Women Are Like Cats and Men Like Dogs: Or Are They?

By Kat Brown

Life is too short to live it miserably. One of the worst ways of making your life unproductive is the endless misunderstandings and miss-handling of one another, whether intentionally or not.
If you study the behaviour of Cats and Dogs you will doubtlessly see some similarities and this book subtly shows that.
This book is an observation of how men and women exchange with each other, pointing out obvious mistakes and offering suggestions to improve peoples relationships.
Take for example the woman who says to her partner “We need to talk”. Thats one of the biggest no nos, or women already making appointment with a wedding planner a just after one night of passion, or the woman who spends hours gossiping with her girlfriend in her mans ear shot, or indeed the man who brings back a size too large for his woman or who never notices a new hairstyle or both not communicating properly, The list is endless.
It should have most readers in hysterics especially when they stumble upon scenarios they can relate too.
Don’t be surprised if you recognize yourself! Hey, don't shoot the messenger!

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Dec 9, 2011
• ISBN: 9781467897839

Kat Brown

Kat Brown’s successful career as an entertainer enabled her to gather a plethora of stories about the quest for relationship happiness. As a self-confessed people-watcher, she is equipped with the knowledge. She’s self taught in various social studies and well-read upon similar subjects such as psychology. Being an avid social person provides enormous opportunity for Kat’s research. People divulge all sorts of personal information in a relaxed informal environment, and after hearing others confess certain experiences, before she knew it, she had a whole book. Kat’s good listening ability and agile, judgement-free reasoning adds to her advantage as an effective self-improvement author.

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CONTENTS

Introduction

Chapter 1 Why the Title

Chapter 2 Ma Mama Used to Say

Chapter 3 Sorry Seems To Be the Hardest Word

Chapter 4 Cultural Differences

Chapter 5 Feelings of Loneliness

Chapter 6 You’ll Nag till You’re … ah … Hoarse

Chapter 7 Oh, the Games People Play

Chapter 8 There’s More to Life Than Looks

Chapter 9 Presents: Getting It Right

Chapter 10 A Few Useful Tips for Marital Bliss

Chapter 11 Different Breeds

Chapter 12 The Pride of Every Dawg Gone Man

Chapter 13 Three Little Words

Chapter 14 Predators

Chapter 15 Damsels in Distress

Chapter 16 Sexual Love

Chapter 17 Motion in the Ocean

Chapter 18 Whatever Turns You On

Chapter 19 Why Do Men Stray?

Chapter 20 Whatever Really Turns You On

Chapter 21 Out of Site, Outa Your Mind

Chapter 22 Let’s Stay Together

Chapter 23 Let’s Stray Together

Chapter 24 When a Man Won’t Commit

Chapter 25 How to Get Your Man to Commit

Chapter 26 Why We Choose Who We Do

Chapter 27 Emotional Well-Being

Chapter 28 Types, Practises, Preferences

Chapter 29 Secret of Desire

Chapter 30 When He’s Not Enough

Chapter 31 Can an Affair Save a Marriage?

Chapter 32 Love Cures

Chapter 33 Be Careful What You Wish For; It Might Come True

Chapter 34 Destructive and Productive Habits

Chapter 35 Going Solo

Chapter 36 Star Signs

Prologue

About the Book

About the Author

INTRODUCTION

I am just an ordinary girl with an extraordinary wish. I only have my personal opinions to go by from years of being a knowledge-hungry observer who loves watching people’s behaviour. At my ripe age (and still counting), and after travelling the world mingling with men and women from all corners of the globe, I am more than qualified to write this book.

Another credential is my marriage to an Icelander for over twenty years. I call us Ice on Fire. Hey, I must be doing something right to keep such an odd mismatch going. I have always been surrounded by men from every colour, creed, sexual preference, religion, and the list goes on and on. Same goes for women.

My research consists of asking various women and men their opinions on the opposite sex.

I’ve noticed there are several books written about men and women. One that immediately springs to mind is written by Steve Harvey Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man That’s mainly about a man’s psyche. I particularly feel the need to argue with that masterpiece and add to it.

Before I continue, I would like to thank Anne Hutchison for her contribution, plus friends and family for allowing me to embarrass and shock them, although everyone’s identity is disguised. Actually, I’m kind of dreading my family reading this. They still consider me as the naive one of the family; little do they know.

I also thank God for equipping me with the confidence to write this book, at the risk of being vilified.

I will endeavour to give my subjective take on what’s going on in the world of relationship unhappiness. Regardless of race, colour, age, star sign, stature, education, status, family background, religion, or influence, we all have our basic makeup to deal with, and that very aspect can cause a multitude of discomfort when it comes to relationships. There are variations of how good or bad things can be, depending on the above factors, but happiness is more likely between two people who have key things in common, such as religion, money mentality, background, intellect, taste in music or film, lifestyle, and culinary tastes; it saves loads of arguments and resentments.

