21 Types Of Narcissists

By Anton Swanepoel

Do You Know The Different Types Of Narcissistic People There Are?

A pretentious and grandiose person who loves to talk about him or herself and take selfies, is what most people think of when they hear the word narcissist. However. Not all narcissists want to be in the limelight. Some want to be admired, while others want to be pitied. Some are happy and full of confidence while others are moody and have low self-confidence. Some love life and themselves while others hate themselves and want to burn down the world.

The traits highly narcissistic people display can be used to place them in one of several main groups. These groups or types are idea models of people’s thoughts and behaviours.

Understanding what behaviours are not normal but toxic, can help you spot a possible toxic person before getting into a relationship with the person. And knowing what traits and behaviours a toxic person mostly favours, can help you better deal with a person you are in a relationship with, as well as help with your healing if you decide to leave them.

Inside 21 Types Of Narcissists:
-A look at what a narcissist is.
-Exploring the 2 main types and 19 sub-type narcissists.
-Looking at the common traits between narcissists.
-Delving into the three cognitive levels of each narcissistic type.
-Looking at the difference between narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder.
-Touching on helping people with narcissistic personality disorder.
-Touching on the effects of narcissistic abuse.

If you want to know more about narcissism and the different types of narcissists, then this book is for you.
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• Language: English
• Publisher: Anton Swanepoel
• Release date: Apr 14, 2020
• ISBN: 9780463931318

Anton Swanepoel

Adventurer and world traveler, Anton Swanepoel, hales originally from Pretoria, South Africa, but has called a number of exotic locations home. Educated as a software engineer, he worked for a large multinational company before deciding to travel the globe. Along life's journey, Anton became a skilled scuba diver and technical diving instructor, teaching for seven years while living in the Cayman Islands. His resume touts Tri-Mix instructor levels from multiple licensing agencies, and dive records over 400 feet.Mr. Swanepoel has always loved travel and writing. In the past several years he's combined these passions, authoring and publishing a host of books, sharing secrets he's learned along the way. When he's not exploring an underwater landscape or racing a motorcycle down a stretch of highway, you'll find Anton visiting world destinations and chronicling his experiences.Today, he is a fulltime globetrotter and writer, having penned instructional guides for diving and travel, as well as a pair of fictional novels. His excurtion titles are geared toward do-it-yourself travelers, who enjoy saving money and seeing the out-of-way places. His favorite destinations include, Machu Picchu, the mountains of Vietnam, and the Temples at Angkor Wat.

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Narcissists don’t respond to pleas, empathy, or compassion. They respond to consequences and actions.

A pretentious and grandiose person who loves to talk about him or herself and take selfies is what most people think of when they hear the word narcissist. However. Not all narcissists want to be in the limelight. Some want to be admired, while others want to be pitied. Some are happy and full of confidence while others are moody and have low self-confidence. Some love life and themselves while others hate themselves and want to burn down the world.

The traits highly narcissistic people display can be used to place them in one of several main groups. These groups or types are idea models of people’s thoughts and behaviors. This helps with the treatment of the person with the personality disorder. However. For the average person. Understanding what behaviors are not normal but toxic, can help you spot a possible toxic person before getting into a relationship with the person. And knowing what traits and behaviors a toxic person mostly favor, can help you better deal with a person you are in a relationship with, as well as help with your healing if you decide to leave them.

Although narcissists can display many of the traits listed for each narcissist sub-type over time, they will tend to lean more towards using the traits of one sub-type more of the time. It will be their normal way of interacting with people and situations. Often they shift tactics when their normal tactics fail. Thus a victim narcissist may use bullying tactics and a bully narcissist may use victim tactics if they think it will yield them the desired results. For a narcissist, the end justifies the means. They are more focused on results, and less on how they get there.

When placing a narcissistic person in a specific sub-type, one should remember then that it is only the preferred way they behave. Being in one sub-type does not mean they can or will not behave as a different sub-type in certain situations. For instance, just because a toxic person has never been violent and broken the law does not mean they will not or are not capable of doing so when you leave them or try to expose them.

It should also be noted that many of the types described are not recognized in the DSM manual, but terms that are used on the internet. They are discussed in this book as they may help you identify the tactics a toxic person in your life is using or may use.

Disclaimer

The author is not a licensed phycologist and does not give out medical or any other advice. The information in this book is purely for entertainment purposes. The author takes no responsibility for you acting on any of the information in this book. Although every effort has been taken to ensuring the correctness of the information, it may be subject to disagreement.

If you have any input into the information in this book, feel free to contact the author by email at [e-mail].

