You're Still Not Crazy: You May Be An Empath Dealing With A Narcissist

By Carolyn Booker-Pierce

"You're Still Not Crazy" is the sequel to "Girl, You're Not Crazy, You're Dealing with a Narcissist." It helps explain that those with empathic-type personalities are drawn to or targeted by the narcissist. Narcissists tend to make their targets feel like they are crazy due to all the games they play to manipulate empaths and other compassionate

• Language: English
• Publisher: J Merrill Publishing Inc
• Release date: Dec 1, 2021
• ISBN: 9781954414228

Carolyn Booker-Pierce

Carolyn Booker Pierce is a licensed social worker, teacher, mentor, and spiritual leader born and raised in Columbus, Ohio. After leaving a career of almost 20 years in accounts payable and claims auditing, Carolyn followed her passion in the area of social services. She then graduated with a BA at Capital University to become a licensed social worker. Carolyn gravitates to chemical dependency counseling as a substance abuse group and individual counselor. Later she took her years of experience as a substance abuse counselor into her local county jail to serve inmates struggling with substance abuse, alcoholism, and family relationship problems. She is known for listening to others without judgment as they process their everyday life problems. Carolyn desires to help people grow, heal from their past, and move on to a healthy future. She enjoys spending time with her family, church worship center, traveling, writing, and empowering others.

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Introduction

Do you ever feel like you take on or carry the stresses of others by being in a relationship with them, being around them, or being in a crowd? 

You know you have a gift of compassion. 

However, you sense that your gift can sometimes feel like a curse or taken for granted.  Have you ever thought or felt like you keep picking the same type of toxic people in your relationships? You may have thought, at first, that you were making the right choices because the people who show up in your relationships appear to be nice, loving, and kind. 

There is certainly nothing wrong with you choosing a person that seems to be nice, caring, and kind.  Who wouldn’t share the likes of a charming person that makes you smile and feel great? 

Initially, that is how you can feel in an initial relationship with a person with a narcissistic personality disorder. 

They can make you feel on top of the world in the beginning.  However, later you may come to discover those charming people you have allowed in your life are not so nice, loving, and kind after all. Yet, somehow, they keep showing up, and you keep inviting them in. 

If you have ever wondered why you keep having encounters with the same type of people, there may be an explainable reason why. 

You may not be aware, and I hope to help you understand that it is not totally your fault.  It is probably your highly sensitive and compassionate personality drawing the same type of people.  Therefore, it is your responsibility not to allow that to keep happening.

In this book on Empaths and the Narcissist, you may come to discover you are indeed an empath if you have not already figured it out. 

Empaths are very empathic and compassionate people opposite the narcissist. However, because of the empath’s sensitive and compassionate nature, you will find out the narcissistic personally likes to target the empathic personality. 

You will also learn the games played by the narcissist with empathic type personalities.  They put on great acts to lure their victims into a relationship. 

They will tap into the empath’s emotions to form a relationship.  Narcissists are great at charming others. Once in the relationship with the narcissist, they will play all types of mind games to get what they want. 

They are good at convincing empaths that they said one thing and meant another.  They will make a promise and not keep it.  They will also lie about the promise they made. 

The empath may begin to feel like they are going crazy, convinced something is wrong with them after being convinced of something that may or may not have happened. 

In reality, because of the empath’s compassionate heart, they are easily sucked in emotionally by the narcissist’s manipulation and games.  Good judgment and normalcy will fade into the narcissist’s trap because they are good at conning others. 

The compassionate and giving empath needs to learn how to take care of themselves so they are not easily overtaken by false appearance and cons of the narcissist.  

Empaths usually fall into giving more than they take, unlike the narcissist, since they are traditionally givers by nature.  However, after days, months, and years, giving their time, money, birthdays, holidays, and other special occasions is not reciprocated. 

The empath will become stressed, sensing something they need to do to escape or is seriously wrong them.  It is something wrong, but it can be corrected with some boundaries and discipline.  Not knowing who they are or who they were created to be can leave the empath feeling insecure and inadequate. 

There is nothing wrong with being an empath. The problem is not knowing you have a gift and when to use or not to use it. 

Because empaths are highly empathic, compassionate, and giving people, they tend to attract the narcissist. But, on the other hand, because narcissists are self-centered and self-absorbed, it is easy for them always to present a sad story or a problem to get what they want. 

That is important information for an empath to know to protect their gift.  When you are a highly sensitive and compassionate person, it is easy to be taken advantage