This may be somewhat controversial, as some statements may not be very welcomed. Some people may not want to face their shortcomings, but this topic needs to be aired and addressed. I apologise in advance if I offend anyone. It is not a men-bashing book, by any means. I have endeavoured to find a way to be neutral and extremely fair without any bias (at least very little). Let’s face it, guys: I am going to lean more to the female side if the truth be known, but I hope everyone can recognise the hidden message that not all men are dogs and not all women are cats. In fact, the roles are often reversed.

And I once more reiterate: I am not a psychologist, counsellor, expert, or professional in these matters; just personal observations and thorough research.

OK, let’s get stuck in.

CHAPTER 1

Why the Title

S ome men will no doubt straight away snigger, snarl, and snap—something like, What the hell is this woman on? or How dare she expose us? or even Who gave her the right?

The answer to all the above is what I said in the beginning.

If I can come to these conclusions, so can a large majority of other women. These findings are from years of exchanging experiences with fellow felines. I’ve also passed loads of hours clocking the behaviour of men around me, so please don’t put me in the doghouse.

The comparison often to dogs is pretty tongue-in-cheek yet curiously accurate.

For example, a dog marks his territory. This is not unlike a man. There’s no one more territorial than a man with his possession. That is, of course, if the man is very much in love and insecure. I would also go so far as to say that some men are incredibly territorial with their possessions, including their food. Have you watched a dog with a bone? Take it away from him at your peril. Yes, some men are selfish. Take my husband, for example; you will be reading more about him later. Himey’s one of the kindest people you could ever meet, but boy, is he selfish with his food, clothes, and other possessions. Many a time have I been rebuffed from wearing his shirt or jumper, and woe betide any who dip into his plate of food. He makes me feel like Dickens’s Oliver Twist. Mind you, he will release the unwanted, meagre offerings on his plate. Indeed, men are similar to dogs on that front.

It is doubly so if a man’s social culture endorses a certain level of machismo. We will cover that later.

A dog pants when he is excited. Is that not like a man? Of course, that would again depend upon his sex drive, but that is basically how it is. He will seem like he’s panting or drooling at an attractive bitch or some other delicious offering.

You will never find a more loyal creature than a man if he feels for the woman. There again—just like a dog with his master.

FEMALE COMPARISONS

A woman scorned or wronged can be the most vicious creature there is. Yes, a bitch. But a woman can be an absolute pussycat if nurtured, stroked, and treated with care. She will purr non-stop. Her nuzzles will be overpowering. She will manipulate, calculate, and scheme her way to her wishes. The more feminine the woman is, the more manipulative she is. You can learn more about that in chapter 15.

Yes, a certain type of woman will stop at nothing to seek revenge if wronged. OK, that’s more of a bitch. But if we’re honest, ladies, don’t most of us have those tendencies? However, it usually depends on the basic character of the woman as to how far she will go. It also depends on cell memory, recalling what she witnessed at home while growing up. At the end of the day, we should never forget the influence relationships have on every individual.

If the woman had a healthy relationship with her father, she will have a less troubled experience in the romance department. For example, if her father was a good husband to her mother, then she will seek the same for herself. If, on the other hand, her relationship with Daddy was flawed, she will repeatedly find the wrong men romantically, even if their intentions are honourable.

I should also say the same goes for men. If a man saw positive behaviour in his house between his dad and mum, he will more likely be the same sort of guy. If he only saw abuse—whether mental, emotional, or physical—there is a likelihood he also will abuse. After all, he never witnessed anything else. This pattern could well be reversed if the man—or woman, for that matter—is aware.

Awareness is the key to almost everything. Only then can we change for the better. Without it, we get worse.

Imagine a computer. How do you get your PC to do a job? You program it. It’s as simple as that.

Imagine years of programming. We have doubtless experienced that in our lives. Whatever data we’ve accumulated takes a long, long time to undo, update, or modify.

Some problems take longer than others, and some are more disturbing than others, but however much effort it takes, it is in your interest to make your life happier. We owe it to ourselves as God’s precious creatures, which has inspired this quest to understand each other better.

CHAPTER 2

Ma Mama Used to Say

I come from strong Jamaican stock. My late mother was not only an incredibly strong Jamaican woman but also Victorian. Her opinions about men were, at the best of times, not very flattering and at the worst, downright insulting.

She always warned me against men and regularly crucified my father, something not too unusual from what I’m hearing. Of course, being the youngest and a daddy’s girl, I passionately defended him. I always argued that not all men were like my dad and that there were loads of great men out there, which there are. But alas, a damaged woman may not see that.

Admittedly, the West Indian man’s ego is somewhat frailer than most, and many behave unacceptably towards women.

Now, I will not make excuses in every paragraph for what I write, so those who are offended can close this book now. There will always be exceptions, but we are dealing with the typical in all the instances.

Remember: I am not bashing men.

Again, regarding my mother, though exceptionally robust, she was pretty subservient to my father at the onset of their relationship.

She used to wash his feet, cook his favourite meals, and hold down a full-time job, until her mother