Fearful- Avoidant in Love

By Johanna Sparrow

You’ve been playing games in your relationship far too long and it’s about to cost you what you really want: love. If you don’t pull it together and get a grip, you know you will be alone soon. Fearing rejection and abandonment, a person with the fearful-avoidant attachment style is passive-aggressive and has a hard time seeing their own worth. They question love and their actions are confusing to their partner. This book discusses all four attachment styles, but highlights the fearful-avoidant partner.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Johanna Sparrow
• Release date: Oct 10, 2018
• ISBN: 9780463456224

Johanna Sparrow

Antoinette M Watkins writes under the pen name Johanna Sparrow, she has been writing for over 17 years and has published a variety of books from children's books to self-help books dealing with relationship, personal growth and conflict issues. She uses her expertise, knowledge and experience on a system she's created and used over the years dating back as far as 1995 in improving relationship issues, called the (HBCCR)© Heart Bruised Conscious Connection Renewal codes which we either have or don't have inside of us. When she is not writing self help books she writes Novels and Novella under the pen name SPARROW.In 2015 Johanna Sparrow will release for the first time her powerful and inspiring HBCCR system she's created for the rest of the world in hopes that we all can find a common goal or ground within our daily connections. She has researched and studied over the years connections between human to human and human to nature interactions in which she concluded in her research how understanding ones connections and disconnections in life is the essential step code and laws for love, happiness and tragedy, governing and guiding us in becoming life's greatest or worse creation to ever exist.

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Fearful- Avoidant in Love

How Understanding the Four Main Styles of Attachment Can Impact Your Relationship

JOHANNA SPARROW

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Fearful-Avoidant in Love Revised© 2018 Johanna Sparrow All rights reserved.

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CONTENTS

Introduction

Who’s Loving the Fearful- Avoidant Partner?

No One Wants the Dismissive-Avoidant Partner

Leaving the Anxious-Preoccupied Partner Behind

In Search of the Secure Partner

Change Your Attachment Style

Attachment Styles

What Do You Want from Me?

Change Your Attitude

How Attachment Styles Can Affect Your Relationship

Conclusion

INTRODUCTION

You’ve been playing games in your relationship for far too long and it’s about to cost you everything you want, love. If you don’t pull it together and get a grip, you will be by yourself in the coming months and this you know. Your commitment phobic behavior is brighter than a neon sign and your partner is not the only one who sees it.

You’ve been dating the same person off and on for the past five years. You know everything about them. Every few months, your breaking-up, and getting back together as if nothing happened. Your make-up moments are exciting. But lately, you’ve been living for those make-up moments more than the actual relationship. You feel helpless if not loss in your next move, but you tell yourself it will get better. If you don’t pull it together soon and stop the games, breakups will be the high-lite of your relationship.

As soon as someone gets close to you, you are pushing them away if not out the door. You don’t trust them, but you want a relationship with them anyway. You don’t want to be left behind or thrown away like a piece of garbage. Loving you can cause anger, distraction and distance what I like to call, (ADD), but it’s how someone like you feels loved. This passive aggressive behavior keeps your partner trying to figure you out daily, but they never will. You switch up on them every chance you get never allowing them to know your next move.

You have a parade of charades that’ll drive anybody loving you crazy if not to drinking. You push the right buttons at the right time than take the backseat approach when things get too hot I see what you’re doing, you’re so afraid of being alone and not wanted or loved that you manufacture drama in order to keep things spiced up in your relationship.

You aren’t fooling anyone around here. You see that push and pull tug of war you are pulling in your relationship baby is all about control.

You taking this don’t leave me love

Reviews for Fearful- Avoidant in Love

[Shasta · Rating: 1 out of 5 stars]

This book was written like a stream of consciousness, in that it is not structured in such a way that it clearly describes the topic, but rather it is written like someone is just talking to you about avoidant attachment style from their own perspective and experience. It was often difficult to determine the subject of the sentence or paragraph — the avoidant person or their partner. It was not well organized, and truthfully I could not get past the first few pages. I was really excited to learn more about this, but I will search for another resource.

[Maya E. Huskee · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

Another quick and digestable read from Johanna Sparrow. If you've read "Dismissive Avoidant in Love", it does cover much of the same things but I did not feel like it was a waste to read; this addition only added more to my understanding of attachment styles. I did notice this one was a little harder to read--structrually it seemed more like a second draft than a final draft--but I would not say this took away from the value I gained from reading this book. So thank you again, JS.

[Kyle Wideman · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This is an amazing read. Knowing my attachment style and now understanding my partners a bit more will be paramount in creating space for each other. Excellent work!