Positive Affirmations or Coherent Thoughts? Perhaps, Your Path of Healing, Well-Being and Fulfillment Requires More than Inspiring Phrases and Looking at the Glass "Half Full"... Or Half Empty

By Montse Hurtado Cancini

In the sea of concepts, invitations and "imperatives" of the current mass media world, I have observed with concern how some doses of truth regarding how our mind works, are presented intertwined with distorted messages that lack valid foundation. My experience in consulting, especially in the last 10 years, alerts me with concern regarding the impact that these trends have on the experience and behavior of a large numbers of people consuming such messages.
On this particular point, I have no doubt that miracles eventually do occur from the use of positive affirmation techniques, probably due to favorable circumstances that transcend luck... I have seen it... I have also observed that, on a smaller scale, in a mental-emotional field that tends to balance, certain types of affirmations work effectively, built according to the keys that I describe in chapter 4 of this book, achieving favorable changes in attitude, behavior, decisions and / or relationships. However, these techniques are not as effective in life scenarios that are simply not conducive, making it difficult to achieve what the person wants, and / or for people who are prone to anxiety and/or whose life histories contain affliction-laden chapters, conditions that require to be addressed and managed in a totally different way, preferably following guided psychotherapy programs by the health professional accredited for it.
What I emphasize here, I reiterate, is that NOT IN ALL CASES THE MAGIC OF POSITIVE THINKING HAPPENS. Rather, what I have validated through my years of experience and professional practice is that, based on our personal (internal) configuration: capabilities, conditioning, affinities, propensities and decision-making style, we generate certain situations in our lives (consciously or not), of which we can change the course (or, at least, improve it a little) if we actively and adequately intervene in this internal configuration that defines us. Therefore, I insist, I find counterproductive those tendencies that trivialize the complexity of what all this is about.
I have no doubt about the favorable intention of many of the initiatives that spread overwhelmingly across the planet; my contribution is only intended to offer a slightly deeper understanding of some of the distortions that do not fit well with our psyche health and life processes.
It is for these and other reasons that, for a long time, I have decided to use the concept of "COHERENT THOUGHT", instead of "POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS", to work on the reconduction of some of the processes of our rational-reflective mind, in a more consonant way with our internal realities and different life scenarios.
Soon you will have the "ADDENDUM" of this book, to delve into the reflections and therapeutic practices derived from this approach.
I hope this reading can represent a significant contribution to invite my readers to undertake the profoundly healing task of recognizing important aspects of our elemental nature, embracing our basic tendencies, respecting our times and processes of internal change, and from there choosing walk our path of life, in an increasingly sentient, conscious, genuine and fullfilling way.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Montse Hurtado Cancini
• Release date: Mar 8, 2022
• ISBN: 9781005896522

Montse Hurtado Cancini

FROM VERY EARLY in my life, I have dedicated myself to exploring the principles that govern the wonderful human psyche, the intangible flow of its energy between rationality and irrationality, its earthiness and its transcendence. In this path, my intention has always been focused on discovering fertile ways to facilitate integral health and well-being, which progressively lead to the fullness and fulfillment of each being. And it is precisely on this path that I increasingly understand and strengthen my conviction that learning to connect inwardly and know ourselves offers us the most valid and precise keys to many of the issues that concern us in our lives. On these bases I lay the 4 keys of my approach, which I explain in detail in my Blog: https://citaconmontse.blogspot.com/ and in the Introduction of the books of my series Inner Connection and Inner Connection in 8 Steps (available here at Smashwords and on other platforms). So I have decided to share with you the immense variety of experiences and resources that I have integrated throughout my 28 years of service as a facilitator, Psychologist and Integral Psychotherapist. Likewise, I offer you my books, sessions and courses, in various areas of support for your psychological health, expansion of consciousness, well-being and personal / spiritual development. Professionalism, companionship, empathy, creativity and dedication, are values that guide our sharing in the various environments of my work, from the respect that every noble human being inspires us. I invite you to be part of our community, which I wish and hope will become a fertile point of convergence of our diverse perspectives, growing together, from mutual support, benefit and well-being... contributing integration initiatives to our world, connected from our constructive differences, freedom of being, tolerance and mutual respect. Visit me, check my publications, contact me: I am at your disposal 😊

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INNER CONNECTION SERIES - SPECIAL VOLUME

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS or…

COHERENT THOUGHTS?

