Seduce Smart: Transform Your Love Life in 30 Days

By Jennifer Victory

Seduce Smart and be smart with your heart! Single and ready to date? In a relationship that's not going anywhere? Want tips to make your relationship better? Then become a smart seductress! In this book you will discover the four easy steps that are guaranteed to add love and confidence in your romantic relationship in just 30 days! Topics include beauty and style tips that are irresistible to men, mental and spiritual practices to strengthen your self-esteem, seduction secrets and more. So what are you waiting for? Become a smart seductress today!

• Language: English
• Publisher: iUniverse
• Release date: Aug 18, 2011
• ISBN: 9781462039500

Jennifer Victory

Jennifer Victory is an author, Romantic Relationship Coach and founder of the Seduce Smart Program. Jennifer Created this thirty day plan to empower women in their romantic relationships. Visit www.seducesmart.com to learn more about the program and get in touch. Copyright Seduce Smart LLC

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Contents

Introduction

My Story

—Body—

Step One: The Body

—Mind—

Step Two: The Mind

—Spirit—

Step Three: The Spirit

—Seduce Smart—

Step Four: Seduce Smart!

Conclusion

Bibliography

About the Author

Introduction

I wrote Seduce Smart to empower you in your romantic relationship. In just thirty days, you can transform and create the love life you deserve. This is a great book for all women looking to manifest romantic relationships that are passionate, loving, and respectful. Seduce Smart: Transform Your Love Life in 30 Days is suitable for brand-new daters as well as seasoned pros. My goal is for you to be the woman who knows her worth, an energy who is irresistible to men!

Heads up: when you fall head-over-heels in love with a man, you will be tempted to lose yourself. It comes with the territory, so be prepared! Stay happy, powerful, and strong through this body, mind, spirit, and seduction program! I have definitely made my fair share of mistakes! I am not, by any stretch of the imagination, perfect. Nor am I expecting you to be. The goal is not perfection; it is balance.

Seduction and romance are two very exciting aspects of life. Romantic relationships occupy much of women’s time, energy, and efforts. Romantic love is a highly charged experience. So it is vital to have an anchored sense of yourself before you open your heart to a man. When our hearts are opened too quickly, we get hurt and lose faith in men. We also begin to doubt and question ourselves. I devised this step-by-step program because it worked for me. I know this body of knowledge will empower you as well.

Today, there are more women entering the dating arena than ever, and the only rule seems to be that there are no rules. In general, American women are immersed in a hyper-fast, technology-laden culture of cell phones, texting, Facebook pages, and careers. It can be confusing knowing what to expect from men in the dating world. Gone are the days when a man was expected to open doors and meet the parents when picking you up for a date. Today’s pop culture aficionados eagerly watch the glamorous, promiscuous ladies from Sex and the City and Gossip Girl. While these ladies make for great entertainment, they are often unrealistic dating role models! In today’s modern time, it is really important for women to know how to be successful in our relationships with men.

Most teen girls and young women innocently enter the dating world. As little girls, we grow up in a Disney princess culture that romanticizes love and boys. We meet boys we like, give our hearts away willingly and trustingly, only to have them broken over and over again. Eventually we begin to lose faith in our romantic instincts. We second-guess ourselves to win male approval. Of course, this leads to resentment of men, and eventually ourselves, because we know that we are betraying ourselves when we value someone else’s opinion over our own. Over time, we may become cynical or desperate.

This can lead to one of two choices: getting off the dating market completely, for the peaceful but lonely life of the single gal, or making promiscuous choices in an attempt to beat the system and prove we don’t care. Neither method works for finding and creating meaningful and respectful relationships.

So just to be clear, I get the perils that women face in the dating world. I’ve been there! And I wrote this book to offer tips and secrets to help you succeed, even in the Facebook age. Times may have changed since our moms and grandmas were dating, but luckily men haven’t changed too much! Therefore, seduction of men is an art form, one that can be taught and mastered.

If you’re ready to jump off the emotional roller coaster of romantic turmoil and into a space of complete trust in yourself with your man, then this is the book for you. Through my own romantic journey, I grew not only as a person but also as a romantic partner. However, this journey is not without challenges.

Perhaps the most surprising thing about passionate, romantic love is that it is based in friendship. We live in a culture that is so obsessed with sex that we often forget this fact. But it is true nonetheless; friendship is essential to building healthy relationships. Hallmarks of friendship include honesty, respect, trust, communication, and support. When you feel this exchange of energy with a man, you are freer to be passionate and powerful in your relationship with him. But before feeling safe to give your heart to a man, you must feel safe and secure within yourself first.

