Why Men Pull Away in Relationships

By Michael Finlayson

Why do men pull away? Have you ever been in the position when your relationship is going well, you're both happy, and yet for some inexplicable reason, your man pulls away.

It could be that you're thinking that he's the one, and then what? He goes swanning off to find himself, and you're left thinking what's going on. You feel confused, hurt, and not even sure if you have a relationship. You need to understand!

The crazy, inexplicable thing is that just because he’s pulled away from you, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care for you, or that he doesn’t worship the ground that you walk on. The problem is that for some vague, weird reason, there are some things that trigger a flight reaction in him, at least until he can work things through.

If you want your relationship to work and to move forward then you have to understand your man. You need to know what makes him tick, his hopes and dreams, and what scares him. Once you can understand him you should be able to create a less threatening environment. If he is in a non-threatening relationship then he is much less likely to pull away.

This book will help you to understand your man, and will I hope set you on the path to a long and happy life together. Good Luck.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Michael Finlayson
• Release date: Feb 2, 2013
• ISBN: 9781301250851

Michael Finlayson

My writing interests are based around personal development in it's widest sense. So apart from personal development I like at relationships and health and fitness, which in essence is everything that goes into developing you the individual. I have great hopes of writing the next great fantasy novel (I live in hope), I have some great ideas, unfortunately the plot is being shy, so it's taking an agonizingly long time to haul it out of my grey cells. Apart from my book writing I have a few sites up, which have helped me to develop my ideas. I am a prolific reader (not good when I should be writing). A health condition means that I have to get in plenty of walking and exercise, and worryingly I have become a big fan of indoor rowing (I don't rule out insanity). Apart from being called mad, I have been categorically assured that there could only ever be one of me, which on reflection is probably just as well :)

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Why Men Pull Away in Relationships

Published by Michael Finlayson at Smashwords

Copyright © 2012 Mike Finlayson

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Table of Contents

Chapter 1: The Birth of your Relationship Headache

Chapter 2: Don’t Waste Any More Time on These!

Chapter 3: You Have to Keep Your Relationship Real

Chapter 4: You Need Your Own Lives

Chapter 5: Commitment

Chapter 6: Communication

Chapter 7: Don’t Forget To Listen

Chapter 8: Arguments

Chapter 9: Why Do Men Pull Away?

Chapter 10: Finally

The Birth of your Relationship Headache

At some point your eyes met across a crowded room, maybe you were introduced, maybe you couldn’t stand the sight of each other but then you grew close. However you met there was some kind of spark between you, something that drew you together, something that made you want to know more. Maybe it’s a case of opposites attract and you have embarked on a wild tumultuous relationship, maybe you find that you have things in common, whatever the reason you looked at each other and something in you went, MINE.

Never assume that the guy understands that you and he have a relationship.

Dave Barry

Although it's a bit of a generic statement men do tend to take a long time to come to terms with their feelings and to realize that being with you is the best thing that's ever happened to him. You just need to guide him slowly and gently forwards.

As your relationship develops you start to get to know each other and hopefully you enjoy your life with each other. Maybe you move in with each other or maybe you decided to hold on to your independence. You are happy, being with each other gives you purpose in life, and maybe you’ve reached the stage where maybe, just maybe you start to wonder if he’s the one. Unfortunately, just as things start looking hopeful your man, the love of your life pulls away.

I’m guessing that having bought this book your guy has wandered off to do whatever it is that he has to do. If your relationship was going through a rough patch then you would have thought that you could have talked things through, but at least it would give you a reason, albeit a pretty pathetic one as to why he pulled away.

As to why he has done this, good question and your guess is as good as any, in fact there is every chance that he’s not too sure as to why he has done it. You never know, maybe he needs to go on some great spiritual journey in order to find himself, it could also be something as silly as he fears losing his identity. And off

Reviews for Why Men Pull Away in Relationships

[Rula Alminawi · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

Ok doesn’t give tools or tips on how to address this behavior when it arises

[李迪 · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Good advice I learnt useful information !!!! Read and see for yourself