Perhaps, your path of healing, well-being and fulfillment requires more than inspiring phrases and looking at the glass half full... or half empty

A brief guide to reflect and train ways of thought that will allow you to perceive your internal realities and your life scenarios in coherence

…from your Inner Connection

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THIS IS A SPECIAL VOLUME OF THE INNER CONNECTION EDITORIAL SERIES

IN ADDITION TO THE ELECTRONIC VERSION OF THIS BOOK, YOU HAVE AVAILABLE ITS PHYSICAL VERSION

AND, SOON, THE ADDENDUM:

THE PRACTICAL GUIDE THAT WILL MAKE IT EASIER FOR YOU TO CONTINUE TRAINING FORMS OF REFLECTION THAT WILL ALLOW YOU TO UNDERSTAND YOUR INTERNAL REALITIES AND YOUR LIFE SCENARIOS IN COHERENCE, PROVIDING YOU WITH VALUABLE RESOURCES TO SELF-DIRECT DEEP THERAPEUTIC PROCESSES

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Published by Montse Hurtado Cancini

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Copyright © 2021 Montse Hurtado Cancini

First electronic edition March 2021

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

SYNTHESIS

INTRODUCTION

1. A LOOK AT THE CONTRIBUTIONS OF PSYCHOLOGY AND OTHER DISCIPLINES… BESIDES SOME DISTORTIONS

COGNITIVE PSYCHOLOGY

POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY

THE PRACTICES OF CENTERING, QUIETNESS AND WELL-BEING

2. SOME TRENDS THAT MAY GENERATE INCOHERENCES, AND THEIR CONSEQUENCES

INCOHERENCES IN EXPERIENCE: HELIUM BALLOONS

INCOHERENCES IN THE PERCEPTION OF THE OTHER AND RELATIONSHIPS

INCOHERENCES IN SPEECH AND ITS REFERENTS

REGARDING THE PERCEPTION ABOUT HOW THE UNIVERSE, THE WORLD, AND THE HUMAN BEING WORK

3. THE DISCONNECTED STATE: EUPHORIA, LOSS OF PERSPECTIVE, FRUSTRATION, DEPRESSION…

HOW AND WHY WE HAVE DISCONNECTED

4. POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS or COHERENT THOUGHTS?

WHAT ARE POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS?

WHY IS IT NOT POSSIBLE TO SUSTAIN A POSITIVE ATTITUDE CONSTANTLY?

COHERENT MESSAGES TO YOU, FROM YOUR INNER SELF

EXERCISE 1: POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS VS. COHERENT THOUGHTS

TRANSFORM POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS INTO LIFE PROJECTS…

EXERCISE 2: TRANSFORM POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS INTO LIFE PROJECTS

5. RELATIONAL LEVEL: POSITIVE COMMUNICATION vs. COHERENT COMMUNICATION

WHAT IS EMOTIONAL VALIDATION AND HOW TO PRACTICE IT

WHAT IS EMPATHY FOR?

EXERCISE 3: POSITIVE COMMUNICATION VS COHERENT COMMUNICATION

6. SPECIAL CONSIDERATIONS ADAPTED TO PEOPLE LIVING IN OR COMING FROM DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES

WHAT IS A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY?

COMPARATIVE DESCRIPTION: FAMILY WITH A TENDENCY TOWARDS COHERENCE vs. DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY

SOME EXERCISES TO WORK ON THE COHERENCE OF YOUR INNER DIALOGS -REMOVING DYSFUNCTIONALITY-

ABOUT LOVE AND UNCONDITIONAL RELATIONSHIPS… IS IT TRUE THAT LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL?

7. WHERE I COME FROM… HOW I UNDERSTAND AND LIVE MY SPIRITUALITY

Psychologist, Psychotherapist, and Inner Coach

How I have arrived at my work approach

CONTACT ME

APPENDIX- HOW TO KNOW IF A THERAPEUTIC PROPOSAL COMES FROM QUALIFIED SOURCES IN YOUR AREA OF REFERENCE

ANNEX- INNER CONNECTION EDITORIAL SERIES: A NEW APPROACH TO MANAGING YOUR LIFE PROCESSES, FROM YOURSELF

ENDNOTES

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Write to me at [e-mail] to request the information you require regarding my services, projects, and available editions and new titles in English and Spanish.

Likewise, if you wish to send me which thematic areas are of your interest, in order to expand my editorial series, it will be a pleasure to receive your suggestions. It is of great interest for me to maintain direct contact with my readers and followers, to know their preferences and specific requirements.

To know more about me, my approach and the internal work resources that I offer, I invite you to my Blog:

https://citaconmontse.blogspot.com/

You are pleasantly welcome!

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I deeply appreciate every flash of Consciousness that has emerged on my path, especially in its darkest stretches, enlightening me in each present, allowing me to recognize, understand and embrace my own essential strengths and weaknesses, and from there, share each fruit of my professional and life harvest.

My best wishes to you, dear friend.

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SYNTHESIS

In the sea of concepts, invitations and imperatives of the current mass media world, I have observed with concern how some doses of truth regarding how our mind works, are presented intertwined with distorted messages that lack valid foundation. My experience in consulting, especially in the last 10