Losses, Crisis and Evolutionary Duels - About the Real Lose and Winning in Life: Trilogy: "ESSENTIAL EMOTIONS - The True Way Back Home", #5

By Montse Hurtado Cancini

Through the reading of this book, I intend to accompany you on the path of reflection, understanding and validation of any situation of significant loss in your life, both in the literal sense of the expression, such as the physical losses of our valuable relationships or precious goods (e.g. due to the disappearance of those people we really esteem), such as those losses of a "symbolic" nature, like those of dignity, some "intangible" personal value or the sense of life itself, which I have dedicated myself to studying and accompanying in their particular processes. From my experience as a Psychologist and Psychotherapist, through these pages, I describe my experience in terms of: 1. How these transits (our grieving processes in terms of our tangible or symbolic losses) are carried out from similar internal places, of course varying such experiences in intensity and duration, according to the essential and experiential configuration of each one, and 2. How can we facilitate these processes, allowing us to follow the phases that correspond to the course of acceptance, integration, and closure of each cycle of loss. In addition, I include a couple of chapters with the aim of exposing the differences between "emotional pain vs. suffering" and "resistance vs. evolutionary path", and how the non-consistent resolution of these internal conditions can lead to so-called somatization processes. Finally, I dedicate a special chapter to what I have defined and included in this topic, as a very particular case of mourning: those processes that occur as a consequence of the loss of meaning of one's own existence and how this can lead to strong depressive tendencies.
I hope this reading can represent a significant contribution to inviting my readers to undertake the profoundly healing task of recognizing important aspects of our elemental nature, embracing our attachments and other basic tendencies, respecting our times and processes of internal change, and from there choose to travel our path of life, in an increasingly sentient, conscious, genuine and full way.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Montse Hurtado Cancini
• Release date: Jun 27, 2022
• ISBN: 9781005498351

Montse Hurtado Cancini

FROM VERY EARLY in my life, I have dedicated myself to exploring the principles that govern the wonderful human psyche, the intangible flow of its energy between rationality and irrationality, its earthiness and its transcendence. In this path, my intention has always been focused on discovering fertile ways to facilitate integral health and well-being, which progressively lead to the fullness and fulfillment of each being. And it is precisely on this path that I increasingly understand and strengthen my conviction that learning to connect inwardly and know ourselves offers us the most valid and precise keys to many of the issues that concern us in our lives. On these bases I lay the 4 keys of my approach, which I explain in detail in my Blog: https://citaconmontse.blogspot.com/ and in the Introduction of the books of my series Inner Connection and Inner Connection in 8 Steps (available here at Smashwords and on other platforms). So I have decided to share with you the immense variety of experiences and resources that I have integrated throughout my 28 years of service as a facilitator, Psychologist and Integral Psychotherapist. Likewise, I offer you my books, sessions and courses, in various areas of support for your psychological health, expansion of consciousness, well-being and personal / spiritual development. Professionalism, companionship, empathy, creativity and dedication, are values that guide our sharing in the various environments of my work, from the respect that every noble human being inspires us. I invite you to be part of our community, which I wish and hope will become a fertile point of convergence of our diverse perspectives, growing together, from mutual support, benefit and well-being... contributing integration initiatives to our world, connected from our constructive differences, freedom of being, tolerance and mutual respect. Visit me, check my publications, contact me: I am at your disposal 😊

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INNER CONNECTION SERIES -SPECIAL VOLUME

LOSSES, CRISIS AND EVOLUTIONARY DUELS

About the Real Lose and Winning in Life

A guide to understand and go through any personal process of tangible and/or symbolic loss, from an evolutionary perspective…

Starting from your Inner Connection

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YOU CAN EXPAND AND DEEPER THE REFLECTIONS OF THIS EBOOK WITH THE CONCEPTS AND PRACTICES OF THE MANUAL: INTEGRATING OUR LOSSES AND THE PENDING TASKS OF OUR SADNESS: BITTERNESS, DEPRESSION... AVAILABLE IN DIGITAL AND PHYSICAL VERSIONS TOO

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…ALWAYS IN FAVOR OF YOUR EVOLUTIONARY DEVELOPMENT, YOUR HEALTH AND YOUR WELL-BEING

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Published by Montse Hurtado Cancini

Psychologist graduated in 1992, Psychotherapist and Inner Coach©

Registered and certified by the Federation of Psychologists Vzla. under no.: 4212

