Toxic No More

By Najmun Riyaz

Do you find yourself stuck in cycles of conflict, relationship turmoil, and constantly having to defend yourself with your partner? Feeling misunderstood, manipulated, gaslit, and unloved­ these are all signs that you may be in a toxic relationship dynamic.

• Language: English
• Publisher: najmun riyaz
• Release date: Apr 13, 2023
• ISBN: 9781088112380

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This book is dedicated to those brave people, who through the help of their inner wisdom, inner light, have an ability to reflect on ‘‘Red Flags". Listen to their inner voice, that something is not right in our relationship. Who refuse to stay stuck in unhealthy pattern, intergenerational trauma, or in toxic ties, despite the pressure from their families and societies.

To those brave people, I want to say. : Thank you for not giving up, Thank you for believing in yourself, Thank you for breaking the cycle of intergenerational trauma , and thank you for supporting me in this mission as well, by purchasing this book. Thank you for being YOUR TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF".

Najmun Riyaz, MD.

TOXIC NO MORE!

12 Steps to Heal from a

Toxic Romantic Relationship

Najmun Riyaz

Copyright © 2023 by Najmun Riyaz

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or used in any manner without written permission of the copyright owner except for the use of quotations in a book review.

Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Awareness

Chapter 2: Self Reflection

Chapter 3: Curiosity

Chapter 4: Confirmation

Chapter 5: Confrontation

Chapter 6: Self Compassion

Chapter 7: Self Care

Chapter 8: Creating A Healthy Support System

Chapter 9: Start Detaching

Chapter 10; Find Your Passion

Chapter 11: Assert Yourself

Chapter 12: The New You

References

Introduction

There are no perfect relationships. However, some basic traits make a relationship healthy, whether with our friends, adult siblings, coworkers, family members, parents, adult children, or romantic partners.

When two people are in a relationship, both should feel supported, respected, and heard, but mostly safe.

A toxic relationship makes one feel confused, misunderstood, demeaned, attacked, or even unsafe in certain situations. On a basic level, any relationship that makes you feel worse rather than better can become toxic.

Healthy relationships involve honesty, trust, respect, and an attempt at open communication between two people involved. It takes effort and compromise from each one of them, not just one person. There is and should be no imbalance of power. Each person respects the other’s independence. Each one of them can make their own decisions without fear of upsetting the other party or getting into a sense of competition with each other or seeing a need to retaliate.

Although any relationship can become toxic, in this book, we will mostly focus on how to identify and heal from a toxic romantic relationship. In a relationship, we often see signs of unhealthy or toxic ways, which give us a feeling that something is not right. We call them Red Flags. What do we do? We ignore them. And when it comes to healing from such relationships, if we have ended them, it is not one size fits all. Everyone will heal on their own time, in their own way. Everyone’s journey to healing from a toxic relationship is unique. For some, it may take months; for others years, or even a lifetime.

The anxiety of the trauma from such a relationship is so high that our mind may lack clarity, and even though our intuition tells us that something is not right, we may not be able to figure out what exactly is happening. So, healing gets delayed. It’s like healing from a wound caused by a sharp object when we are sitting on it.

To better start that healing process, it may become important or even essential at times if one can first distance oneself from such a relationship. That distance may not necessarily mean only in physical ways, although as they say,