How To Find Forever Love

By Ken Chickk

Is it your dream to find someone you can lovingly spend the rest of your life with?
Have you tried to find love but only ended up with disappointment and pain?
Are you tired of going from one poor relationship to the next?
Would you like to stop going through life single and alone?
If you answered yes to any of the above questions this is your must-have book.

This book reveals:

• How to effectively determine the perfect match for you.
• How to condense the time it takes to find your Forever Love.
• Should you search online or locally?
• How to immediately recognize warning signs that they might not be for you.
• Can speaking the same love language make a difference in life-long happiness?
• What is the highest form of love according to the Greek philosophers?
• This could be the best investment you will ever make to find a lifelong partner!

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Battle Press
• Release date: Jul 22, 2023
• ISBN: 9798987337981

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Introduction

You might have heard the saying, If you don't know where you're going, any road will take you there, but you might not like the final destination when you arrive. That saying definitely applies when it comes to finding your Forever Love, you don't want to leave one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make up to chance. The person you choose to spend the rest of your life with can affect your happiness, health, wealth, and well-being for years and years to come. Yet, when looking for a lifetime partner, most people in America and worldwide put very little effort or research into this important life altering decision. On the other hand, they may spend years studying for a degree, or hours comparing different options when buying a home or car, but they rarely put forth the same effort in their search to find a great life partner.

Relationships in today’s culture normally start with two people meeting online, randomly in public, at church, or through a friend or family member, and from there the relationship progresses based possibly upon physical attraction, shared interests, intellectual attraction or emotional excitement. If the couple develop strong feelings for one another then the relationship will progress and eventually could lead to marriage. But more often than not, what started as something beautiful and exciting ends up with disappointment, heartbreak, and divorce. We all know people who lost everything they worked hard for because they married the wrong person and then spent years trying to recover. With over 54% of all marriages ending in divorce, wouldn’t you agree that we, as a society, should begin to rethink the dating and courtship process? If you agree with that then you’re reading the right book. At the very core of the following pages is a solid fresh approach to the courtship process, a road map, that if followed will help you avoid the common mistakes and pitfalls that many singles make while at the same time guiding you in finding your Forever Love in a proven and strategic way.

As you begin your journey there will be challenges and pitfalls along the way, that I can guarantee you. Allow yourself the freedom to make mistakes, you’re human. A mistake is only a mistake if you don’t learn from it. If you learn from it, it becomes a valuable asset. Learn and move forward. You’ll be glad you did, and you’ll be all the wiser for it.

That said I recommend using a pencil and highlighter to mark and note everything that jumps off the pages at you and speaks wisdom to your heart.

My goal for you is simple: for you to find your perfect match and live happily ever after!

Chapter 1

Why Do Some Marriages Last

50+ Years?

When I was in my early twenties, I received what I soon felt, (because of my sanguine personality) was the most boring job in the world; a job working for a hearing aid company. My duties were to go into the homes of elderly clients and perform an exhaustive hearing test. Although it was a lackluster job the cool thing about it was that I was able to meet couples who had been married for 50 and 60+ years. What an experience that was. What I soon discovered in a lot of these homes was an eye-opening dichotomy to say the least.

You see, in some of these homes, after 50+ years of marriage these couples were still bickering and arguing like they had for a half century before I arrived and now they were doing it right in front of me a complete stranger! I felt like I needed to walk on eggshells while in their homes and was amazed that their marriages had lasted so long. After 50 to 60 years, these couples couldn't stand each other but somehow managed to stay together through all of that. It was very similar to how I grew up. My parents got into an argument early on in their marriage and that argument lasted 37 years, right up to the day my dad passed away. My family environment growing up was toxic to say the least and I couldn’t wait to move out when I turned 18, just like I couldn’t wait to quickly get away from those toxic homes once the exam was over.

On the other hand, there were homes I would enter of couples who had been married the same length of time but after 50 to 60 years had such an incredible, deep abiding love & respect for each other that I could tangibly feel the peace there. It’s hard to explain but once in a home like that I didn’t want to leave. Their love for each other oozed out of every fiber of their beings. It was a complete joy to be in the presence of these couples. I often stayed after the exam, sometime for an hour or more, just asking them questions like how they met and listening to them share their stories. There was so much peace and joy in the home, it was really an amazing environment in which I honestly was in awe of. 

What was it about those opposite types of couples? Why did some couples after 50 + years still treat each other with disdain and the other couples treat each other like priceless gems? I believe through my own painful experience of going through a devasting unwanted divorce, and my subsequent journey to find true lasting love that I discovered some very powerful principles that I've never seen written form before. Principles that I believe will help you, the reader, avoid the pitfalls of marrying the wrong person and in turn find the absolute best match for yourself as possible. My prayer is that through the wisdom of the following chapters you will truly find and live your life happily ever after.

You, my single friend, are the main reason why I chose to write this book. Over the next several chapters I'm going to reveal a road map that will help you make the absolute best decision when choosing the person with whom you’ll spend the rest of your live with.

My goal for this book is to give you a clear pathway to find your Forever Love so that 50 to 60 years from now, when a young person comes into your home to test your hearing, they too will want to stay for hours.

Let's begin...

Chapter 2

Know Myself?

The wise Greek philosopher Socrates, when asked to sum up what all philosophical ideas could be reduced to replied: Know yourself. When starting your search, it is crucial that you understand the different personality traits so you will have greater compassion and understanding towards yourself and also your future spouse.

Socrates contemporary, Hippocrates, was the first philosopher to define individual personality temperaments. Most of the modern personality tests that you can take today are derivatives of his original theory. I personally like the simplicity of Hippocrates four Temperaments and believe it is an excellent place to begin.

Why is it important for the single person to understand their own personality temperaments? There are two important reasons: 1) It’s essential in order to have a deeper understanding of your true self - your inherent qualities and values that God has created you with. This self-awareness helps you appreciate your strengths and can expose your weaknesses, ultimately leading to personal growth that can help you become a better partner for your future spouse. 2) It will give you better insight into understanding the strengths and weaknesses of your future spouse as well in order to love them in a much more informed and intimate way.

You have heard it said that opposites attract, or two halves make a whole. When it comes to temperaments and personality traits this is true more often than not but at the same time if you don’t understand the temperaments, it can be very easy to fall into the trap of soon disliking what you were originally attracted to. Once you do understand your God given personality, and theirs, you can then have much more compassion when it comes to the strengths and weakness of your future spouse and of yourself as well.

The following short personality quiz is based on Hippocrates Four Personality Temperaments. It will give you the basics you need to discover your personality’s strengths and weaknesses. There are no right or wrong answers. Just be true to yourself when answering the questions. Circle what most relates to you for each of the below questions.

Note: After you take the quiz use the Temperament Charts at the end of this chapter to determine your temperament, or temperament combination strengths and weaknesses.

Temperament Quiz

When I’m in a group, I usually...

A. Take charge and make decisions

B. Observe others and analyze situations

C. Go with the flow and avoid conflict

D. Socialize and make new friends

2. My usual response to criticism is to:

A. Defend myself and argue back

B. Take it to heart and overthink it

C. Brush it off and move on

D. Laugh it off and make a joke

3. I