The elusive 4th category of adult attachment, disorganization, and how this state of mind relates to everyone, no matter your trauma history.   Dropping into overwhelm and disorganization happens to everyone at times, and some more than others. When we have been exposed to serious danger, unresolved fright or major loss in such a way that it interferes with healthy coping patterns, we are left to our own to manage the world.  In research terms they call this disorganized, but we'd like to describe it as squirting squid ink to confuse who we think is the predator and making a run for it. 

Wrapping up this 3-part series focusing specifically on adult attachment, Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discuss disorganized attachment, how it forms, how it appears in adult life, and how you can identify when you fall in a pocket of it to organize yourself internally and externally.