Women, Do You Know What You Really Want?
By Andrea DiMattia and Loretta Becker
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Woman, Do You Know What You Really Want? is a guide to lesbian dating that will coach you through some common-sense steps on your journey to find Mrs. Right. It teaches you to always remember to love yourself and embrace who you are. It will facilitate self-reflection on topics that include wants, desires, needs, sex toys, love versus infatuation, online dating, age, dating with children, finances, and even ending a relationship. After learning and reflecting on these topics and many more, you will have the tools to date smart. It will be your turn to get out there, have fun, and find your true love.
Andrea DiMattia
Andrea DiMattia, Coauthor I have been called smart, adorable, fun loving, funny, opinionated, direct, and even bossy at times. I am a person who thinks with my heart and my mind. I am very good at making connections with people. I feel that it is important to make someone smile every day and it is important to give back in life. I hold a bachelor’s degree in nursing. Currently, I work as a visiting cardiac IV / hospice case manager. My job as a nurse has taught me to value both life and love. I think William Blake says it best, “If a thing loves, it is infinite.” I grew up in Rhode Island and currently reside there among family and close friends. My grandparents, with whom I had a close bond, were probably my biggest influence regarding love and relationships. They had a marriage that lasted for sixty-one years! Someday, I hope to find that great love, and dating is the beginning of the journey. Dating is not an easy thing. I know this firsthand. I am still looking for Mrs. Right and have come across a lot of Mrs. Wrongs. Dating brings a plethora of emotions to the surface, like the excitement you feel when you meet a new individual and wonder, will she be the one? It makes you brave because you have to keep trying. Never give up on seeking true love. There is also the heartache that you feel with rejection. We all go through these emotions. So I figured, why not give some advice on the things that I have encountered? In turn, they will cause you to self-reflect and hopefully date smart. Loretta Becker, Coauthor Life has been good to me having opportunities to grow spiritually and continue to live my life to the fullest. My personal philosophy is that Love conquers all! I am the oldest of four children, raised by a strong Portuguese single mother in Rhode Island. I was a mother at a young age as I didn’t like being called “a lezzy” at thirteen. I found a boyfriend and became pregnant and raised my son Joshua on my own since nineteen as I was kicked out of the house for living a lesbian lifestyle at nineteen. Over the years, I have had several long-term relationships, one of nineteen years; my ex and I adopted Lily. I am the mother of two wonderful children and three grandsons, all of whom I adore. I obtained a bachelor’s degree in psychology and master’s degree in health education. I have worked in social services, have done public speaking and trainings, and I presently work as a health educator. Over the past eight years, I have been fortunate to date a variety of women, and now I am blessed with a woman who has a special place in my heart and world. Together we will continue to grow, love, and share.
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Women, Do You Know What You Really Want? - Andrea DiMattia
What Do You Want In a Partner?
I don’t need a perfect woman; I just need a perfect woman for me.
Ask yourself what you are looking for in a relationship.
Are you looking for a life partner, casual dating, or a just a good time?
How do we view the people that we date?
Are we feeling desire, need, or want?
Desire is defined as a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing something to happen.
We all have desires. What is it that you desire? Examples would be: I desire a girlfriend, someone I can call my own; she is beautiful, smart, funny, has an hourglass body. I am the only one she sees; she is faithful. I am her one and only. I will be with her for the rest of my life.
Are these realistic and healthy desires?
Need is defined as a circumstance in which something is necessary or that requires some course of action.
I need to be in a relationship. I cannot be alone. How will I spend my time, and what will I do? What will others think of me if I am alone? What do I think of myself? Am I not worthy? Is something wrong with me? Am I not likeable and lovable? Is all this worrying about my ego healthy thinking?
Lastly, there is what we would consider the healthy option, want. Want is defined as the desire to possess or do (something). This is possible if you are confident, have a strong sense of self and are secure. Do you want a long term relationship with depth? If you want a relationship with depth, then you must be intentional about how you are choosing the women that you date.
Inner reflection and your own personal experiences will assist you in deciding what attributes are valuable to you in a significant other. Intelligence, wisdom, and a sense of fun are all long-lasting character traits. What might you be looking for in a woman? Is she a scholar or master of life lessons? Looks fade but inner beauty remains for a lifetime. Is she a genuine person? A person who is authentic, sincere, and honest? Is she ready to build a foundation in a relationship that includes friendship, partnership, and relating as a lover?
If your desires, needs, and wants are not balanced, you must figure out what it is that you are searching for. Is there something missing from you emotionally? Accepting yourself for who you are and being comfortable in your own skin are both prerequisites