentum of ANGER: the coherent emotion that requires us to act in an energetic and focused way, in favor of what it is fair, dignified and / or intensely required, in every challenging situation that disrespects and / or violates our territory, integrity, dignity, or imprisons or frustrates us. For this you have the first 3 chapters dedicated to reflections on the related basic concepts, and then you have the step-by-step in chapter 4, that will guide your practices.

I hope this reading can represent a significant contribution to suggest my readers to undertake the deeply healing task of recognizing important aspects of our elemental nature, comprehending our attachments and other basic tendencies, respecting our times and processes of internal change, and from there, choose and create our way of life in an increasingly sentient, conscious, genuine and fullness way.

How to use this book

In this book I describe my approach and the associated subject areas, both in the INTRODUCTION and in chapter 2: EXPANSION OF CONSCIOUSNESS AND EVOLUTIONARY CHANGES.

Likewise, in chapters 1 and 3, respectively: SENSATIONS AND EMOTIONS, OUR ELEMENTARY LANGUAGE, and ANGER AND RAGE: VITAL FORCES IN ACTION) I fully describe the biological nature, function and meaning of each of these powerful internal resources called basic emotions or elemental emotions, as well as the characteristics of their coherent and healthy experience, how we learn to repress them or distort their expression, and the consequences of this in the quality of our personal life and relational.

My intention is that you always have at hand the context, the reasons and key concepts of this therapeutic work proposal, which I place at your disposal to facilitate your understanding of its bases, in case you wish to delve into it. Hence, the reading of these chapters is optional.

If you choose, you can go directly to the STEP BY STEP that you will get in chapter 4: INTEGRATING OUR ANGER… and begin to work on the conscious, coherent and healthy management of it, in each life scenario that is a priority for you at this time, and whenever you require this guide.

What you choose, according to what you feel corresponds to your case and circumstances, will surely be your best option.

Through each STEP BY STEP you will learn to read the message of your ANGER, and from there I will facilitate the recapitulation and integration