Masters of Emotional Blackmail: Understanding and Dealing with Verbal Abuse and Emotional Manipulation. How Manipulators Use Guilt, Fear, Obligation, and Other Tactics to Control People

By Emory Green

If Someone You Love Makes You Act Out Of Guilt, It's Not A Good Sign - Here's What To Do!

 

"I'm old and sick, and I'll get a heart attack and die if you won't do what I want."

 

"You're a worthless husband who can't even buy his wife a new iPhone. Oh wait. You simply don't love me, right?"

 

"I nearly died while giving birth to you. Now, be grateful and do what I say"

 

Have you heard anything like this from your parents or romantic partners?

 

This is emotional blackmail. And it's just as bad as the name implies.

 

Emotional blackmail is a manipulation technique that's meant to control your actions by tapping into strong emotions such as guilt, obligation, and fear.

 

It may appear innocent, but in fact it's a huge red flag. If you give in once or twice, the blackmailer's demands will become more and more outrageous. For example, they may skillfully isolate you from your social circle or force you to give up things that bring you joy. If they do it slowly enough, you won't even notice that you're being cut off from your support network and basically held hostage!

 

Why do emotional blackmailers try to manipulate you with fear, obligation, and guilt?

 

First of all, because it's such an effective manipulation technique! If done skillfully, it can put you under their absolute control.

 

However, not all emotional blackmailers are inherently evil - some people just don't know how to talk about their wants and needs in a direct way. Others have a personality disorder that makes them think blackmailing is an acceptable behavior. Of course, this doesn't mean you should tolerate it!

 

This book, written by acclaimed psychologist Emory Green, will help you understand your unique situation and find smart ways to deal with it.

 

With this book, you will:

• Understand why your blackmailer is behaving in this way
• Deal with emotional blackmailing in your family
• Recognize a manipulative romantic partner before they get hold of you
• Set personal boundaries and protect them
• Communicate in an assertive, non-defensive manner
• Build the mental toughness necessary to resist manipulation
• Realize if YOU are emotionally blackmailing someone - and STOP doing it

 

Dealing with emotional blackmail can be very challenging. Emotional blackmail usually comes from the people we love most, such as parents and romantic partners, and it can be very painful to realize that they've been manipulating you for years.

 

Sometimes, if the blackmailer won't change their behavior, you have no other choice but to terminate the relationship - and this can be an extremely difficult decision, especially if you have to cut a parent out of your life. But remember that you're doing this to save yourself - you're not a bad son or daughter!

 

This book will give you the courage to listen to your intuition, confront your abusers, and make hard decisions if necessary.

 

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Emory Green
• Release date: Oct 8, 2020
• ISBN: 9781393946274

Emory Green

Emory Green stumbles on his passion to explore the darkest of human nature in his 2 decades of practice in Business Psychology. Having worked with key leaders of giant industries, politics, and diverse people who are committed to winning at all costs, he is witness to the dark secrets of success. A trusted consultant and advisor, he has been both a friend and a foe to the most effective manipulators of their fate, and that often involves other people's fate, of course. CEOs, great leaders, charming Casanovas, and masters of manipulation, they all have their way of using tactics and having specific behaviors that facilitate their effectiveness in their crafty crafts and success. Emory Green has spent more than a decade studying these people and this led him to explore the dark side, so that others may see the light. Emory Green has now retired and is living a good life in his Alaskan home, hoping to share what he knew about darkness. Explore Dark Psychology with Emory Green as your willing guide. "There are days when all I see is light because I knew what darkness was. And I understood. In all of us, there's some darkness somewhere within, and also among us, there are some whose darkness they can't be without." ~Emory Green

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Masters of

Emotional Blackmail

Understanding and Dealing with Verbal Abuse and Emotional Manipulation. How Manipulators Use Guilt, Fear, Obligation, and Other Tactics to Control People

Emory Green

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter One:

Emotional Blackmail  in Black and White

Chapter Two:

The Blackmailer and  the Victim Transaction

Chapter Three:

Blackmailing Basic Tactics

Chapter Four:

Blackmailing in the Family

Chapter Five:

Blackmailing in Relationships

Chapter Six:

Codependency

Chapter Seven:

Dealing With Emotional Blackmail

Final Words

Sources and further readings

EXCLUSIVE GIFT

Introduction

Are they difficult, or are they toxic?  I’m talking about relationships with people close and dear. No matter how close-knit relationships are, some can be quite challenging. But, some might even have transformed into a toxic relationship without you being aware of it.

However, you can determine if your relationships are healthy or toxic.

A healthy relationship requires sincerity and compassion from both ends. It helps the two involved to evolve and grow into confident and kind personalities. But what if you start feeling suffocated and controlled in a relationship? What if your needs don’t matter in a relationship you rely on? Worst of all, you don’t feel safe and supported to express your feelings. That makes up for a toxic relationship. Such a relationship can tear down your self-esteem to the bottom.

