Summary of Dan B. Allender, Karen Lee-Thorp & Dr. Larry Crabb's The Wounded Heart

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#1 Sexual abuse is a difficult subject to talk about, and it often brings up a terrible sense of shame for the speaker and listener. It is often easier for abused people to deny the past, ignore the memories, and continue living a lie.

#2 The process of entering the past will disrupt life or, at least, the existence that masquerades as life. The ease of quiet denial that allows the person to be a pleasant but vacuous doormat or an articulate but driven Bible-study leader will be replaced by tumult, fear, confusion, anger, and change.

#3 The person who desires to deal with the wounds of past abuse must be willing to confront an internally and externally fierce battle fought by Christians against other Christians. This makes change difficult, but it is important that the man or woman who has been abused enters into the battle armed with both an awareness of the cost and a deep conviction that life lived in the mire of denial is not life at all.

#4 A major shift occurs when words are given to what is known to be true: I have been sexually abused. There is a deep reluctance to begin the process of change by admitting that damage has occurred.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Apr 1, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669380955

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Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Sexual abuse is a difficult subject to talk about, and it often brings up a terrible sense of shame for the speaker and listener. It is often easier for abused people to deny the past, ignore the memories, and continue living a lie.

#2

The process of entering the past will disrupt life or, at least, the existence that masquerades as life. The ease of quiet denial that allows the person to be a pleasant but vacuous doormat or an articulate but driven Bible-study leader will be replaced by tumult, fear, confusion, anger, and change.

#3

The person who desires to deal with the wounds of past abuse must be willing to confront an internally and externally fierce battle fought by Christians against other Christians. This makes change difficult, but it is important that the man or woman who has been abused enters into the battle armed with both an awareness of the cost and a deep conviction that life lived in the mire of denial is not life at all.

#4

A major shift occurs when words are given to what is known to be true: I have been sexually abused. There is a deep reluctance to begin the process of change by admitting that damage has occurred.

#5

Sexual abuse is any contact or interaction between a child and an adult when the child is being used for the sexual stimulation of the perpetrator or any other person. Sexual abuse may be committed by a person under the age of eighteen when that person is either significantly older than the victim or when the perpetrator is in a position of power or control over the victimized child.

#6

There are many forms of sexual abuse, from verbal to visual to psychological. Verbal and visual sexual abuse are the easiest to identify, but they are also the most common. Psychological sexual abuse is more difficult to identify, but it is still very damaging.

#7

When a parent or caregiver uses a child to fulfill their overt sexual desires or more subtle longings related to the adult’s sexual