Summary of Leslie Vernick's The Emotionally Destructive Relationship

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#1 Repentance for Terri would involve developing courage so that she could stand up and confront John’s overbearing behavior. She would also need to work hard to rediscover and name her own thoughts, feelings, and ideas rather than always deferring to her husband’s.

#2 When someone deeply betrays us and will not take responsibility for the deception, the relationship itself may be beyond repair. But you can learn from this situation and move ahead into new relationships with more wisdom.

#3 If you are in a destructive relationship, you can change it. First, you must recognize what’s wrong, because you can’t change what you don’t see. With God’s help, change, growth, and healing are possible.

#4 All relationships will experience pain, and it is not proof of a bad relationship or even a harmful one. Pain is a natural part of life, and it is not always caused by others. It is up to us to decide whether our relationships are relatively healthy, if sometimes difficult, or unhealthy and destructive.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Apr 29, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669397724

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Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Repentance for Terri would involve developing courage so that she could stand up and confront John’s overbearing behavior. She would also need to work hard to rediscover and name her own thoughts, feelings, and ideas rather than always deferring to her husband’s.

#2

When someone deeply betrays us and will not take responsibility for the deception, the relationship itself may be beyond repair. But you can learn from this situation and move ahead into new relationships with more wisdom.

#3

If you are in a destructive relationship, you can change it. First, you must recognize what’s wrong, because you can’t change what you don’t see. With God’s help, change, growth, and healing are possible.

#4

All relationships will experience pain, and it is not proof of a bad relationship or even a harmful one. Pain is a natural part of life, and it is not always caused by others. It is up to us to decide whether our relationships are relatively healthy, if sometimes difficult, or unhealthy and destructive.

#5

Any relationship that involves any kind of abuse is always destructive. When diagnosing the problem of relational abuse, there are important distinctions between relationships in which one person continually seeks power over the other and uses abusive tactics to control and intimidate, and one-time abusive incidents.

#6

A step down from the abusive relationship is a controlling relationship in which there is a consistent pattern of giving advice, making decisions for another person, or telling them how to act. This might include telling