Narcissism & The Covert Narcissistic Playbook: Emotional Abuse Recovery, Empath Manipulation& Dark Psychology, Codependent + Toxic Relationships Protection- Partner, Mother & Father

By Spiritual Awakening Academy

Discover How You Can Understand The Narcissists Playbook, Protect Against Their Emotional Abuse Separate From A Narcissists Grab In Your Life

Statistically speaking, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is rare - fewer than one percent of the population actually has an NPD diagnosis.

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Dogo Capital Ltd
• Release date: May 17, 2021
• ISBN: 9781801342926

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CHAPTER 1

So, what is narcissism?

Narcissism got its name from the Greek mythological character Narcissus who, despite being admired by many, was notorious for ignoring other people and looking only to please himself. And while Narcissus himself might have been a fictional character, the personality he displayed is quite common in the real world, and the way narcissists interact with the rest of the world is just as real. The threat of this type of personality going unchecked has become even more concrete now that globalization has given rise to social media, which in turn has greatly contributed to the me generation.

‘’Among other things, Narcissism can be looked at as a disorder or an adaptation.’’

Reflecting on the above quote, the reason I believe narcissism can be looked at as an adaptation is because a narcissist that is created goes through intense trauma as a child and adapts in order to survive making them a victim themselves, they are usually the offspring of parents who either taught them that they had to be the best at everything they do or that they are more entitled than anyone however they can also be the offspring of parents who neglected them and put them down intensely and continuously while they the parents were too focused on their own needs to an extent that they were unable to attend to or meet the child's emotional and psychological needs, they had no real interest in the children except during times the children could be used to meet certain personal needs and wants of the parent, leaving the child feeling unloved and uncared for, furthermore a child who benefits from excessive indulgence and love can also become a narcissist as this enables them to mature into adults with the perception of a child, they still think of themselves as the centre of the universe, this in no way does this make it OK for someone to abuse or mistreat you, they are known to be self-centred, arrogant, have no or low empathy or consideration for other people and an excessive need for admiration. They are often characterized as arrogant, manipulative, self-centered, patronizing, and demanding. Narcissism may be considered a disease because their brains do not behave in the same way as a typical empathic person's and are extremely unstable. Owing to an adult's conviction that only their needs matter, that there is nothing wrong with them or the behaviors they exhibit, they punish, harm, or kill someone they are envious of, struggle to control their self-esteem, and have a shaky sense of self. The narcissist, or one with traits of narcissism, has an overestimated sense of self-importance, an exploitative mentality, as well as a strong desire for publicity. The narcissist believes he or she is smarter than anyone else and almost never admits to making a mistake. In fact, some narcissists aren't all about looks, wealth, or even fame. Some of them are narcissistic in a subtly narcissistic way. They don't show any of the tell-tale signs. As a result, if we aren't careful, we can easily become entangled, exploited, or, in the worst-case scenario, trapped by them. He also said that all narcissists have this all-consuming need to feel unique in comparison to anyone else. They approach in different ways. The history of narcissism is fascinating. According to myths, or should we say history, Narcissus, the historical father of narcissists, fell in love with his own reflection in a mirror. Today's culture is increasingly becoming more narcissistic. The fact has been developed by numerous studies backed up by statistics and scientific evidence. Users' minds are being etched with the relentless crave-for-attention mentality that is frequently encouraged by social media and reality TV, making them hyper-aware of the picture they portray to the world and the internet.

As a result, it's critical to comprehend the various forms of narcissists and how the rise of narcissistic characteristics impacts friendships and relationships. At the very least, it's a fair assumption that as people's narcissistic tendencies rise, so does the number of current narcissistic relationships. When coping with a narcissist, an inflated sense of self-importance is a common symptom. However, there are many more narcissistic symptoms that aren't as apparent as the ones listed above.

Other evident and noticeable characteristics that a narcissistic person is likely to display include: #1: Lack of or no empathy #2: Constant crave for recognition, which he or she will get at any expense 3# Excessively controlling or deceptive behavior #4: Constant focus on personal needs most or all of the time #5: Constant crave for praises and appreciation #6: Exaggerated sense of superiority and entitlement #7: Belief in one's own peculiar and unique nature #8: Belief that he or she can only be understood by a small group of people. #9: Other people's envy or a sense that others are envious of him or her #10: Belief that they have high status and can only interact with elite people or organizations. It's important to remember that each person will display these characteristics in different intensity and frequency and no narcissist is the same.

Individual characteristics

Other than physical variations that can occur in different ways and sections of the body, psychologists have concluded that no two individuals are the same, except the most identical twins, after years of study. Other differences, such as psychological and emotional differences, have been found. Many people have narcissistic characteristics but are not narcissists or personality disorder carriers. Based on extensive analysis, it has been determined that about 1% of the world suffers of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). However, since a greater number of people with the condition do not seek medical or psychological treatment, they are unable to be diagnosed or treated. Men, seem to make up a greater proportion of those diagnosed, accounting for about 75% of all cases.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder in which a person is in their self-obsessed world. The term narcissism is often used to describe someone who seems to be excessively narcissistic or full of themselves. However, in Psychology, narcissism is not just that. It's more correct to say that people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are enamored with a gilded, gaudy image of themselves. Furthermore, they are enamored of this enhanced mental self-view purely because it allows them to avoid deep feelings of frailty. In any case, it takes a lot of effort to keep their daydreams of grandeur alive. A narcissistic character flaw is the display of vain, pompous logic and behavior, lack of compassion and consideration towards others, and an excessive demand for erroneous respect. History also portrays people with NPD as arrogant, manipulative, narrow-minded, dismissive, and demanding.

