Gaslighting: The Ultimate Guide to Take Control of Your Life. Recover from Hidden Manipulation and Heal from Emotional Abuse to finally Overcome the Gaslight Effect

By Jennet Brown

Are you constantly feeling emotionally tortured and manipulated by someone you used to love and adore? Your abusive partner has taken full control of your life?

 

This book will teach you what gaslighting and toxic relationships are, how to identify them and the best strategies to protect yourself from any form of manipulation without paying for expensive consultations!

 

This is what you will find in this fantastic Book:

1. What gaslighting is
2. How recognize and disarm a gaslighter
3. Practical ways to overcoming gaslighting with real-life examples

… and that's not all!

• Toxic relationships, their indications, and effects
• Proven methods to create safe boundaries 

…and much more!

 

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Jennet Brown
• Release date: May 10, 2021
• ISBN: 9798201724900

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Chapter 1 Gaslighting: What Is It and Why Is It So Dangerous?

Gaslighting is so upsetting when it leads to a person doing these two activities, all of which are extremely harmful.

To begin with, gaslighting makes you doubt yourself and your capacity to interpret reality accurately. You continue to suspect that there may be something seriously wrong with you after hearing from the gaslighter that you didn't see what you thought you saw, you didn't hear what you thought you saw, you aren't seeing what you think you are experiencing, because you can't recall anything right.

Gaslighting effectively disconnects you from yourself, your emotions, and the right to realize what you want and don't want, as well as what you know to be objective about yourself, others, and the world, over time. It may rob a person of their central sense of self, leaving them reliant on the gaslighter to establish fact and provide acceptance and affirmation of what is true.

You tend to doubt your ability to tell whether something is true or not, whether you really did something or not, whether you really believed something or had a specific purpose.

You become untethered, confused, and unaware of what you're doing, doing, and who you are instead of inhabiting yourself, owning your thinking process, and possessing a good sense of self.

You start to believe that the gaslighter's alternative view of yourself or reality is right. Maybe you've spent your whole life being delusory about yourself and the world. If that's the case, then what you think you know is valid. You are not the person you believed you were. You have to begin again, but you can't even trust yourself to sort it out. You've been defeated, disempowered, and you've been lost.

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Second, suppose you know what's been going on, that you've been gaslighted, lied to, or tricked in such a manner that another entity is attempting to persuade you that truth isn't reality. In that case, you won't be able to trust anybody for a long time, if ever.

When you know that it is possible for others to believe it is acceptable to go to whatever extent to persuade you that you are not feeling, dreaming, intending, or doing what you think or say you are, you will find it impossible to trust someone you allow to get close to you. It causes significant confidence problems in marriages, just as it causes major harm to one's ability to trust oneself.

Gaslighting Warning Signs

1. They are outright liars.

You know it's a complete fabrication. Despite this, they tell you the truth with a straight face. Why are they so open about it? They're doing that to set an example. You're not sure that anything they say is real when they tell you a big lie. The intention is to keep you unsteady and off-kilter.

2. They deny ever saying anything, even though you have evidence.

You're aware that they said they'd do something, and you're aware that you noticed it. They, on the other hand, categorically reject it. It causes you to doubt your own reality—perhaps they never said that. And the longer they do so, the more you want to doubt your own truth and believe theirs.

3. They use your personal belongings as a weapon.

They understand how precious your children are to you, as well as the value you place on your identity. But it may be one of the first targets they go for. If you have children, you will be told that you should not have had them. They'll tell you that you'd be a good guy if you didn't have a long list of flaws. They go for the core of your being.

4. They gradually wear you down.

One of the most sinister aspects of gaslighting is that it occurs increasingly over time. A little white lie here, a little white lie there, a snide remark now and again and then it gets serious. It is so powerful that even the happiest, most self-aware people will be sucked into gaslighting.

5. Their comments don't reflect their behavior

When faced with someone who gaslights you, pay attention to what they're doing rather than what they're doing. It doesn't matter what they say, it's just chatting. The problem is what they're doing.

6. To perplex you, they provide positive reinforcement.

This person or agency who has been tearing you down and reminding you that you are worthless is now thanking you for what you have done. This heightens the feeling of uneasiness. Well, maybe they aren't that evil, you reason. They are, indeed. This is a deliberate ploy to throw you off—and, once again, to make you doubt your own truth. Examine what you were thanked for; it was most likely something that benefited the gaslighter.

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7. They are aware that people are weakened by uncertainty.

Gaslighters are well aware that people crave a feeling of normalcy and security. Their mission is to rip this apart and make you doubt everything. And it's human nature to seek out the individual or organization that can make you feel more secure—which happens to be the gaslighter.

8. They make a statement.

They're a heroin addict or a cheater, and they're still accusing you of it. This is achieved so much that you get distracted from the gaslighter's own actions when you attempt to protect yourself.

9. They want to sway people to oppose you.

Gaslighters are experts at exploiting and choosing those who will still stand by them, and they turn these people against you. They'll say something like, This person knows you're wrong, or This person knows you're worthless as well. It's important to note that this does not imply that these people really say these things. A gaslighter is a thief by nature. When the gaslighter employs this strategy, you will feel as though you have no one to trust or appeal to, which will bring you straight to the gaslighter. Isolation gives them more power, and that's just what they want.

10. They accuse you or someone of being insane.

Since it is cynical, this is one of the most powerful weapons of the gaslighter. If people doubt your sanity, the gaslighter realizes they won't trust you when you say the gaslighter is violent or out of reach. It's a brilliant strategy.

11. They accuse you of being a liar.

It lets you doubt your truth by convincing you that everybody else (your peers, the media) is a liar. You've never met someone with the audacity to say anything like this, because you know they're telling the truth, right? No, it's not true. It's a method of deception. It causes people to look to the gaslighter for right information—information that isn't