Do you struggle with rejection?
How does your response vary from the boardroom to the bedroom?
Do layers of your identity affect how you deal with rejection?

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12 Strategies To Deal With Rejection

Episode 328

[00:00:00] Jess O'Reilly: Hey, Hey, we're diving into part two of rejection today. And it's, it's a throwback to follow up from last week and next week, I promise we'll be back with something brand new. Actually, it's a seven minute writing exercise to protect relationships. in the long run. And I'm actually really excited for this upcoming episode because I found my half of the exercise super useful to help reframe how I see conflict and my role in it.

[00:00:25] Jess O'Reilly: And I know Brandon hasn't done his half yet, but we'll come back next week and try the collaborative part together and see how it goes. So I'm looking forward. All right, without further ado, let's dive into rejection. Part two,

[00:00:44] Jess O'Reilly: you're listening to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight.

[00:00:53] Brandon Ware: Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your cohost Brandon Ware here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess.

[00:00:59] Jess O'Reilly: Well, hello. Hello. I'm good, I'm good. We're going to be talking about rejection because we started talking about rejection last week by accident, sort of, and I got a lot of feedback actually on that episode and people had a lot of questions and maybe felt we didn't go as much into depth as we could have and also people shared their insights.

[00:01:15] Jess O'Reilly: So today we're going to talk about how to handle rejection and potentially boost confidence and I have insights from over a dozen people who sent short messages, longer messages, uh, and all really helpful. stuff actually.

[00:01:26] Brandon Ware: I feel like I did go very deep personally.

[00:01:29] Jess O'Reilly: Oh, and it was, uh, to be clear, people weren't complaining.

[00:01:32] Jess O'Reilly: They just kind of wanted more of it.

[00:01:33] Brandon Ware: Oh, okay. Well, I mean, rejection is something that everybody deals with. So let's do it.

[00:01:36] Jess O'Reilly: Yeah. And last week, actually, we talked about the fact that you don't feel badly when I reject you sexually. It's when it's otherwise. Mm hmm. Yes. And that's really interesting because one of the first comments I received, and then I received a number along this theme, is around why women can say no to sex, but when a guy says no, it's absurd or crazy, and there were a bunch of other kind of descriptions there.

[00:01:58] Jess O'Reilly: And it really does speak to these [00:02:00] gender double standards that are rooted in, I think, social capital around, along gender lines, right? Men are supposed to always want sex, they're supposed to be good at sex, they're supposed to take it personally if a partner doesn't want them. Um, and for women... It's a little bit different.

[00:02:13] Jess O'Reilly: Now, I definitely work with a ton of women who feel pressure to have sex, especially in relationships and in marriages, but we do, we, we,