Bruised Hearts: Learning to Forgive Others

By Johanna Sparrow

Tell me what you’ve gone through and I’m sure I can tell you why you are having certain struggles and pains in your life today. Tell me the worst you’ve had to experience and I will tell you why you’re still not over it. Life tragedies not only leave scars that last a lifetime but a bruised heart in its aftermath. Although many if not all of life’s bruises have healed on the outer surface of your body they are not gone.

They have all settled deep within your heart’s core issuing blow after blow leading one to experience loss, heartbreak, grief, humiliation, rejection, tragedy and pain that’s never ending upon a heart that’s badly bruised. Your untimely outburst is a testament to the bruised heart you carry that has yet to heal. Are you tired of hurting and forgetting? Are you ready to get to the bottom of why past pains come back? Bruised Heart is the reason but it does not have to be. True healing takes place from the inside out, starting with one’s heart. I’ve dealt with my share of life bruises and have overcome them all. Now if I can heal my bruised heart, so can you!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Johanna Sparrow
• Release date: Aug 2, 2015
• ISBN: 9781311429872

Johanna Sparrow

Antoinette M Watkins writes under the pen name Johanna Sparrow, she has been writing for over 17 years and has published a variety of books from children's books to self-help books dealing with relationship, personal growth and conflict issues. She uses her expertise, knowledge and experience on a system she's created and used over the years dating back as far as 1995 in improving relationship issues, called the (HBCCR)© Heart Bruised Conscious Connection Renewal codes which we either have or don't have inside of us. When she is not writing self help books she writes Novels and Novella under the pen name SPARROW.In 2015 Johanna Sparrow will release for the first time her powerful and inspiring HBCCR system she's created for the rest of the world in hopes that we all can find a common goal or ground within our daily connections. She has researched and studied over the years connections between human to human and human to nature interactions in which she concluded in her research how understanding ones connections and disconnections in life is the essential step code and laws for love, happiness and tragedy, governing and guiding us in becoming life's greatest or worse creation to ever exist.

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Bruised Hearts

Learning to Forgive Others

Johanna Sparrow

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Table of Content

Foreword

Introduction

Chapter One Bruised hearts

Chapter Two Bruised Heart Infidelity

Chapter Three Bruised Heart Divorce

Chapter Four Bruised Heart Childhood

Chapter Five Bruised Heart Friendship

Chapter Six Bruised Heart Relationships

Chapter Seven Bruised Heart Rejections

Chapter Eight Bruised Heart Disconnections

Chapter Nine Bruised Heart Hurts

Chapter Ten Bruised Heart Grief

Chapter Eleven Trauma

Chapter Twelve Emotionally Roller Coaster

Chapter Thirteen Letting Go of Life Bruises

Chapter Fourteen Preparing and Healing the Heart

Chapter Fifteen Reinventing a New Heart

Other books by Johanna Sparrow

Don’t Tell the Milkman If You Don’t Want Him to Tell the World; How Recognize and Stop Relational Aggression

Elephant In The Bed; What’s Blocking Your Sex Life? How to Recognize and Stop Problems Affecting Your Relationship

Sabotage; I Love You Too Death; How to Stop Killing Your Relationships Because of Commitment Phobias

Don’t Ask Dick; How to Date the Right Man Without Becoming a One-Night Stand: The Sophisticated Lady’s Guide for Dating in 2015/2016

Foreword

We all have issues that we deal with daily, be it illness, separations, abuse, anger fear, neglect, or death. These are just some of the negative things that life has dealt your bruised heart over the course of time. I once heard the old saying—life hurts. I never knew what it meant until I started receiving my fair share of life’s heartaches. I knew that I wasn’t the only one, but for years I wondered how others handled life’s disappointments that had them on a rollercoaster ride of life.

How deep is the pain you carry? For many of my family and friends their pain was so deep at certain times of their lives that they didn’t know the answer to that question.

