Life After a Terrible Relationship: The Informative Version

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Brent Howard seemed cursed to have gone through the things he did in his life. Since he was a very fast learner, he benefited from those things as wellby learning to pay more attention to the things he was getting himself into when dealing with a relationship. Even though he seemed to have been cursed, it was all a blessing in disguise from the beginning of his life journey of all the things that happened to him. He became a blessing to most people he came in contact with in trying to help them not make the same mistake he did. The information in this book is for the intent to help someone else help themselves. In the words of Brent Howard, Use your thinker first.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: May 21, 2015
• ISBN: 9781503557963

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Hello again to all my supporters. Since the release of my first book, Life after a Terrible Relationship: The Story Version, my life has begun to transform even more than it had before the release. My musical group, Nothin Alike, has taken a more positive step toward success. My business life has increased tremendously, and I’ve had the honor of meeting some very inspiring people throughout my journey. I couldn’t ask for a better life. (I could, but I’m satisfied with the one I have.) I’ve been inspired by many to continuously inspire others. God is at the center of my life and has always been. I’m following the path where he’s leading me. I would like for anyone reading this to know that by putting God as number 1 in your life, not only are you a supporter of mine, but I’m a fan of yours as well, for that reason alone. Until you hear from me again—whether it’s my next book, my next album, or my first movie—continue to use your thinker, continue to be a blessing to others, and continue to thank God for all he does for you. I love you all.

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Based on the

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Life Events of

Brent Howard

My books are designed for readers and nonreaders. Whether it’s fiction, nonfiction, a mystery, or informative, I write them in a style that I hope is easy to understand. For any of my supporters, I pray that you somehow get inspiration from my work because I mainly do what I do with the intent to help. For anyone who hasn’t read a copy of my first book, Life after a Terrible Relationship (The Story Version), it would be a blessing and a great idea if you did so before you read this one (just a thought) 38090.jpg . If I’m never able to tell you thanks for your support face-to-face, I would like for you to know that you are greatly appreciated. I put God first in everything I do, and may God bless you if you are a person who is indeed affected by something in this book. With that being said, enjoy!

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W elcome to Life after a Terrible Relationship , where if you’ve already read the story version, you know that things are a lot more peaceful. Well, at least in Howard’s case. As mentioned, there are millions of people across the world who can relate to Brent Howard—not only with just his terrible relationship but with his life in general.

Some can relate to having a life-changing disease, and some can relate to having an abusive relationship. Some people can relate to losing their innocence before they ever wanted to. Many people can relate to being bullied at some point in their lives, not knowing how to deal with it. However you can relate, this book is to help you understand how that may affect your relationship life.

Like many, Howard grew up a fairly normal kid, with both his parents and three older brothers who showed him tough love. He was very playful and, like any kid, curious at times. Had he remained that way up until he started dating, who’s to say how differently his relationship life could’ve turned out?

Howard’s disease, being a diabetic, surely had its effect on his relationship life. Being that no one in his family had the disease, it was brand-new to him when he was diagnosed. With him thinking for so long that diabetes was going to kill him at an early age, it made him act out of character and have very little feeling toward anything. Usually when a person is convinced that they may not have long to live, they sometimes want to live life to the fullest, so to speak, and do things they have never done before. In Howard’s case, it was to simply have sex.

In a lot of cases, when losing your virginity (male or female), it’s usually with a person you’ve spent time with and grew to like. That person is usually the first person to really snatch a piece of your heart and hold on to it for a lifetime. Most people never forget about the first person they shared their innocence with.

Howard was no different. He never seemed to forget how disappointed he was after losing his virginity. He had a certain dislike for people who showed him signs of how his first was with him. It wasn’t more of him holding a grudge; it was more of him being reminded of things he didn’t like.

A female who is more aggressive than the male in a situation usually means she’s more experienced, and knows exactly what she wants and will stop at nothing to get it. That could be both good and bad. If you get a female who’s very demanding and is used to getting her way, she will more than likely have more control over the relationship than her mate. It was written and said to be true centuries before our time that, man was made to be head of household, and women were made to follow him. When the two are reversed, it is said that the man lacks confidence and is weak.

Before Howard met Trina, he seemed to be the ideal man, the aggressor, but he too fell weak to the appearance of her. Being able to hook someone whom you think is clearly physically out your league is flattering but, at the same time, overrated. Appearance will rarely ever keep someone happy. Just like a rerun, even if it’s your most favorite show, you’ll get tired of looking at it after so long.

Most times the things that originally attract you to a person when you first meet them are the same things you fall back on once there is nothing else left. You would want to hope that it is not ONLY something physical and that a new attraction is formed sometime within the relationship before it’s too late. Of course, no one wants someone they are not physically attracted to, but that shouldn’t be the main attraction.

How many times have you seen someone so physically attractive that not even your nervousness would keep you from starting a conversation with them? And shortly in that conversation, you realize exactly why that person must remain a beauty to the eye. Some people focus so much on their outer appearance to get the attention they want that they leave very little time to focus on the things they need, to keep the attention they want.

Let’s take Trina for instance. She was a standout eye-catcher, but she had very little things about her characteristics that were attractive enough to keep Howard happy. Unless it was pertaining to sex, she had terrible conversation. Most things she came up with to talk about mainly revolved around her, and if not, it was a complaint. She had a giving heart, but her giving had a motive behind it usually.

Howard, on the other hand, wasn’t the most attractive person in the line-up when it came to appearance, but he was pretty average. Howard captured most of his attention through conversation. He wasn’t very talkative. He just usually knew what to say and when. Some people confuse a person who talks all the time with a person who has something to say. It’s a big difference between the two. Howard also had a giving heart—only difference was, it was genuine and he didn’t expect anything in return.

Speaking of expectations, it’s never a good idea to expect anything. Expectations are the easiest way to be built up and then let down. Let’s say, for instance, your spouse has a set schedule at their job and gets off at 10:00 p.m. every night, and the distance between their home and their job is only about twelve to fifteen minutes. Usually,