The Adult Attachment Workbook: Powerful Strategies to Promote Understanding, Increase Security, and Build Long-Lasting Relationships

By Kate Homily

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Kate Homily
• Release date: Jul 23, 2021
• ISBN: 9781990508011

Kate Homily

About Kate Homily My name is Kate Homily, and I am a relationship therapist. With over 18 years of experience, I have seen many cases of relationship anxiety. At one point in my life, I even experienced it for myself. It was a battle for me to overcome, but I made it out on the other side. Through my wisdom, I hope to teach others how they can do the same thing. Today, I am a happily married mother of three with two rambunctious puppies. It took a lot of hard work to get here, but I now know exactly what it takes to create harmony in my life and marriage. I no longer spend my days worrying about the what-ifs or that my life could fall apart. Instead, I have the time to enjoy all of my blessings and remain thankful for everything that I've accomplished.

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The Adult Attachment Workbook

Powerful Strategies to Promote Understanding, Increase Security, and Build Long-Lasting Relationships

Kate Homily

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Attachment Styles: Where Do You Fall on the Spectrum?

Attachment: A Brief History

The Four Attachment Styles

Attachment Styles and Relationships

Chapter 2: An Overview of Attachment Through Different Life Stages

Attachment in Infancy and Childhood

Attachment Styles: Factors That Influence Your Kids

Attachment in Adolescence and Young Adulthood

Mid-Life Attachment

Attachment in Later Life

Chapter 3: Getting Started With Some Self-Awareness: Emotionally Focused Family Therapy Techniques

What Is Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT)?

Stages and Steps of EFFT

Ways to Classify and Identify Attachment Styles

Core Interventions and EFFT Exercises

Finding an EFFT Therapist

Chapter 4: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Self-Improvement

What Is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)?

How CBT Is Used to Treat Anxiety and Depression Disorders

CBT: The Process

Common Types of Cognitive Distortions Based on Your Attachment Style

Self-Improvement Practices and Exercises

Chapter 5: Finding Happiness in Your Single Life

Your Attachment Style and Your Confidence

What You Want From a Relationship, You Want From Yourself

Challenges to Overcome

Singlehood Models

How to Become Single, Secure, and Happy

Chapter 6: Strategies to Build Stronger, More Meaningful Relationships

Key Concepts in Promoting a Secure Attachment

Healing From Trauma Through Emotionally Corrective Relationships

Attachment Style Interactions and Their Relationship Challenges

Exercises to Strengthen Your Relationship

Chapter 7: Long-Term Relationship Happiness: What’s the Secret?

Your Emotional Intelligence

Strengthen Your Communication Skills

Healing Your Trauma and Moving Towards Secure Attachment

Compromise

Privacy and Personal Time

Be Open and Honest About Difficult Questions

Spontaneity and Doing Fun Things Together

The Importance of Touch and Physical Intimacy

Don’t Try to Change Each Other, Respect Your Differences

Cultivate Patience and Respect

Know When It’s Time to Get Out

Conclusion

Thinking, Feeling, and Doing

Finding, Fixing, and Healing

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Introduction

It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.

~ Eartha Kitt

You’ve done it again. You entered another relationship that seemed destined to fail. This has become your modus operandi, or so it seems. Why do you go for a certain type of person? It almost seems to be your weakness. However, this is not your weakness; instead, it is your own style of attachment.

From your primary relationship, your bond with your childhood caregivers, you have learned to behave in a certain way. This type of behavior has become a habit that is ingrained in your thinking and doing. These behaviors are known as styles of attachment. Psychologists have conducted many tests and research studies over the years to discover why people do things the way they do them, and John Bowlby (a psychoanalyst) finally created the theory of attachments to explain the four styles of attachment that were identified.

In a nutshell, the best form of attachment that is most stable and responsive to change and helps you to be in a successful relationship is known as a secure attachment style. This style of attachment usually develops in children who are raised in homes with dependable parents who quickly address their children’s fears and help them deal with stressors in a responsible manner. In essence, these children grow up to be secure self-loving adults, and this enables them to share that love with others in a responsible and compassionate way.

The three other styles of attachment are known as insecure attachment styles and start in children who are raised in homes where there was irregular activity, with parents who were not dependable and emotionally unavailable, where they suffered trauma and neglect. These styles all enable us to deal with the stressors of a relationship in different ways, and because of them, we can engage in harmful behavior. There is also evidence of insecure attachment styles contributing to mental health challenges as people struggle to deal with trauma or to build their self-confidence, and we should all try to move towards more secure attachment styles.