The Jealousy Of Retrospect: How To Deal With Your Partner’s Past In An Unbelievable Way Even You Are The Most Jealous Person Ever

By MKT KINGS

Having trouble letting go of your partner's past sexual or relationship history?
Is it important to you to let go of perpetual negative thoughts and anxiety?
What if I told you that the "cure" to retrospective jealousy already exists within you? The only thing you need is some guidance.
The perspective I write from is that of someone who overcame intense jealousy surrounding the past of her partner. There is no other book that will help you let go of jealous thoughts and anxiety about your partner's past, learn how to cope with constant anxiety and unrest, and find greater peace than "Deal with Retrospective Jealousy".
Part One: The contents contain chapters that deal with what retrospective jealousy is, what it looks and feels like, where it comes from, and what it means for you.
Part Two: describes the steps necessary for dealing with retrospective jealousy in a practical, step-by-step ways. My own retrospective jealousy made me realize that these exercises and practices were effective because they helped me to overcome it.
I have had to overcome crippling retrospective jealousy by self-exploration, growth and discovery, and write from that perspective. It is my goal to inform you that you can overcome retrospective jealously by writing.
Perhaps you feel helpless at the moment; like retrospective jealousy is something that you must "live with" until you die. Having obsessive jealous thoughts and feeling confused can make you feel severely depressed. I am here to let you know that you are suffering unnecessarily.

• Language: English
• Publisher: MKT
• Release date: Aug 22, 2021
• ISBN: 9791220838306

Book preview

PART ONE

How Does Traditional OCD Work?

Firstly, let's discuss what OCD means in general and then the links between it and retrospective jealousy.

It can be defined as a psychological condition characterized by the inability to control certain behaviors and thoughts. It is usually associated with people who have obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors, such as:

Hands repeatedly washed

Making sure the front door is locked

Self-harm or harming others is on one's mind

Needing symmetry and orderliness

Contemplating contamination and disease

Keeping the pavement from cracking

Usually, anxiety is triggered by obsessive thoughts. Thus, in order to find temporary relief, the sufferer engages in a compulsive behavior. This is how the cycle continues...

Compulsions and obsessions in the OCD cycle

Sometimes people think negatively and obsessively. The thought of driving your car into oncoming traffic may sometimes cross your mind, for example. Or throwing ice cream in the face of a stranger.

It is the obsession to stop negative thoughts from occurring and finding temporary relief through behaviors that distinguishes random negative thoughts from OCD.

OCD has no known cause. Women, men, and children are affected by it, and it can significantly lower one's quality of life.

A doctor usually recommends CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) for someone with OCD. Or patients may also be prescribed drugs. In some cases, both are possible.

Retrospective Jealousy: What Is It?

Throughout our lives , we have been jealous. It is also common to feel uncomfortable about our partners' sexual and romantic activities. In most cases, however, the jealousy that is relationship-related disappears within days. They rarely harm us or our partners. Do you tend to worry too much about your partner's sexual and romantic history? Would it negatively affect your sense of well-being? A retrospective jealousy could be at work if this is the case.

The term jealousy retrospective (retrograde or retroactive jealousy) often refers to unhealthy feelings about the sexual life or experiences of your partner. People are naturally jealous of the past of their partners, but this is just jealousy.

If, on the other hand, she suddenly loses all control, including obsessive thoughts and negative emotions that have negative outcomes, it is retrospective jealousy. It can cause patients to experience continual pain and damage their relationships, or even lead to their end.

How to Understand Retrospective Jealousy

Psychologically, retrospective jealousy is a mental disorder. Before beginning a relationship with someone, we are very interested in our partner's sexual and romantic history. You will be haunted by this look all day and all night. If your partner has betrayed you, you may find it hard to concentrate on anything else and you are likely to worry about his/her behavior.

As well as making you paranoid, retrospective jealousy can also lead to aggressive behavior and negative thoughts towards your partner. Your partner may start making you doubt everything he or she does or says.

The general principle behind retrospective jealousy is that it is unjustified. Perhaps you don't need to end your relationship. A delay in the resolution of this situation could end up causing the relationship to end. In addition, it can have serious effects on your mental and physical health.

How Traditional OCD Relates To Retrospective Jealousy OCD

Retrospective jealousy is often compared to obsessive-compulsive disorder, or OCD, because it shares many of its characteristics.

The Retrospective Jealousy and Obsessive Thoughts

Retrospective jealousy is characterized by the mind constantly flinging up images or imaginings of your partner with another person. Time and time again.

In other words, you seem to be controlled by your repetitive thought patterns rather than the other way around.

When you realize that these repetitive thoughts aren't worth paying attention to, dealing with them becomes even more difficult. These are past events, but that's what makes them painful, because it's obvious they shouldn't matter. Despite this, they do...

Typically, sufferers will try to force themselves to stop thinking about pink elephants, but this leads them into a state of mental war with themselves.

The phrase resistance breeds persistence is true-and by trying to ignore the past, repetitive thoughts about it are magnified even more. In fact, these repetitive thoughts are almost certainly inaccurate. Insecurity is a manifestation of an insecure mind that assumes the worst even though it has no idea what happened.

Are you sure they had such a good time in the US? And how did that one-night stand go? In your mind, you may have images of an insanely hot session with your partner's ex or being on an idyllic holiday with them, but in reality, your partner's ex is probably not like that.

The intensity of retrospective jealousy OCD, intrusive thoughts about the past can vary from mild (occasionally), to extreme (almost constant).

We'll discuss this further later, but retrospective jealousy sufferers