What a Narcissist Does at the End of a Relationship: Dealing With and Understanding the Aftermath of a Narcissistic Relationship
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Breaking up in normal circumstances is hard enough. If you throw a narcissist into the equation, it makes it all the more difficult.
Not only are you left heartbroken from the separation, but the actions and behaviors of the narcissist post-break-up are nothing short of cruel, confusing, and downright crazymaking. You feel like your world has ended and you don't know how to rebuild it.
In this short book, I want to use my own experience with a narcissist to highlight and outline the following for you:
- discarding, and why the narcissist does this. This is a cruel tactic used by the narcissist to either punish you or because you have nothing left to give them
- what a narcissist does at the end of a relationship. Whilst all narcissists are different, you can count on one thing being consistent: their behavior
- how the narc feels and deals with the break-up
- the toxic narcissistic relationship pattern, so you can avoid being sucked into it once more
If you're looking to read this book, you're likely heartbroken and looking for some guidance, support, or understanding. As someone who has been through the hell of a narcissistic relationship, I can offer you all three, and I hope this book can help you make sense of this heartbreaking time.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book helped me break free from the endless cycle of narcissist abuse. It helped me understand myself and the situation. I loved that it’s very simple, yet very direct and enjoyable to read. When reading it it makes you feel like a friend is talking to you. I highly recommend this book. It helped me tons!
- Rating: 1 out of 5 stars1/5This book was amazing, very straight forward, very honest and very enlightening. I know I'm married to a Narcissist for 37 years. But this book really spelled it all out for me. And really showed me the chances I have of my marriage surviving much longer. It ain't! I'm actually shocked it has lasted this long, I really am. Anyways, great book, very helpful unfortunately.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I liked the positive breaks, it's indeed a very dense topic to go through without some light rays.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Very nice read. It is reassuring to read the examples shared by Lauren as a survivor of narcissistic abuse. Thank you for sharing your story.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/51st of its type to be spot on for me!
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Succinctly descriptive of this type of behavior by one person toward another. I find it interesting that almost all the data on this subject is men subjecting women to this demeaning abuse. I am a married woman who is an empath and had a female friend treat me in these same exact mannerisms without the sexual component of a male /female relationship.
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What a Narcissist Does at the End of a Relationship - Lauren Kozlowski
Breaking up in normal circumstances is hard enough. If you throw a narcissist into the equation, it makes it all the more difficult. Not only are you left heartbroken from the separation, but the actions and behaviors of the narcissist post-break-up are nothing short of cruel, confusing, and downright crazy-making. You feel like your world has ended and you don’t know how to rebuild it.
Amongst all of the heartache, you’re also left wondering just how your narcissistic ex is feeling about the break-up. Has the narc discarded you and appears to have moved on without so much as a second thought about you? Or did you initiate the break-up, only to find your ex isn’t prepared to let you go that easily? After all, when you break-up with a narcissist, you’re essentially damaging their fragile ego; and they won’t accept that without retaliating cruelly.
Regardless of how the relationship ended, narcissists all tend to behave and react in very similar ways when a relationship ends. Either their frail ego and narcissistic supply have both been shattered, or they’ve discarded you and need to reap the egotistical benefits of that: both ways mean you’ll be the target of their emotional warfare.
This book will explain what the narcissist wants to achieve from their post-break-up behavior, why they act the way they do, and how their premeditated actions are supposed to make you feel and react. By knowing this, you’ll be better prepared to deal with the separation, and you’ll understand exactly why the toxic behavior you’re being exposed to by the narc is directed at you.
I’ve endured the emotional tornado of a break-up with a narcissist, and I know first-hand just how devastating it is. Not only do you need to contend with the mending of your shattered heart, but you also need to deal with the bewildering and distressing mind-games your ex is putting you through.
Why A Narcissist Discards You: Revisiting The Demise Of The Relationship
A narcissist will always end up discarding you. It doesn’t matter if it’s you that left, or if they left, or how the relationship was severed. Regardless of how it went down, it’s undeniably hard to deal with the realization that the narc can live without you (almost too easily) and doesn’t care how you’re feeling. In fact, not only do they not care about hurting you, they actively strive to do it - they want you to feel low, worthless and pining after them.
Our post-break-up pain comes from their hurtful words and upsetting actions. This includes their complete lack of understanding, zero empathy from them, and no accountability or any remorse for what they’ve done to us. We have to confront the shattering realization that our feelings mean next to nothing to the narc; they may even appear to have nothing but hate for us now, and are acting like they’re hell-bent on completely demolishing us.
I really do feel for you if you’re suffering through the trauma of this. I know that until healing takes place, the heartache and emotional trauma are unspeakable.
Narcissistic Discard - The Heavy Shock Of The Discard
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