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Have You Been Hurt By Someone With A Narcissistic Personality?

Regardless if you are still with a narcissistic person or not, when you find out how manipulative and calculated their actions were, you will feel betrayed. It is normal to ask. How do I get the narcissist back?

You want the pain and suffering to stop. You want to feel better and have closure. But the need for revenge burns inside you. Your mind is spinning. How could they do this?

But can you successfully get revenge on a narcissist? What will the narcissist do when you do take revenge? What will the short and long-term effects be on you, whether you take revenge or not?

Inside How To Take Revenge On A Narcissist:

A look at what drives your need for revenge.

A look at the biological, physiological, and social influences that affect your need for revenge

Looking at some of the studies done on revenge, and the short and long-term effects it has on you.

Delving into some studies done on the brains and brain activity of narcissistic people.

Why Empaths and Codependents are so easy targets.

Over 45 ways to take revenge on the narcissist. From mild humiliation and joke ideas to brutal revenge.

Suggestions to letting go, finding closure, and healthy alternatives to getting revenge.

If you are struggling to find closure and move on from narcissistic abuse, then this book is for you.

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Disclaimer

Chapter 1: What Is A Narcissists?

How Does NPD Manifest Itself?

Narcissism Versus Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Chapter 2: Narcissistic Types In A Nutshell

Chapter 3: Common Traits

Low Levels Of Empathy

Fragile Self-Esteem

Super Empathetic Understanding

Compromised Insight

Compromised Metacognition

Social Cognition

Lying

Lack Of Object Constancy

Cause And Effect / Causality

Denial

Splitting / Binary Thinking

Projection

Causes Drama

Nitpicking

Poor Self-Regulation And Self-Control

A Need To Be In Control

Don’t Receive Input Or Criticism Well

Blame Shifting

Massive Ego

Manipulative

Delusions Of Grandeur

Low Levels Of Patience

High Levels Of Entitlement

Exploitive

Living In An Alternative Reality

Unpredictable Behavior

Fear Mongering

Humiliation

Alexithymia

Envy

More To Look For

Chapter 4: Three Levels Of Cognition

Low-Level Narcissist

Mid-Level Narcissist

High-Level Narcissist

Chapter 5: The Overt / Invulnerable Narcissist

Chapter 6: The Covert / Vulnerable Narcissist

Chapter 7: The Somatic / Seducer Narcissist

Chapter 8: The Cerebral Narcissist

Chapter 9: The Malignant Narcissist

The Covert Malignant Narcissist

The Overt Malignant Narcissist

Chapter 10: The Sadistic Narcissist

Chapter 11: The Unprincipled Narcissist

Chapter 12: The Amorous / Seducer Narcissist

Chapter 13: The Compensatory Narcissist

Chapter 14: The Elitist Narcissist

Chapter 15: The Venerable Narcissist

Chapter 16: The Communal / Hero Narcissist

Chapter 17: The Status Or Vanity Narcissist

Chapter 18: The Entitled Narcissist

Chapter 19: The Victim Narcissist

Chapter 20: The Closet Narcissist

Chapter 21: The Know It All Narcissist

Chapter 22: The Controlling Narcissist

Chapter 23: The Exhibitionist Narcissists

Chapter 24: The Bully Or Oppressor Narcissist

Chapter 25: The Daydream Believer Narcissist

Chapter 26: The Addict Narcissist

Chapter 27: The Parasitic Narcissist

Chapter 28: The Boomerang Narcissist

Chapter 29: The Inverted Narcissist

Chapter 30: Helping People With NPD

Chapter 31: The Effects Of Narcissistic Abuse

Self-Hatred

Becoming Unemotional

Chapter 32: Problems Of Trying To Label People

About the Author

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Chapter 1: What Is A Narcissists?

Narcissist is part of the 10 personality disorders currently widely accepted. These personality disorders are grouped into three clusters, called A, B, and C. Narcissist is grouped in cluster B with antisocial, borderline, and histrionic personality disorder. This group is categorized with dramatic, emotional, and erratic behaviors.

A textbook definition is a person who has an inflated sense of self-importance and being only concerned about meeting their own needs, often at the expense of other people. They have a deep desire to be validated and admired by others. The way they express their need for validation and admiration is what causes the differences between narcissists. Narcissistic people and especially those diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) have low or no empathy or consideration for other people, as well as an excessive need for affirmation, validation, admiration, and acknowledgment. Narcissists often have fantasies of power or success and can be very arrogant. The diagnosis for NPD more describes a person who is overt (grandiose) than a covert (vulnerable) narcissist. The covert narcissist can be misdiagnosed as having depression or as having borderline personality disorder.

