Sexual Fulfillment: Well Into the Golden Years

By Dr. Dee Amanze PhD

Mankind is wired and fine-tuned to enjoy the ultimate pleasures and many benefits of consenting sex. Indeed, both the man and the woman have physical and emotional needs that must be met in a fulfilling sexual relationship. The book - Sexual Fulfillment well into the golden years - is not about just having sex where the need of only one partner is met. The message of the book is that the needs of both the man and the woman can and must be met in a loving relationship. The book is full of best practices and practical tips that ensure sexually-fulfilling experience as a way of life, both for the young couples and those in their golden years.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Jun 15, 2019
• ISBN: 9781543974430

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Sexual Fulfillment

Well Into the Golden Years

Dr. Dee Amanze, PhD

ISBN (Print Edition): 978-1-54397-442-3

ISBN (eBook Edition): 978-1-54397-443-0

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Contents

Acknowledgments

Introduction:

Chapter One: The History of Human Sexuality.

This is a New Era in Human Sexuality.

Chapter Two: A New Perspective on Sex.

Chapter Three: Sexual Fulfillment at all Ages.

Prime of Life and Sexual Fulfillment

Prime of Life and Challenges to Sexual Fulfillment

Golden Years and Sexual Fulfillment

The Golden Years and Challenges to Sexual Fulfillment

Chapter Four: The Power and Importance of Sex?

Chapter Five: Best Practices for Sexual Fulfillment.

Chapter Six: Get Rid of the Termites.

Chapter Seven: Then Comes the Moment You Have Been Waiting For.

Chapter Eight: When sex is not feasible

Chapter Nine: What Exactly Do Men and Women Want.

Acknowledgments

All good gifts come from God Almighty. He has been more than enough and has blessed me with everything that I have needed in this life. I am eternally grateful to Him.

One of the many blessings that I have enjoyed in this life is the privilege of having a happy marriage with the wife of my youth, Kaine Amanze. Kay, your words of encouragement, confidence in me and approval for this book project made all the difference. You inspired this book. It is indeed my desire that everyone reading this will enjoy the sexual fulfillment that we have enjoyed in the atmosphere of unconditional love, mutual respect and friendship. I love you now and always.

I am indebted to my family members all around the world. Sexual fulfillment was originally a conference presentation that I gave a while ago. My family elders, cheerleaders and supporters benefitted from the presentation and encouraged me to share the message with a wider global audience, hence this book. To you all I say a big ‘Thanks’.

As an associate pastor and a counselor, I have had the privilege and honor of talking to people with a variety of marital and sexual challenges. I have learned from many people of all ages and given serious thought to many sexual problems and their solutions. I dedicate this book to you all and hope that the contents will reinforce all the things that we discussed. We did not pray and cry in vain.

Finally, I am grateful to all who are reading this either in the traditional book form or the digital version. Thank you for your patronage. Enjoy it and be blessed. Perhaps we will meet someday to share testimonies and hugs.

Introduction:

Sexual fulfillment

Well into the golden years.

Very many books have been written on just about every subject or human activity. The list is endless – from bird watching, to cooking, gardening, acupuncture and the Amazon rain forest. For some reasons, it does not appear that the same can be said about the subject of sexual fulfillment in general.

Also, many books are written about subjects that the writer can claim a certain degree of expert knowledge in. The target audience is usually people that are believed to have the most interest in the matter addressed in such books.

The questions that then follow are: Why me, and of the few things that I can claim a certain degree of expertise in, why write about sexual fulfillment? Also, should such a book on sexual fulfillment include the older generation in their golden years?

It is my humble submission that many people with forty years of sexually-healthy marriage have something to contribute to a discussion on sexual fulfillment. And that includes yours truly. While length of marriage alone does not make one an expert on the subject, this is also a subject that contributes in no small measure to one’s quality of life and sense of well-being hence the need to initiate a conversation on the topic. For full disclosure, this book is not about just having sex as a chore. It is not even about having more frequent sex.

The powerful message that the book seeks to convey is that

BOTH THE MAN AND THE WOMAN

must aspire towards experiencing truly fulfilling and totally amazing

‘out-of-this-world’ sexual experience, well into the golden years.

Firstly, it does not appear that many people, of all ages, have a healthy environment in which to discuss and be educated about this all-important subject of sexual fulfillment. Many married couples can hardly remember having the opportunity to discuss or exchange ideas on sex in a formal setting. About sexual activities, parents, teachers and preachers have frequently told people what they should not do but rarely provide structured instructions on what people should be doing and how best to do those things.

Obviously, there are several things in life that do not come with instruction manuals. Unfortunately, many have had the same result in their sex life as they have had trying to assemble furniture before reading the instructions. It is understandable that many things about sex are natural and intuitive. If two adults who are romantically attached find themselves in a conducive environment, the chances are that they will figure out what to do, with or without instructions. However, it is also accurate to say that doing things by trial and error or perpetuating ineffective and selfish sexual practices rarely result in mutual fulfillment. Some mistakes have also been known to cause irreparable damage to otherwise great relationships. So, having sex is not exactly