However, it’s not easy to identify a toxic relationship. Even more so, when those relationships are dear to you. You rely on them for all your emotional support. They are the backbone of your emotional well-being. Yet, they have turned poisonous. 

It’s not easy to identify toxicity in relationships because the people around you, the ones you love the most, may use tactics. Tactics to manipulate you in a way that seems harmless, though they aren’t. They may use them to manipulate you and get what they want. In short, they may blackmail you emotionally. But why can’t you easily identify that you are being emotionally blackmailed? Simply because the blackmailers use covert techniques to manipulate you. They may make their demands seem reasonable, or make you feel selfish, or use a person of influence to intimidate you.

Ultimately, you feel pressured to give in. It becomes difficult for you to stand up for yourself, your needs, and your opinions. As a result, you endure the toxic relationship for fear of losing your loved one. The relationship and the blackmailer take over you, over your mind, intellect, and feelings. You feel frustrated, but there’s nothing you can do.

Well, that’s what you think and feel until now. However, there’s always a ray of hope amongst the darkest of holes.

Your ray of hope is right here. It’s in the secret I’ll reveal in this book. A secret that helps you understand.

Understand what emotional blackmail is, what is the mindset of these blackmailers, what drives them towards emotional blackmailing, why they behave the way they do, and what shapes up the personality of these blackmailing vampires. Once you know this, I guarantee you can easily safeguard yourself from getting emotionally manipulated.

Also, if you gain an insight into the covert techniques these blackmailers use, you’ll easily identify the fingerprints of emotional blackmail. How these blackmailers use words and phrases that fog your mind; how they compel you to think that they are right and you are wrong. You’ll identify the methods used by blackmailing vampires to take advantage of you to get what they want.

Finally, I’ll give you simple and practical steps to change this dynamic and pull yourself from the clutches of emotional blackmail. Following these tips will help you defeat emotional blackmail and regain your lost power over those who manipulate you.

How could I tell you this secret? Am I a relationship guru?

Well, ascribe it to my experience, observation, and study exploring the depths of dark psychology and covert manipulation, emotional manipulation, and blackmail. I have been exploring the tactics of motivation, persuasion, manipulation, and coercion that people use to get what they want.

My own experience led me to do so. I had been the victim of the severest form of emotional manipulation in my younger years. I have witnessed emotional abuse in a very intense form. It enslaved me with feelings of guilt for years. My heart pounded with the stigma of seeing emotional manipulation in front of me, yet staying silent about it.

Nevertheless, I got an opportunity to explore. To see and to understand what makes emotional blackmail so powerful. What is it that makes it the trickiest and prevalent form of manipulation to know and understand, especially in our close-knit relationships?

I also learned about the powerful tools, the tactics, the subtle techniques these blackmailers use to reign over our emotions. How they use our weakness against us to manipulate and get what they want.

In this book, I’m going to reveal all that I learned. If you are in a similar predicament, I don’t want you to be a victim for one day longer.

Do you feel yourself being torn apart to the core, that this is being caused by one you love the most? Do you find others seizing control over your emotions? Then, you are definitely being targeted by all sorts of manipulative and coercive tactics people use to take advantage of you. But no more!

Reading this book will not only make you aware of such manipulative tactics, but also puts a sword in your hands. A sword, a powerful weapon that you can use to safeguard and protect yourself from the emotional savagery of such people.

What I’m going to reveal between these pages will empower you to define your boundaries, and will give you mental resilience to stop being taken advantage of. Not only will you feel strong, but you’ll be mentally and emotionally prepared to handle such vampires and lead a peaceful life.

Understanding the techniques of those blackmailers will also help you in some self-introspection. What I mean is you’ll be able to assess your own tactics in various walks of life – work, family, romantic relationships, and friendships. You can avoid the trap of being a blackmailer yourself.

Don’t get me wrong when I say that. But, it’s so extremely easy to fall prey to these tactics that we might even use them ourselves unknowingly. We might not only be on the receiving end of such methods, but we might also be an offender.

That’s why I began tracing those methods that transform us or others from ‘being human’ to ‘being a blackmailing vampire.’ My intention in writing this book was - and still is - to pull as many people as possible from the grasp of emotional blackmail and help them lead a joyous life.

And I’m experiencing the realization of that intention every single day when I proudly bring freedom to hundreds of people by exposing these tricks.

Imagine! Imagine your life without that emotional blackmailer. No guilt, no shame, no fear, and no doubts. No more hurting or apologizing for things you didn’t do. The very idea feels great! Doesn’t it?

Now, turn that imagination to reality by traveling through the pages of this book that teaches you A-Z about emotional blackmail. It will remove all haze and fog from your mind and reveal the truth about your relationships. You’ll be able to see your loved ones, not just for who they are, but also their intentions.

And once you see the truth, it sets you free. Free from the guilt, shame, and obligations you have been carrying for long.

So, are you ready to learn the truth of your relationship?

Before moving forward, answer this question: Is your relationship just difficult, or is it toxic? The sooner you answer, the better. Otherwise,