Note that narcissism is not a psychiatric diagnosis, it is a personality trait that is stable over time and affects behavior over a wide range of situations and environments. Almost all people have some degree of self-interest or narcissism in them as well as a wish to have nice things in life. Most people also dream of improving their life. When a personality disorder causes people to cause harm to others or themselves, it becomes toxic and narcissistic. If the person displays certain behaviors and holds certain beliefs they can be diagnosed with having NPD.

As narcissism is on a continuum (or spectrum) from almost no self-interest to extreme self-interest, a person may be narcissistic and toxic to your physical or mental health, but may not be sufficiently narcissistic to be classified with having NPD.

There is a high prevalence for people who have one personality disorder in a cluster to also have traits of other personality disorders in the same cluster. Thus often a person can have traits of multiple personality disorders. This can make it confusing for the layperson who is not educated in all the different personality disorders. The toxic person can then display traits that are not associated with narcissism. This can be for instance a total disregard for societal rules and expectations as well as irresponsible behaviors (antisocial), impulsivity and suicidal behaviors with anger problems (borderline), and attention-seeking and sexually seductive or provocative behaviors with a shallow expression of emotions (histrionic). Although possible, it is less likely to have comorbidity with personality disorders from other clusters. If so it would be even harder to identify the personality disorder for a layperson. For this reason, it is advised to focus on the behaviors of a person and the effects they have on your health rather than trying to label a person. The idea is to realize and accept a person is toxic to your health instead of thinking you are at fault or their behavior is normal. If it will help you heal and move on in life if you can put a label on them, pick the label that fits them best.

As a toxic person can display a wide variety of traits associated with narcissism to variating degrees, as well as traits associated with other disorders at the same time, behaviors should not be excused just because it is not related to narcissism or not yet excessively damaging. For instance, just because a person has never hit you, them screaming at you and cursing you should not be excused. Toxic behaviors are toxic behaviors regardless of what label you give them. Look at the behaviors and then decide if you can live with those behaviors and what effects the behaviors have on your long-term financial status, and emotional and physical health. Remember how you felt, what you did, how successful you were, and the dreams you had before you met the toxic person in your life. If it is a parent, see how supportive they are towards you following your dreams and goals as well as if they build you up or break you down with their words.

It can be very hard to accept parents are toxic to you as often you don’t know any better. You just assume that’s how parents are. The more covert a parent is in their manipulation and abuse, the harder it will be for you to see and accept their toxicity.

If you do have a narcissistic parent (or both), and you get into a relationship with a narcissistic partner, it can be hard to see the truth. As you are so used to the manipulation treatment from your parents, the abuse from your partner may feel natural to you. You may not like how your partner treats you. But you may think that is how all relationships are. All couples fight right? Wrong. Love hurts right? Wrong.

It may be hard to accept you were abused if you were not physically abused. However, mental abuse can at times leave deeper scars that take longer to heal than physical abuse. And you can suffer the same damage as a person who was sexually abused, even if you were not physically touched. This is called covert incest or emotional incest. In this case, the parent seeks emotional support that would normally be provided by another adult, from their child. The child is forced to grow up emotionally very fast. It can also happen where parents share sexual details and content with a child that is inappropriate for their age. The effects on the child in later life can to a lesser degree mimic actual incest.

When you read about narcissism you may learn that there are two basic types of narcissists. The classic extroverted (overt) or grandiose narcissist. And the reserved (covert) or introverted narcissist who is often called the victim or venerable narcissist. However. All narcissists think they are special in some way and seek attention and validation. How they seek validation and attention differ from person to person.

How Does NPD Manifest Itself?

All narcissists feel they are entitled to special treatment for a reason that makes sense to them. They see people as objects and there to serve the narcissist. They have commitment issues and very low emotional or affective empathy (also called sympathy). Even though a narcissist does have cognitive empathy and knows when you are hurt, they choose not to care about your feelings.

Almost all narcissists have a deep internal fear of not being good enough. Some seek outside validation that they are special while others blame the world for why the narcissist could not attain their dreams. They have very low self-esteem and a constant need for attention. They struggle with criticism and often will defend their fragile ego with violence.

They are unable to self-validate and when not receiving outside validation they very quickly become afraid that they are no longer special or matter to the world. They need constant outside validation of their façade to feel alive.

Narcissists are highly exploitative and believe they have achieved everything in life on their own. They are very vain and feel entitled to whatever they want, even if they did not work for it. They