Individuals with a narcissistic personality disorder are notoriously resistant to modifying their behavior, even though it is causing them problems. They have a tendency to blame others for their mistakes. They are often extremely sensitive and react violently to even the tiniest responses, discrepancies, or insults, which they perceive as near to home assaults. It's also easier for those in the narcissist's life to simply comply with their demands in order to avoid their fury. In either case, through learning more about the narcissistic personality disorder, you would be able to recognise narcissists throughout your life, protect yourself from their strategic maneuverings, and develop more beneficial boundaries.

It's a commendable desire to be admired. It usually makes us feel fantastic and significant. A swollen sense of vainglory, a lack of consideration for others, and an excessive need for adoration are all signs of a narcissistic personality disorder. Gaudiness, the misrepresented feeling of vainglory, is the hallmark sense of the narcissistic character. Narcissists dealing with this issue, might be preoccupied with dominance, distinction, and vanity, and believe they deserve special treatment. The narcissistic personality trait should not be confused with great bravery and confidence. Many that have a high sense of morale are also humble. Having a narcissistic personality disorder, is likely to make that person to be also narrow-minded, proud, and unconcerned about the feelings and needs of others. When these people are provoked, they adopt a cautious demeanor.

Narcissistic personality disorder, affects a person’s day-to-day life in a negative way. In general, they are dissatisfied with life and disillusioned when others do not appreciate them or treat them differently. Narcissists’ jobs, personal, and social relationships are probably causing them pain. People with a narcissistic personality disorder are oblivious to the negative consequences of their behavior, both to themselves and to others. Individuals are more likely to avoid being around them and they will most probably feel unfulfilled at work, at home and in society.

Signs and Consequences of a Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Do they consume debates? Are they worry only about their own feelings? Are they making fun of others? That are the most important signs of a narcissistic personality disorder. Do you know someone who knows the right way and that any other way isn't correct? Is it correct to claim they are arrogant, in need of sympathy, and believe they are, to a large degree, significant?

Then it's possible they're suffering from this disorder. The brash sense of gaudiness is a defining characteristic of narcissism. Pretentiousness is an irrational sense of superiority that goes beyond ego or pride. Narcissists believe they are unique or exceptional and must be understood as such. Furthermore, they are overly effective for something routine or traditional. They just need to contribute to and be compared to other high-status people, places, and stuff. Narcissists believe they are superior to anyone else and want to be recognized in any case, even though they are not.

They will also distort or outright lie about their achievements and skills. Furthermore, as they discuss jobs or relationships, what you'll learn is how much they give, how extraordinary they are, and how lucky the people in their life are to have them. They are the undisputed star, and everybody else is, at best, a supporting background actor. Lives in a dreamland where their hallucinations of glory are reinforced. Since reality does not support their distorted view of themselves, narcissists exist in a dreamland supported by contortion, self-deception, and abstract thinking. They transform self-congratulatory fantasies of great accomplishment, strength, splendor, and allure into reality.

These fantasies protect them from feelings of internal vacancy and disgrace, so certainties and assessments that contradict them are ignored or defended down. Everything that threatens the fantasy bubble is greeted with extreme caution and even anger, because those surrounding the narcissist learn to tread carefully around their refusal of the natural world. Needs consistent adulation and deep appreciation. Furthermore, a narcissist's sense of superiority is analogous to an inflatable balloon that gradually loses air without a continuous supply of adoration and recognition to hold it extended.

The incidental compliment is insufficient. Narcissists want constant nourishment for their self-image, so they surround themselves with others who are willing to satisfy their over-the-top need for the claim. These factors are highly erratic. It's always about what the fan will do for the narcissist in a different way. Furthermore, any intrusion or diminution of the admirer's consideration and acclaim is seen as selling out by the narcissist.

‘’ a sense of privilege ‘’

Narcissists demand perfect treatment because they believe they are exceptional. They really believe that they should be able to get whatever they want. They still want the people around them to instinctively give in to their every urge and instinct. That is what they are worth. If you don't imagine and solve any of their questions, you're wasting your time. Furthermore, whether you have the audacity to defy their will or childishly suggest something as a result, you are setting yourself up for aggression or shock.

Attempts to help people without blaming or embarrassment: Narcissists never develop the ability to appeal to the feelings of others in order to see themselves in the eyes of others. They need sympathy at the end of the day. They see the people in their life as articles that represent their interests in different ways. As a result, they are manipulating others to achieve their own agenda. This emotional abuse can be malignant at times, but most of the time it is just careless.

