Loveplay

By Dennis Eidson

“Wow, you are going to be so popular when women find out about this. Women are going to be lined up at your front door (at your back door, at your side doors) to find out more.” This from just one very pleased woman with the methods of this book.

This book is key to pleasing the one you love.
Finally, straight talk about how to be a good lover.

One-third of women in America experience problems coming to orgasm. Find out why this problem exists and how to resolve it. We are not taught how to be good lovers, but it is a simple matter to learn from this book.

This book is written to give women the knowledge they need to fully appreciate the wonders of sexuality, and to give men the ability to supply that need.

Remember, you owe it to yourself (and your marriage) to be the very best lovers you can be. Also remember: Love wins.

Loveplay and mental foreplay are whatever excites her sexual imagination.

Loveplay combines the compassion of love and the play of a teenager.

Loveplay uses the power of imagination to arouse and awaken your sexual energy.

Satisfaction is not something you get simply from a description or drawing. These aids are simply a starting point. You must completely feel each other in the relationship; both of you, and not simply perform an activity of touching.

Loveplay is a comparison to love itself. It is taking the risk to explore the heart and soul of the other, as it gives out of itself to sexual desire and the benefit of the other, to quench and satisfy desire and at the same time, rekindle love. It is what you do in order to achieve the heights of passion, and how you keep the fire going for extended periods. The giving never ends, but eventually exhausts itself.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Axiom11
• Release date: Apr 26, 2011

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Preface

This book is for all conventional couples since Adam & Eve who have a relationship with the opposite sex. It is intended to help couples achieve the deepest sexual fulfillment possible. It is intended to open a dialog between men and women, how you treat each other, and to discuss the amount of satisfaction you each derive from your sexual relationship. It is measured here from both sides of the relationship in quantifiable terms, explicit at times, out of necessity. It may cause you to blush, but should in no way offend.

The need for this book arises first out of a lack of knowledge on the subject of sexual orgasm for women. We are not taught as children, or any other time how to properly induce an orgasm or have sexual intercourse in general. Nor are we taught what the different genital parts are correctly named, how they can be used for our pleasure, or what their function is, or even how to properly care for or clean these genital parts.

Second, there is a mismatch between the initial sexual needs of men vs. women. A man is easily and quickly aroused with little or no physical stimulation requirement, and reaches orgasm in an extremely short time under almost any circumstance. From the standpoint of this book, men do not have a problem with their own orgasm, unless it’s too early. This book does not address men’s sexual problems, but rather those problems that men are creating for women. As we will show from research, too many women are not able to orgasm at all from sexual intercourse with their partner. This is not her fault. Very few women suffer from orgasmic impairment; what they do suffer from is an impaired partner.

Finally, the primary reason most men are not considered a good lover? Here it is men, if you want to change your sex life and hers: Presuming men want to be good lovers in the first place, men are generally unaware of her preferences or needs, are unaware of which parts to stimulate, so men are unaware of how to stimulate her to bring her to orgasm. Ironically, she may be unaware of these very same things, and neither men nor women know so very little as the correct names for the female genitalia. Ask someone to spell the word genitals or genitalia, and you’ll see how little we really know about them. Nevertheless, the term sexual satisfaction is well established in the popular vocabulary of sexuality and does connote obligation.

Woody Allen warns us, Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don’t have a good partner, you’d better have a good hand.

Thus, the need for this book. Even though we think we’ve experienced a sexual revolution, we really haven’t gone very deep into it. If we don’t know the names of our sexual body parts, what these parts do, and what to do with them and how they pleasure us, how can we possibly expect to be good lovers or expect maximum pleasure and fulfillment?

Most women assume their man will teach them all they need to know about the technique of lovemaking. But most men are driven by their own needs and desires and don’t have a clue what a woman needs. Who is teaching the men? Movies and other boys? Boys will be boys, and it is up to women to come out of the closet, throw off the Hell and damnation labels, and become aware of their bodies. If you are withdrawn and silent, men can only guess and be clumsy and their only awareness in the heat of the moment is their own sex drive. The way to arrive at a momentous event is to plan for it, and not only voice your needs but direct your man how to please you, or at the least, enter a realm of discovery together. Each of us must take responsibility for our own pleasure.

