What He Really Thinks : Insight into a Guy's Mind

By Michael Russo

A fun, must-have book giving an insight into the male mind which will help you understand how men think. Are you wasting your time on a deadbeat guy who won't commit? Is the guy you're dating playing you and the field at the same time? The main reason I wrote this book was for my female friends. I painfully watched them as they kept getting into relationships that I knew they were doomed from the start. hey, dating is tough enough as it is, understanding how men are will help. Written completely by a guy, this book provides an insight into how a guy thinks and covers the following: Where are all the good men? Do surveys really tell us what guys want? Can a guy and a girl just be friends? Does living together spell commitment? What men really want in bed? and much, much more.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: May 4, 2011
• ISBN: 9781257723928

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Men: Just Who Are We?

To know us is to love us?

Many women tend to have the impression that most men are extremely complex and much too difficult to fully understand. Others believe that men are so similar that it’s often hard to tell them apart. But, before we dive into exploring the depths of a man and see what winds up the gears of the male brain, it’s important that we take a moment to examine mankind itself. According to Webster’s dictionary, man is defined as the following:

Man (1): an individual human; especially: an adult male human (2): a man belonging to a particular category (as by birth, residence or occupation) — usually used in combination (3): husband (4): lover b: the human race : humankind c: a bipedal primate mammal (Homo sapiens).

Granted, this definition may be quite accurate in its basic translation, but some women feel that it lacks some of the more interesting and colorful aspects of the holder of the XY-chromosome. A more descriptive definition may include the following:

Man (1): a pig, always a jerk, continually an ass; (2) he’s dirty, nasty and always has sex on his mind; (3) they flirt without ceasing; (4) dogs, liars and cheaters; (5) have complete disregard of anyone’s feelings but their own.

As men, we completely agree with this accurate interpretation of ourselves. In addition, men are also slobs. We’re messy; we seldom clean up after ourselves; we leave the toilet seat up and our dirty socks all over the house. At the same time, we can never get enough pepperoni pizza and can easily spout off how many home runs Babe Ruth hit during his major league baseball career. Yes, that’s us.

Let me get right to the point in addressing the complexity of men, or rather, the uncomplexity of men. Guys are simple, more simple than most women realize. We usually entertain the thought of sex on a continual basis, love to eat junk food and think pretty much the same as the next guy.

Women, yes you, are different, very different and span the spectrum in differing attitudes, thoughts and behaviors. We can gather the greatest minds of the world, commit millions of hours to studying women and yet we men will never fully understand a single woman. I believe all will agree with this analysis. Women are complex and beautiful creatures that men have been trying to understand for centuries.

Men may seem complex and even be puzzling and strange at times, but when you unravel the garbled mess, we are quite simple like vanilla ice cream. I will mention this many times throughout the book.

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A MAN’S QUOTE

We’re not complicated at all. Give us food, give us sex and we’re happy. If we get into an argument, give us sex and the argument is done.

-- DRG

Some women, however, haven’t yet learned this. I’ve heard time and time again that they can’t understand men. I’m always asked, why did he do this? Why did he say that? or what did he really mean?

I’ve found that these questions are answered by a simple understanding of the male thought process. Many women, about 90 percent of the ones I’ve encountered, tend to believe that most men think in similar ways that they do. Not so and unfortunately, this assumption is so far from the truth. Men don’t think like women do, not even close. Our brains are wired so differently that it would amaze you.

Though this book will contain a variety of interesting examples on the mindset of a man, let me just go over a few quick scenarios that will help put in perspective the difference in our thought process using some simple situations.

Men and Women: Regarding Detail

If a man and a woman witnessed a crime that had taken place and the officer questioned them for a description of what they had seen, the woman would provide such detailed information as to how tall the assailant was, what he was wearing, how long was his hair, what color shirt he had on, etc. The man will just probably say, he was a tall, big guy and carried a gun.

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A MAN’S QUOTE

Women are complicated, they are very detailed. Men are not. We don’t think like women at all.

--- JR

By this example one can see that women are much more detailed than men, however on the other hand, when asked about the Los Angeles Dodgers, i.e., who the managers were, who was the best pitcher and who hit the most home runs, a man can not only rattle off loads of this type of information, but can even tell you each player’s uniform number going all the way back to the 1970’s.

Why? Because a man’s mind adapts more to repetition. The more he sees something or the more he hears something, the more he retains it.

Things like baseball statistics are repeated continually year after year, so eventually a man will start to remember and retain these items.

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A MAN’S QUOTE

Hey, we are what we are and we really don’t mind it.

--- DB

A woman’s mind is used to seeing everything in detail, they absorb it all very quickly; the sights, sounds and even smells at just a simple glance, especially when an incident invokes some kind of emotion. Details somehow are etched in their minds, giving them the amazing ability to recall the details a man