What if Mistakes Were Productive ?: A Buddhist Perspective on Guilt
By Anile Trinlé
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An impactful and experienced French Buddhist nun clarifies the Buddhist view on guilt.
The suffering of guilt takes its roots in the judgments we form about our errors. Yet, mistakes are bound to happen, be they of a cognitive or afflictive nature. They are born out of our emotional and imprecise representations that imprison us in our own version of reality. This is not really a problem as long as we are aware of it.
Clarifying our relationship to mistakes leads us to being less trapped in our own judgements, which will enable us to turn our errors into material for transformation.
Through the methods taught by the Buddha, especially meditation practice, we clarify our relationship to afflictive states of mind. This will deepen our capacity for reflection and broaden our discernment. Thus, our out-look on guilt will naturally change and we will find the resources necessary to adequately cope with everyday situations.
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What if Mistakes Were Productive ? - Anile Trinlé
Preface
I met Anila Trinlé more than twenty years ago. She was not yet a Buddhist nun at that point in time and was a volunteer accompanying patients at the Palliative Care Unit at the Paul Brousse Hospital in Villejuif where I worked as a psychiatrist. It is an exceptional place where the staff does everything in their capacity to enable those at the end of their lives to bring their existences to a close in the best conditions; the staff eases patients’ pain and keeps their symptoms under control to the greatest extent possible. Nevertheless, in this place of final moments of life, at times suffering is not so much in the body as in the heart. Often, the weight of regret—things done and not done, said and not said—stagnates there. With the grief and remorse that they could have written their story differently, guilt sometimes possesses the mind and torments people to their last breaths.
How many times did Anila hear these regrets while at people’s sides? Those lost opportunities to say something or to forgive, those if onlys that might have made all the difference between peace and the bitter taste of a relationship damaged forever that death no longer allows the time to repair? I have the intuition that this experience in palliative care gave Anila a well-honed insight into the impact of guilt on a human life. The roots of her authenticity are evident when she speaks to us with so much depth and humanity. She shares with us this knowledge that she acquired among those whose existences are coming to a close, as well as her own life experience that—like all human beings—is not free from mistakes, tangents, and regrets.
In this beautiful book that she offers us today, Anila connects the river of her personal journey with the majestic flow of the Buddha’s teaching, bringing together her own reflections with this inexhaustible source of wisdom. The Buddha’s teaching is demanding. Precision is required to understand it. Detailed and subtle knowledge of the concepts the Buddha entrusted to us is a component of the dimension of wisdom. This understanding then develops into the nondiscursive knowledge that arises from meditation. On this basis—in the space of trusting abandon that meditation opens—we are able to let this knowledge sink into us, to go beyond even logic and willpower. Clarity—ultimate understanding of the Buddha’s teaching—emerges from the meeting of these two worlds of knowledge. This clarity becomes evident in the appropriateness of our thoughts, our speech, and our actions that embody our compassion at work in the world. For is not the union of Wisdom and Compassion the essence of the spiritual path, as the great masters teach us?
As a Westerner, a mother, and a courageous woman who has been through the storms of life, Anila Trinlé sheds light on the concepts of regret, error, and guilt, which are often unclear to us. She gives us a clear and intelligible explanation of the at times complex and difficult-to-grasp ideas of the Buddha’s teaching. In her words, they become accessible and transparent—directly applicable in our daily lives.
As a psychiatrist, I am too often confronted with the suffering generated by guilt not to recognize the relevance of this book. Our world needs such writing—to find other paths than those that society offers in the face of suffering based on guilt. To point out other paths of easing this pain, other ways of honoring who we are—free from the low self-esteem—or even self-hatred—that guilt feeds on.
Anila Trinlé gives us precious keys. Let us soak in her teaching. It needs time to saturate us in order to reveal its true color, its true depth. It is up to us to open the door and walk the path. For, as the Buddha said, I cannot give you enlightenment. You alone can do that.
So, why wait?
Give yourself this greatest gift!
Christophe Fauré¹
1Psychiatrist, psychotherapist, and grief specialist. He has published numerous works on the subject with Albin Michel Publishing (in French).
Introduction
Our feelings of guilt exist in dependence on our relationship to making mistakes. We encounter these feelings—which are a source of suffering and relational difficulty—often and in any given situation. Whether there is factual guilt or not, this suffering can occur and lead us to lose confidence in ourselves and develop low self-esteem.
In the Buddha’s teaching, the Dharma, there is no explanation or presentation of guilt. Not that Buddhists do not experience feelings of guilt, but rather the way that the Buddhist perspective deals with emotions or afflictions offers another approach. Furthermore, the notion of inherently immoral errors—an emotional