Copyright © 2021 Montse Hurtado Cancini

1st. Edition: March 2021

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

SYNTHESIS

INTRODUCTION

1. THE REAL LOSS AND WINNING IN LIFE

2. WHAT DO I CALL EVOLUTIONARY DUELS?

2.1. LOSSES AND CRISIS

2.2. EXPANSION OF CONSCIOUSNESS AND EVOLUTIONARY PROCESSES: AN ANALOGY, FROM MY EXPERIENCE

2.3. EVOLUTIONARY DUELS

3. TYPES OF LOSS

3.1. AFFECTIVE/RELATIONAL LOSSES

3.2. LOSS OF PERSONAL SKILLS

3.3. WORK/PRODUCTIVITY LOSSES

3.4. MATERIAL LOSSES

3.5. LOSSES OF SYMBOLIC INTANGIBLES

4. TYPES OF DUELS

4.1. TYPES OF DUELS ACCORDING TO THE MOMENT OF OCCURRENCE OF THE LOSS

4.2. TYPES OF DUELS ACCORDING TO THE ACCEPTANCE PROCESS

4.3. TYPES OF DUELS, ACCORDING TO THE DURATION OF THE LOSS

4.4. TYPES OF DUELS, ACCORDING TO THE PERCEPTION OF RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE LOSS

4.5. HYPER EMPATHY... THE LOSS OF OTHERS LIVED AS YOUR OWN

5. EMOTIONAL PAIN vs. SUFFERING --- RESISTANCE vs. EVOLUTIONARY PATH

5.1. FROM EMOTIONAL PAIN TO SUFFERING

5.2. FROM RESISTANCE TO THE EVOLUTIONARY PATH

6. SOMATIZATIONS: SOME PSYCHOCORPORAL INDICATORS

7. PHASES OF DUELS

Initial: Concussion, confusion and/or shock

Anxiety to recover what was lost

Non-acceptance of loss and DENIAL

Resistance, anger, and blame

Fictitious negotiation

Hopelessness, disorganization, and beginning of acceptance

Passive longing and depression

Reorganization

Integration and acceptance of loss

8. SOME SPECIFICITIES OF DUEL PROCESS IN INTANGIBLE LOSS

9. A SPECIAL CHAPTER: EXISTENTIAL DUELS AND DEPRESSION… BEYOND THE SYMBOLOGY, THE MEANING OF LIFE

SEARCHING FOR THE LOST MEANING OF LIFE

ACTIVE SEARCH FOR MEANING

NOOGENIC DEPRESSION

10. FINAL REFLECTIONS: About the Real Lose and Winning in Life

10.1. WHO ARE WE?

10.2. THE IMPERATIVE OF SUCCESS IN OUR TIMES VS. THE ROAD OF LIFE

10.3. FINALLY… WHAT DO WE GAIN BY LOSING AND UNDERTAKING OUR EVOLUTIONARY DUELS?

ABOUT ME

CONTACT ME

ANNEX

ENDNOTES

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I deeply appreciate every flash of Consciousness that has emerged on my path, especially in its darkest stretches, enlightening me in each present moment, allowing me to recognize, understand and embrace my own essential strengths, and from there, share with you every fruit of my harvest obtained through my professional and life experience. I am honored by your receptivity and accompanying you at this time of your journey.

My best wishes to you, dear friend.

SYNTHESIS

Through the reading of this book, I intend to accompany you on the path of reflection, understanding and validation of any situation of significant loss in your life, both in the literal sense of the expression, such as the physical losses of our valuable relationships or precious goods (e.g. due to the disappearance of those people we really esteem), such as those losses of a symbolic nature, like those of dignity, some intangible personal value or the sense of life itself, which I have dedicated myself to studying and accompanying in their particular processes. From my experience as a Psychologist and Psychotherapist, through these pages, I describe my experience in terms of: 1. How these transits (our grieving processes in terms of our tangible or symbolic losses) are carried out from similar internal places, of course varying such experiences in intensity and duration, according to the essential and experiential configuration of each one, and 2. How can we facilitate these processes, allowing us to follow the phases that correspond to the course of acceptance, integration, and closure of each cycle of loss. In addition, I include a couple of chapters with the aim of exposing the differences between emotional pain vs. suffering and resistance vs. evolutionary path, and how the non-consistent resolution of these internal conditions can lead to so-called somatization processes. Finally, I dedicate a special chapter to what I have defined and included in this topic, as a very particular case of mourning: those processes that occur as a consequence of the loss of meaning of one's own existence and