Narcissists are unable to understand how their actions affect people. Their primary understanding is about their own interests. They frequently disparage, attack, menace, or denigrate people.

Narcissists are weakened if they encounter someone who appears to have something they want, especially those who are certain and well-known.

They are often jeopardized by those who do not kowtow to them or who threaten them in any way. Their defense mechanism is hate. Putting certain people down is the only way to eliminate the danger and boost their own self-esteem. They can do so in a way, as if to demonstrate how little the other person means to them. In the other side, they will go on the offense with insults, ridicule, harassment, and threats in order to coerce the other person into submission.

Narcissists:

✓ are preoccupied by fantasies of limitless success

✓ believe in exceptional grandiosity; simply comprehended and can only be associated with people with high status

✓ expect to be seen as superior

✓ need and demand consistent respect

✓ exaggerate their abilities and talents

✓ have a sense of injustice

✓ have an overly strong belief that others are jealous of them

✓ think about oneself most of the time and mention oneself a lot; self-promotion

✓ set unrealistic goals

✓ want people do unusual favors for them

✓ assume that no one should question their motives

✓ take advantage of others to get ahead in life and just to get what they desire, with no remorse about others

✓ are emotionless

What Causes Narcissistic Personality Disorder and How Can It Be Spotted?

There is no one cause for narcissistic personality disorder. In either case, experts agree that both genetic and natural forces are at work. People with narcissistic personality disorder have less amount of the grey matter in the left anterior insula, the part of the brain associated with sympathy, enthusiastic guidance, empathy, and intelligent working. Many of the characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder occur during normal stages of development. Researchers acknowledge the full start is when relational advancement at these stages clashes, a narcissistic character problem can arise. Examples of types of contradictory or risky relationship scenarios associated with formative phases include: Being born with an overly emotional personality; being overly praised for good practices and overly condemned for bad practices; suffering from extreme adolescent misbehavior; parental care is inconsistent; giving temperamental or out-of-the-ordinary attention; being overappreciated with little sensory feedback to compensate for; receiving excessive praise from guardians or others for your appearance or abilities;

How does a narcissist see himself?

It has also been known that narcissists enjoy projecting themselves as dominant and authoritative, but this does not represent their true feelings. In a nutshell, narcissists are the sort of people who want to be respected as well as liked. This is why they are obsessed with perfection (whether or not they really do excel at something). They find opportunities to demonstrate that they are smarter, more talented, and more noble than anyone. It makes no difference to narcissists whether anyone loves them or not; what matters is that people see them as superior - something to respect. They do this with the assistance of those around them. These individuals, who are often ignorant of their position, are regarded as supply sources by the narcissist. The narcissist sees them as the center of their pride, and seeks validation from them in a variety of ways (i.e. respect, admiration, fear). Perhaps the most relatable flaw in narcissists is their perception of oneself. Narcissists have a tendency to overestimate their own skills. They believe they are better than they are, and they believe they are more impressive than most believe they are. How do others interpret a narcissist? The positive news is that narcissists appear to exhibit telltale symptoms at the start of a relationship. In one study, people who were asked to browse at the Facebook accounts of various subjects were able to recognize those who exhibited narcissistic characteristics. This means that it's relatively simple to determine whether or not a new acquaintance is a narcissist. Depending on who is listening, this may be a positive or a bad thing. However, if you want to cure narcissists, this would encourage you to provide an atmosphere (i.e. home, workplace) that is free of potential victims or supply sources of a person's narcissism. At the very least, this can prevent narcissistic aggression.

Narcissistic Abuse - Narcissists and sociopaths

They use words explicitly, in the expectation of capturing another person's thoughts and keeping them hostage. To keep a strategic distance from the risks of falling victim to a narcissist's ploys to shroud themselves, fault pass, and mislabel those they mislead as narcissists, the phrase enthusiastic power should be reserved for narcissistic maltreatment. NPDs and PDs are masters in disguise, and narcissistic abuse is a form of mind domination, a specific use of words, designed to genuinely control somebody else into handing up their brain and desires, and therefore their considerations, needs, and an become objects for the narcissist's collection.

Narcissists and sociopaths play mind games with others to:

✓ Create mistrust from those who help them, such as relatives and partners.

✓ Feel worthless.

✓ Discredit them for their jobs.

✓ Doubt their ability to reason or make decisions.

✓ Disconnect them from their interests.

✓ Make them accept whatever the narcissist needs.

✓ Reduce the worth of their obligations

✓ Focus on their flaws or blunders.

✓ Ignore or rationalize the narcissist's actions.

✓ To gain their worship and love.

✓ The narcissist should be idealized.

In the present day, these perplexed characters have propelled their strategies with logical investigations into the most proficient method to sincerely and intellectually annihilate someone else, all the more often a partner in a couple relationship, to exist in altered personality and body conditions of frailty and defenselessness in any case, before they wake up and leave.

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Reviews for Narcissism & The Covert Narcissistic Playbook

[Zsuzsa Szőke · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

Well, I haven't found much literature on this topic ... So, in that sense, it's great to have something that addresses what I have been through. But it is poorly written and doesn't make sense at times. It seems like it was written in another language and poorly translated.