Inside the Mind of a Narcissistic Person and How to Counter Attack Their Behavior: Everything You Need to Know About Narcissistic Persons

By Antony Lee

Relating to others and feeling empathy is necessary to keep bullying, self-praise, and arrogance at bay. With the lack of empathy that a narcissist experiences, they cannot always see the reverse side of the behaviors they are allowing to define them. Finding a way to see and understand this will be the key to finding a way to dampen their dominating nature. There has to be an equating idea, something they can see in the other person that they understand in themselves. At this point, they can then redirect their ideas to be more understanding and less critical.

Finding an escape from themselves and the people they constantly need to justify themselves to is also important in overcoming issues with narcissism. The biggest fight is for them to know that they are not as perfect or superior as they believe without them succumbing to self-criticism that is harmful to their personality. This is especially true if the main reason for their narcissism stems from the idea that they have an imperfection that must be quantified in a manner that causes over-confidence to come into play.

Reevaluating their approach to people and themselves is very important for Narcissistic Personality Disorder sufferers. The condition is based around the idea that they are always right in most cases. Because of this, there is no direct way to approach the issue, as they will feel as if others, to make themselves look better, are trying to criticize them. Thus the only true way to overcome the disorder is for the person to realize they have such disorder and take the steps to understand it more and regulate it better. Once there is an understanding, the motivation will come with how much they want to change. Often, this will be the result when someone they care about or is close to them is severely hurt by their words or actions. Difficult as it is to face, Narcissistic Personality Disorder can be managed through therapy and the use of hobbies and/or meditation to give them more perspective about things. The ability to open their mind to new ideas will be necessary to seek change. The biggest obstacle is making the change themselves, and finding a way to better who they are by being better to the people around them.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Thang Nguyen
• Release date: Aug 18, 2018
• ISBN: 9781540183712

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Chapter 1: the definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

NPD or narcissistic Personality Disorder is a mental illness that strikes a surprising one percent of the human population. It is characterized by unusual ideation of self-importance, delusions of grandeur and is even given the title God Complex. No one can do anything better, faster and with more authority than the person with NPD. At least that is the opinion of the person WITH NPD. Sure they can be diagnosed and given counseling and placed on mood stabilizing medications, but it rarely helps much, if at all. It is much like the label of Personality Disorder of unknown origin, it is mysterious and seemingly without cure. It makes life for those around them rather miserable. There are many, many rants carried out daily about how everyone else in the world is wrong and they are the only living creature that bothers to do anything right.

They seem to be fueled and exist to float from one argument to another, always with the sole purpose of being declared right. Most, if they get married at all, end up divorced, move frequently and end up being fired from multiple jobs. Normally the reason is that they cannot seem to get along with anyone and constantly complain about everything. They can also prove to be very manipulative and often pit one co-worker against another simply for the sheer enjoyment of it. We are not talking small complaints. Everything is made into a huge ugly federal case. A once peaceful work environment becomes increasingly hostile with each passing day. The employee eventually has to be let go to provide relief for the remaining staff.

They do not start out this way at each new job. They seem at first to simply be very enthusiastic and confident. As time goes on and they feel more comfortable they start getting increasingly critical of the performance of everyone else. It then quickly degenerates into name calling and other verbally hostile behaviors. Though they are not typically known to be violent, they can still become very verbally abusive and demanding.

How can a person possibly deal with such an impossible to please person? Read on and you can learn a few tricks to get through the day.

Chapter 2. WHAT ARE THE TYPES OF NARCISSISTIC PARENTS (NPs)

NPs generally fall into 2 different types of extreme contrasting characteristics. What is common though is that they are both negative and result to long-lasting psychological harm to their children.

Ignoring parents – the type who doesn’t provide much care about their children. They establish and set boundaries and limitations in their relationships with their children and religiously and consistently enforce them. They are also totally disinterested in their development.

The effect is that the child is confused and that future relationships would be difficult. Growing up, the child would feel unloved and uncared for.

While normal parents would take great pleasure in being a part of their child’s development, an ignoring parent wouldn’t even care. Hence, basic skills and learnings such as cleanliness, health, hygiene and school work and activities would have to be learned from other caring people.

Engulfing parents – the exact opposite of the ignoring parents but whose damage is just as significant.

Subtypes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Grandiose

Grandiose, or malignant, subtypes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder are similar to exhibitionistic, or high-functioning, but not the same. Grandiose character types have a more aggressive approach but not a lot to significantly back up their feelings of superiority. With this specific group, there is a pressured attitude towards others. They feel they are owed respect or subservience based on the delusion that they are smarter, stronger, or in some other way, better than everyone else. Bullies often belong to this subtype. A bully will pick on, torture, harass, and further aggravate people simply because they are operating under the idea that they are significantly more superior and thus, not someone who has to lower themselves to anyone else, regardless of who they really are. This can be almost a coping mechanism for these people. If you are unable to deal with the fact that you are bigger, poorer, uglier, etc., than everyone else, there can be situations where that pent up anger is taken out on others of the same standing. It can almost seem like a vicarious self-punishment. By making others cower to them, grandiose personality types feel better about themselves and their own situation. This, in turn, convinces them that what they