And that’s why I’m here: consider me your dating relationship coach cheering you on from the sidelines as you play the game of life. A coach helps you reach your maximum potential. A coach gets you amped up for new possibilities and opportunities, and pushes you just a little bit past your comfort zone. A coach teaches discipline and strength, and an ability to make wise decisions quickly and independently. These are all qualities you need to empower yourself romantically with men.

This book is made of four sections. These are the four steps to transforming your love life in thirty days. Since this journey is all encompassing, I’m not asking you to dive head first into dating right away. In fact, the most successful relationships occur when you are strong in body, mind, and spirit. And that’s just the blueprint for this book. I begin with step one: the body for days 1-7, then step two: the mind for days 8-14, step three: the spirit for days 15-29, and finally you graduate to step four: dating, on day 30 and beyond. I am offering you as much information as possible to assure you the best possible outcome. The reason there’s so much content is that every woman is different!

I encourage you to read cover to cover and incorporate as much into your life as possible for the specific day. Do the reflections progressively as they appear in the book, and have a pen handy to fill out the reflection questions. Be sure to take time out for the weekly reflections as well. By the time you have reached thirty days, you will have begun to change your love life.

Congratulations on taking the first step to changing your life for the better!

Jennifer Victory

My Story

My dating journey began a little later than the average girl. I was what they call a late bloomer. Due to an overprotective Latina mother, a generally shy disposition, and an unfashionable wardrobe that provoked the torture of insensitive boys in middle school, I had my first official date, and kiss, at the age of sixteen. I remember we’d just seen There’s Something About Mary in an Arizona movie theater, and we were doing laps around the mall. Once seated on a bench, I knew the moment was coming. When he kissed me, I thought, blah. I spent the next few weeks avoiding him until I got up the nerve to break up with him.

And thus began my journey into the dating realm. Thankfully, the next boyfriend I had elicited a much more positive reaction when he kissed me. An edge that I had over the other girls in the high school dating scene was a clever mother, cousin, and grandmother that taught me all of the tricks of the trade when it comes to seducing men (or in my case, boys). And I have to say they worked! It amazed me. Although I stayed the virginal course throughout my high school years, I’ll always remember remember the guinea pig experiments I conducted on those poor, unsuspecting boys, who I thought deserved it since they were trying to get in my pants anyway.

I couldn’t help but notice that the more aloof, distant, and confident I was with them, the more crazy they were about me. I marveled at responses of love that I thought would elicit responses of disinterest. I also watched my friends that were too nice, available, or jealous get dumped over and over again. In high school, I also learned that playing hard to get must come from good intentions, and not just playing games with someone I had no interest in. I played with fire and got burned that way. I realized it wasn’t about playing hard to get with those you weren’t into, but with the one you really wanted.

By college, I had moved out of my parent’s place and was ready to rebel against my family’s dating ideals. It was the twenty-first century! Maybe they were wrong! Maybe what they were saying was too old-fashioned for the real world. I’d date openly, honestly, flying by the seat of my pants. So, I let my emotions guide the way in the heat of the moment. Unfortunately, all this did was prove my mother right. As much as I fought it, there was a pattern in place that I had to follow to seduce and keep the man I wanted. As soon as I veered from the formula, the relationship would stall or fall apart. And I’m big on noticing the patterns of life that do and don’t work. So after a few years of college dating, and a few bad breakups, I decided to take a break from dating altogether.

For almost two years, I was off the dating market. I was totally single, with really no interest in getting wrapped up in a romantic relationship. Although it wasn’t done consciously at the time, I really just needed the time to fall in love with myself, and to figure out who I really was, without the context of a relationship. I was tired of the pressures of the outside world to be in a relationship. Every family reunion I went to, every magazine I opened up, seemed to be asking me, Why are you single? I was sick of the culture that says if you’re not in a relationship, then there must be something wrong with you. Especially when I’d see women who were miserable in their relationships. Better to be alone than in bad company, I thought. And to be honest, I’m truly thankful that I did this. It kept me from making more mistakes with men that could have left me scarred or bitter. By the time I felt the yearnings for a relationship again, I was strong, confident, and happy. I was ready to meet the love of my life. And I was going to do it in the best way possible, and on my terms this time. At 25, I met my future husband. By the time I was 26, we were engaged, and by my 27th birthday, we were married.

My journey from single to happily married is where the Seduce Smart Program was born. I wrote this book to outline the same strategies and techniques I used to meet and marry the man of my dreams. However, instead of taking two years to detoxify before you dive back into the dating scene, I’m only asking you to take thirty days. I realize