The Untold Secrets of How Men Think and What They Want: Relationship and Dating Advice for Women, #26

By Gregg Michaelsen

The Male Mind is Nothing Like You Imagine it to be

Men use as many as 13,000 fewer words in any given day than women. This means that gestures, such as nodding the head are a great deal more significant to a man. His nod needs to mean something, and to him, it means he agrees with you.

Let's use listening as an example.

 

How Do Guys Listen?

When a man is listening, he is focused on a particular problem that needs to be solved. He assumes you need something fixed. Every word you say is running through a 'man filter' that weeds out everything but 'what can I do about this'?

He lacks patience to hear your entire story. He's looking for the parts of the conversation that pertain to his role. Once he's figured that out, he is likely to jump in with a solution.
Women, on the other hand, don't necessarily talk to have a problem solved. The conversation alone can be all that's necessary in a given situation. The fact that a man is listening may be enough for her and she has no need of an active solution to any problem. She needs to feel heard, which, in turn, makes her feel loved. Unfortunately, men don't often get this.

 

Bridge the Gap
If you want someone to listen to you go on in detail about something, one of your female friends is going to be your best bet, but if you have a problem that needs to be solved, your man is all ears. Go ahead and feed him the details! He lives for that type of engagement with you. He shows you he loves you by helping you solve your problems. This is actually a biggie for men.

No longer will you have to guess what he is thinking. Now you will know his untold secrets!

 

In Part 1 Learn his Untold Secrets

What he really wants

Sex or no sex

It's not about your looks it's about...

Are we equal? This is why so many relationships fail

How to see things through his eyes. Do this and get what you want!

 

Part 2 Explains what you should want out of a man

No, I'm not here to tell you what you should want from your next partner, but I will make some suggestions on things you might not have thought of so far. Obviously, you want the great guy. The problem is that the others can come disguised as a great guy. How can you tell them apart?

 

Part 3 Getting where you need to be to attract a great man

To the right man, it won't matter if you have two tails attached to your butt. He will love you for the genuine person you are, tails and all. He won't care that you are such an avid book reader that you've got your books double-stacked on your shelves. He won't care that you're so into your dog that the dog's leash, collar and winter jacket are all personalized. I teach how to find the right guy!

 

Part 4 Your Game Plan

Here, we wrap up the book and start applying the principles learned! You've come a long way by books end and you will be chomping at the bit to reign in a guy!

Click the BUY NOW button right now to start your journey to building yourself and then finding your man. You won't regret it!

 

About the Author

Gregg Michaelsen is a top dating and life coach who focuses on helping women find great men. Having sold more than 250,000 books, he has helped thousands of women understand men and themselves so they can realize their dreams. 

The Untold Secrets is just one of Gregg's best-selling books focused on relationship building for women. Thousands of women have benefited from reading Gregg's books! Now, you can too!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Gregg Michaelsen
• Release date: Mar 7, 2021
• ISBN: 9781393155171

Gregg Michaelsen

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The Untold SecretsThe Untold Secrets of How Men Think and What They Want

Copyright © 2021 Gregg Michaelsen and Confidence Builder LLC.

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without written permission of the publisher.

DISCLAIMER: As a male dating coach I am very good at what I do because of my years of studying the nuances of interpersonal relationships. I have helped thousands of women understand men. That said, I am not a psychologist, doctor or licensed professional. So do not use my advice as a substitute if you need professional help.

Women tell me how much I have helped them and I truly hope that I can HELP you too in your pursuit of that extraordinary man! I will provide you with powerful tools. YOU need to bring me your willingness to listen and CHANGE!

Introduction

PART 1: The Untold Secret of What Men Want

1—It’s Not About Your Looks

What Men Look at First

Fling Seekers

The Great Guy

There’s More

2—Are You Like Me?

I Think You’re Like Me

Are We Equal?

Am I As Hot as You?

3—Sex or No Sex?

Should You Have Sex?

Sexual Desire, Sexual Activity and Passion

Immediate Versus Delayed Gratification

Does the End Justify the Means?

4—What Does He Really Want?

Emotional Attraction versus Sexual Expectations

Talk to Me

Honesty…

Friends with Benefits?

Attractiveness…Again

Get Excited!

Smarty Pants

Seeing Isn’t Believing…

5—What He Really Needs from You the Most

What is Empathy?

How to Show Empathy

What It Means to Be Understanding

How to Show Understanding to Your Guy

When You Lack Empathy and Understanding

6—Bridge the Communication Gap

Managing Stress

Holding a Conversation

How Men Listen

What Does Listening Mean?

