I Desired Intimacy But I Settled For Sex

By David Shawn Smith

Relationships are hard, even the best ones. And sometime navigating them can be a huge challenge. We find asking for what we need a struggle.
Now, you may be saying to yourself, how you have read the books or tried the formulas before and your relationships still suck. Well you are not alone. Studies show it takes at least 21 days for a habit to be formed or broken. When you participate with us and stick with the task, I promise your relationships will get better.
I want to take you right where you are where you want to go and we will do it together.
You will learn the secrets of relationships from me who have been doing this work for the past 15 years and have taught and coached many couples to healthy partnerships.
Now, you may be nervous about uncovering some of your truths about your relationships and you should be but aren’t you and your love life worth the time and effort. I truly believe so.

• Language: English
• Publisher: David Shawn Smith
• Release date: May 20, 2016
• ISBN: 9781310388194

David Shawn Smith

David Shawn Smith is the owner of I Speak Life Coaching, LLC a professional services firm serving those who seek an executive coach, life coach and anger management. Specialization in leadership development, succession planning, organizational management, conflict resolution, restorative justice, talent development, emotional intelligence, and effective communication skills within organizations.David received his B.A. from Oglethorpe University in Communications and Rhetoric and his M.S. in Leadership Development and Executive Coaching from Bellevue University. He is a sought after speaker, and trainer.He has been published in numerous publications and is currently a contributor writer for the Prodigal’s Chair an online publication specializing in the arts and community. David is the author of " I Desired Intimacy but I Settled for Sex”.David also mentors new coaches in the area of business development and coaching skills.

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TITLE Copyright © 2016 by David Shawn Smith

All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission except in the case of brief quotations em- bodied in critical articles or reviews.

This book is a work of fiction. Names, characters, businesses, organiza- tions, places, events and incidents either are the product of the author’s imagination or are used fictitiously. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, events, or locales is entirely coincidental.

Acknowledgments

I will like to say a big thank you to everyone connected to me, who have in one way or the other been of moral, emotional and intellectual support to the birth of this masterpiece. I feel immensely blessed to have you ll in my life. To my collegues whom we I share the passion of coaching with, I say thank you. I am grateful also for all the successful coaching sessions, workshops and conferences which have been a major inspiration during this write-up.

I reserve my eternal appreciation to God almighty, for blessing me with a beautiful mind and a heart that seeks to give comfort to others in their trying times.

Table of Contents

CHAPTER 1

CHAPTER 2

CHAPTER 3

CHAPTER 4

EPILOGUE

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Preface

Intro: My name is David Smith and thank you for joining me today. I’m so excited to be partnering with you on this very important topic. Let me start by telling you a little bit about myself. I have been into the personal transformation industry for the past fifteen years. This Book aims to deliver quality relationship advice and ultimately repairs damaged or sour connections between you and your partner. Well-detailed in this book is a step-bu-step manual of basic principles of dialogue, mutualistic relationship and beneficial companionship with your partner. You must understand that your job is not to blame your partner, condemn him/her or plan your exit through divorce which happens to be the first thoughts of a down-time in many unions.

My strengths and skills focuses on relationships, spirituality, business and wellness. The pulse of this work is in the arena of enhancing deeper connections in relationships.

Storytelling I know you may be wondering why I decided to make this topic available to you today. There is not a day in which someone brings up their needs and desires in a relationship but those needs are not being meet for several reasons. It is within those conversations, I find a central theme. People are not communicating clearly what those needs are and so in the end they suffer because of it. I empathize with them because I know too well what it feels like to have a need and not know how to express it or fearful if you do express that the person will leave (insert being stranded and not following my instinct). Create an emotional connection (a me too moment)

Transformation The information you will receive today is going to help you find the language to express what you need in your relationship. You will know how to listen for certain cues and red flags and how to respond. You will be empowered to move beyond fear of losing and become the winner in every relationship you are pursuing. You will become your own expert of your needs and desires. You will have better communication and relationship skills.

Audience: This is for you if you are struggling in your relationships. If you continue to wake up each day wondering how you can develop a much deeper connection with your partner and do not know how to accomplish it. If, you are asking and not receiving in your relationship then this is for you. If, you continue to attract the same type of person in a relationship, then this is for you. If, you need a refresher course, then this is for you? If you are tired, weary, frustrated and almost about to give up then this is for you.

Okay, so here are the 6 things you are going to learn:

1. What intimacy is and how to create more of it in your relationship.

2. What is the difference between sex and intimacy?

3. How to communicate your need for intimacy?

4. How and what is meaningful touch.

5. How intimacy is an important part of the relationship.

6. How to create a loving connection in your relationship.

7. How to get more help, training, support, coaching if you would like it.

Relationships are hard, even the best ones. And sometime navigating them can be a huge challenge. We find asking for what we need a struggle.

Now, you may be saying to yourself, how you have read the books or tried the formulas before and your relationships still suck. Well you are not alone. Studies show it takes at least 21 days for a habit to be formed or broken. When you participate with us and stick with the task, I promise your relationships will get better.

I want to take you right where you are where you want to go and we will do it together.

You will learn the secrets of relationships from me who have been doing this work for the past 15 years and have taught and coached many couples to healthy partnerships.

Now, you may be nervous about uncovering some of your truths about your relationships and you should be but aren’t you and your love life worth the time and effort. I truly believe so.

Chapter 1

Intimacy

• Define what it is.

• Emotional closeness

• Put into words your feelings.

• Making I statements in communication

• Create/plan new opportunities to connect.

WHAT IS INTIMACY?

I had a funny impromptu interview once and I feel this was when I really got the simplest idea about intimacy. I have explained and given a comprehensive talk about the issue when out of epiphany or a sense of deeper understanding from the crowd;

*Shе intеrruрtеd mу tаlk. to tell mе thаt I should say thе wоrd differently tо make itѕ meaning сlеаr. Inѕtеаd оf intimacy, I should say it into-me-see. *

She hаd a grеаt роint.

Thе Diсtiоnаrу dеfinеѕ intimасу аѕ a close, fаmiliаr, and uѕuаllу affectionate or loving реrѕоnаl rеlаtiоnѕhiр with another реrѕоn оr grоuр.