One thing is clear from the research and studies about sex: all women share the same fears, myths, concerns, misconceptions, needs and pleasures. All women are under tremendous pressure to look perfect. Taking your clothes off only intensifies the fact that you may not look exactly like the women in the latest fashion magazine, leading to discontent, unhappiness, and shyness or withdrawal. All women have been disallowed the opportunity to discover that the body of a woman is perfect as it is, beautiful to the man willing to make love to you. Ask a man if he has ever seen breasts that were not perfectly beautiful.

Women often express displeasure at their female genitals. Some silly men may have an opinion that the vagina is smelly or ugly, but he will get over it; nothing will stop him from his quest. How dare anyone disgrace the beauty, power and complexity of the female genitals. We are here to teach otherwise, that the vulva are tender petals of a beautiful flower opening to the pleasures within. With the knowledge of this book, such a gift can only cause pleasure. This book is written to give women the knowledge they need to fully appreciate the wonders of sexuality.

Remember, you owe it to yourself (and your marriage) to be the very best lovers you can be. And also remember: Love wins.

Chapter 1

Discovery of Sex

There are a few lucky people who do not need this book or any other book on sexual discovery. Typically, they have the help of a sympathetic, loving partner who is open about their sexual needs, who is prepared to experiment, and has the strength of character to know what they want and verbalize it. They know that good lovers are aware of the importance of closeness and caring; they desire to give love and give pleasure. When a man fully satisfies a woman, he frees her from negative feelings such as frustration, disappointment, and anger. But it seems these lucky few are the exception and not the rule.

Reading this book will lead you to discovery. You deserve sexual happiness and we want to inspire you in how to find more passion. Finding out information about sex will reward you with awareness and consciousness, show the predilection, right the wrongs, provide emotional backup for you, and keep you from being a nebbish type of person. Sex should be enjoyable to the max and supercharge your personality and your life. Sex is not something you should avoid or fear. It should not make you over-anxious or over-emotional rather than rational.

Tom Clancy once said, I believe that sex is one of the most beautiful, natural, wholesome things that money can buy. Well let me tell you, the last thing you will ever need to buy in order to have good sex is this book.

We will talk more about the predilections that men and women have, look at a variety of methods of foreplay and ways of making love, and give frank instructions on how to enjoy sex more. We have something for both men and women here. We will show that it is a man’s skill and patience, not the size of his penis, that makes him a great lover and gives his partner sexual satisfaction.

Sex is a gift and must be given and taken as such. When the man is taught how to give, and the woman taught how to accept this gift, it will flourish of its own accord.

Improving a sexual relationship is delightful, purposeful, and rewarding. In order for the sexual machinery to function correctly, it must be greased. The natural grease in the relationship is communication through love, the lubricant that lets us slide to our next point of pleasure, from dream to dream, then sticks to us and binds us together in a perfect bond between a perfect union. Breakable at will, but who would want to break the bond of passion, love and continuous pleasure.

This Book

Some books require you to follow a program or do specific exercises, or strengthen different parts of your body; maybe so for a particular technique, but all of your parts are ready for climax. Then there are the plumbing manuals that describe every genital part in great detail—touch this and you’ll blow up, or a super-boring clinical exploration.

Because you are reading this book, you are ready, you are open-minded, and we are ready to take you to the four corners of the sexual universe. But make no mistake, sexual closeness and climax is as much spiritual and psychological as it is physical. Love is the vehicle that will take you where you want to go, and we will show you the way. We are about to embark on a life-changing journey and experience. You will not only return changed, you will look back on your new path to pleasure with great happiness.

Scientists from McGill University Health Centre in Montreal, Canada discovered that on average women and men took almost the same time for sexual arousal—around 10 minutes. According to a Kinsey study, just under half of men reported a time to ejaculation from intromission (arousal) of five minutes or less. Less is a problem, because many women require a substantially longer duration than men before reaching an orgasm. Sexual intercourse for