Tell Me a Story

The Purpose of Making a Decision

Conflict Resolution

Problem Solving

PART 2: What You Should Want Out of a Man

7—The Guy You Don’t Want

The Selfish Guy

The Guy Who Can’t Be Himself

The Womanizer

The Manipulator

The Explainer

The Guy with Jerks for Friends

8—The Guy You DO Want

His Life is Balanced

He is in Control

He Has a Self-Improvement Plan

He Knows How to Manage His Desires

He Has the Right Kind of Commitments

He Has Mastered Himself

He Values Women

He is Honest about His Intentions

PART 3: Getting Where You Need to Be to Attract a Great Man

9—Who Are You Today?

What do You Really Want?

Why do You Want It?

What’s Holding You Back?

10—Who Do You Want to Be?

It’s Time to Take Control of Your Own Life

Accept Responsibility

Setting a Few Necessary Boundaries

Putting Yourself First—At Least for a Little While

Writing Your Story

Preparing to Date Again

CONCLUSION: Your Game Plan

Control Your Emotions

Shift into Man Mode

Increase Your Experiences

Leave Your Baggage Behind

Get Busy

Get Yourself in Shape

Take a Risk!

Dump the Losers!

Power Date

Determine Which Guy is the One

References

Author Bio

Introduction

You, as a woman, are a complex and mysterious creature to a man. Men don’t understand why women cry. They don’t understand why you always want to talk. They don’t even understand why, when they ask you a question, you get all wishy-washy.

They don’t understand the complexities of being a woman, and why should they? They’re men. I grew up with three older sisters, so I understand this stuff. It was my every day. Not all men have that advantage. In addition, I genuinely love women. I enjoy hanging out with them and I am passionate about helping them understand men.

My Saturday nights are so much fun! I go out to a local hangout and find a group of women, introduce myself and get to know them. I coach them. Sometimes, I text their boyfriends for them so they can see how it’s done. I encourage approaching men they’re interested in. For me, this is a great evening. Of course, while I’m helping, I’m learning more and more about how the female mind works.

But you’re not here to learn about the female mind, you’re here to learn about the male mind and what men really want, just like the women I come across every Saturday night.

In order to understand what men really want, you have to understand how their minds work. It’s nothing like what you imagine. You think, because your mind is so complex, that the male mind is complex as well. You imagine that men think the same things, in the same way you do.

This is where I’m sorry to tell you, you’re wrong. I’m not saying men aren’t intelligent. They are. Well, most of them are. What I’m saying is that attributing the same thought processes to a man that you yourself have is your mistake.

This book is broken down into three parts. In Part One, you will learn the untold secret of what men want. It’s actually a few secrets. In Part Two, you will identify what a great man looks like so you can see the players for what they are. In Part Three, you will fill in your missing blanks, so you’re prepared to look at any man and know whether he is worthy of you! You’ll know if he’s a great man.

That word, great, is an important word. You don’t want just any man. You’ve done that already and you’re sick of it. That’s why you’re here. What you want is a great man. A man who opens car doors, puts his hand on the small of your back when you’re walking together, is financially stable, treats others with respect and kindness, and appreciates his relationship with you.

The men you’ve dated in the past most likely fall into a different category. Maybe you’ve dated this guy:

The wet kitten is a man who looks for opportunities to avoid responsibility. He might ‘forget’ his wallet when you go on a date. He probably decides you need to live together way too soon, like weeks into your relationship. He borrows money from you with an empty promise to repay it. He might have a job but it’s probably a job he’s overqualified for. He allows you to do all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, and paying. If he hasn’t moved in with you yet, he either leeches off a friend or lives with his parents.

This guy might seem familiar to you, more so than the great guy. This is because, in the past, you’ve allowed yourself to be chosen instead of choosing men. During the course of this book, you’ll learn how to fix all of this. By the time you’re done reading, you’ll understand just what great men are looking for and how you go about getting what you don’t currently have.

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PART 1

The Untold Secret of What Men Want

Aubrey stands in front of her mirror, Hmm, what should I wear tonight? Aubrey is facing a first date with a guy she met at the coffee shop last week. While they hit it off well, she’s understandably nervous as she prepares for a more formal date. Aubrey is stressing over what she’ll wear, wanting to make sure her hair is perfect, and her makeup is done just right. She chooses an outfit that’s snug and very revealing. She wants to be attractive for Mike. She goes with her high-end pair of spike heels, the Gucci bag she saves for special occasions and puts on enough makeup to do the entire cast of the Lion King. She connects with her best friend, Jade, by FaceTime, just to make sure she looks okay. With Jade’s approval, she’s out the door.

In the past, you’ve relied on what your mother, sisters and girlfriends have told you about men. They tell you it’s all about the hair, the makeup, the shoes and purse and the outfit. I won’t deny that men are visual, but great men know that there is more to a woman than how she looks. In fact, a great guy will overlook looks in lieu of a woman who possesses all the characteristics you’re about to learn.

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It’s Not About Your Looks

The first untold secret of what men want is that the men who are looking for a fling are the ones who are only looking at physical attractiveness. Men who want