The Traits Of A Toxic Partner

By Earl Jr

We fall in love, breakup, hurt and repeat. It's obviously a frustrating cycle, but what exactly are we doing wrong? For starters, we aren't able to detect those toxic traits that seem to get past our defenses. So like a wasp, we get stung over and over. That is why this book was made! My wife and I put this book together to help you identify those toxic traits in a potential partner, allowing us to better protect ourselves from the dangers we may not have recognized before. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: EarlJr Books
• Release date: Sep 2, 2022
• ISBN: 9798215258057

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Before We Begin…

Allow me to say THANK YOU for taking the time out to read this book.

My wife and I had experienced so much before we got married, that a simple talk about what we dealt with ended up being the book you’re reading now.

I’m sure you’ve also experienced a lot, so you’ll be able to attest to the traits that I’ll be discussing over the course of this book, as well as learning something new.

This book is not to tell you what to do, but rather help you become more aware of some of the traits that you may have overlooked when getting involved with a toxic partner.

By the time you reach the end, I hope that you are able to reinforce your emotional defenses and position yourself better from unnecessary heartbreak.

The Possessive Partner

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ne of the first traits of toxic person that’s easy to notice is by how possessive they are. The literal definition of the word possessive is to demand someone's total attention and love.

Demanding is a powerful word by itself. Would you prefer someone to ask you for your time, or demand that you make time? One is based on accepting your will to choose and the other is based on force.

Love forced is love abandoned.

When you meet someone who is possessive, you usually won’t notice it right away. It may even feel heartwarming to have someone who wants all of your time.

Let’s just be honest for a moment, when in the dating phase, what do we usually hear more than anything? It’s that people will make time for who they want to make time for.

This is true, but people can also take that and go overboard. They may want your time but not because of who you are but because of who they are. There’s a difference. People that tend to be possessive often suffer from emotional deficits in other areas.

Being possessive or demanding of your TOTAL attention forces you to fill a deficit that they were not able to fill in their own personal life.

Before we show you this in adults, let’s show you how obvious it is when you look at children.

Try observing a group of kids playing with a toy. They will have so much fun with that one toy. However, if you see a kid being stingy, they will not willingly share that toy. In fact, that same kid will even take another kid’s toy and act like it was theirs all along.

Mine! Mine!

That’s what they’ll say when another kid tries to play with the toy. The little brat probably said it with a serious face too.

Now, imagine a grown adult who developed feelings for you. Normal behavior would be to learn who you are, accept the good and the bad, then ultimately come to a decision that maybe you two aren’t a good fit or to move forward if you are.

On the other hand, toxic behavior would be to treat you as if you belong to them without making any true commitments, or without securing and establishing any mutual connections.

No partner wants to be forced to love someone. In fact, we ourselves don’t actually want to be loved forcefully because love hits completely differently when it comes from the heart.

True story:

I went to the mall and noticed this couple who seemed like they needed police surveillance. Like maybe they needed to have both a sniper and counselor on standby. The woman was walking away with her partner and I wanted her to blink twice if she needed help!

The man held her arm so tight and had the meanest face. Why? It’s simple; another man said hello to her and he couldn’t handle it.

Their relationship (and her willingness to be with him) gave him the impression she belonged to him and that she now needed to cater to his jealousy and lack of confidence.

This is a toxic trait for so many reasons. The partner who chose to love you shouldn’t be suddenly

Reviews for The Traits Of A Toxic Partner

[Lewis · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Definitely a must read!

People can be charming & manipulative. They mask their bad intentions and we fall for it. This book points out toxic behaviors so that we can avoid wasting more time!