How long have you been hurting? A significant amount of people will tell you that their heart has never been free from the blows that life can throw. They hide behind smiles and laughter, but you can tell that they’re hurting deep within.

Who has been hurt at some point in their lives? For some reason, this question is often followed by silence when asked amongst family and friends. For those who try to answer it, the hurt and anger comes out in their tone when they retort, Who’s thinking about that? Well, I’m someone who thinks about these questions all the time.

The issue of emotional pain is a touchy subject no matter how it’s brought up. When pain isn’t processed properly, the heart can’t heal properly which is why many people look to escape emotional and psychological troubles through drugs, sex, shopping, or overeating rather than dealing with the issues.

Some people don’t know that the deeply rooted hurt and anger they feel comes from a traumatic childhood event or circumstance. For others whose cause of pain is more recent, they can be seen perpetrating as if nothing has ever happened to them while they hope and pray that the pain goes away.

Is there a healing process for a bruised heart? There is, but many people refuse to let that process happen naturally. They attempt to rush it to move on with their lives. As a result, they’re never healed. Like a silent volcano on the edge of erupting, the bruised heart waits for the perfect opportunity to embarrass you when you least expect. Don’t you know that a bruised heart isn’t a healed heart? Day after day, you carry your issues deep in your heart, not knowing that sudden rage and angry outbursts are residue of a bruised heart.

The bruises you’ve sustained in life will be with you until you acknowledge them. It’s simple but hard to put into practice if you hate to show emotion or prefer to hide behind smiles when you’re full of pain and darkness. Many carry around a heavy heart but don’t even know it until they react. All it takes is a minor situation to send a person with a severely bruised heart into emotional and physical overdrive. Many people tell others that they’re fine when deep down, they know that’s a lie.

A bruised heart has gone by many names such as a baby blues, blue heart, the blues, depression, etc. A person with a bruised heart can have a nasty attitude when dealing with someone they don’t trust. Your negative attitude has kept people away from you, and your bruised heart is the cause of your negative attitude.

Life’s bruises can hide deep within your heart, only revealing themselves when you’re put in situations that are like the ones that caused the bruises. Long after the body has healed and the scars have disappeared, your bruised heart will still be fighting the pain.

Are you so numb to the pain that you can’t feel anything? This is when your heart and emotions meet head on to understand how to cope. Having a bruised heart can make you feel invisible one minute and vulnerable the next. How do you heal something that you can’t see? You heal by allowing your feelings the freedom they need to go into the various stages of healing.

It’s easy to aid in the healing process of bodily bruises, but not so easy to aid the healing of a bruised heart. Especially if you haven’t noticed that you have one. The heart can take on many different forms of bruises that’ll never heal unless you’re aware of them? The key is remembering what caused your initial hurt even though it’s most likely something that you want to completely forget.

Is your heart breaking? How can you wait so long to take care of one of the largest and hardest working organs in the body? The response your heart is giving you is its way of pushing back. Ultimately, unless you understand that your bruised heart is crying out for help, you won’t be able to control your feelings. The heart never forgets what you went through and wraps those situations in a ball of unexplained emotions that are fueled by rage and passion. The heart is where you’ll feel the effects of emotional bruises. No two bruised hearts are the same. While one suffers through illness or abuse, another could be dealing with rejection or grief. Now, explain that to your heart!

Because of studying bruised hearts, I’m beginning to understand why so many people can’t let go of past troubling life experiences. It’s because bruised hearts are stricken with fear, pain, anger, rage, unforgiveness, bitterness, doubt, envy, jealousy, and confusion. Knowing how the heart responds to every emotion can lead to a breakthrough in your thought process as well as purged emotions. Once you’ve allowed yourself to confront your heart’s bruises, you can tell your aching heart to stop caring about a past event.

The next step is helping your bruised heart release the pain it’s been holding onto for years to end the hurting process. You’ll find that many problems in your life can be attributed to old wounds surfacing as current issues. Knowing how and when to care is important in the healing process. You may be dealing with something