Summary of Melody Beattie's The Language of Letting Go

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview:#1 Goals are a powerful force that can be used to help you live your life. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. They give your life direction.

#2 Boundaries are crucial to recovery. They are connected to all phases of recovery: growing in self-esteem, dealing with feelings, and learning to love and value yourself. They emerge from deep within and are connected to letting go of guilt and shame.

#3 In recovery, we learn that self-care leads us on the path to God’s will and plan for our life. We can trust ourselves, and we are wiser than we think. Our guide is within, ever-present.

#4 We can draw a healthy line between ourselves and our nuclear family. We can separate ourselves from their issues, and we do not have to take on their problems if we want to be loyal to them.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Mar 2, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669354901

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Insights on Melody Beattie's The Language of Letting Go

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 12

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Goals are a powerful force that can be used to help you live your life. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. They give your life direction.

#2

Boundaries are crucial to recovery. They are connected to all phases of recovery: growing in self-esteem, dealing with feelings, and learning to love and value yourself. They emerge from deep within and are connected to letting go of guilt and shame.

#3

In recovery, we learn that self-care leads us on the path to God’s will and plan for our life. We can trust ourselves, and we are wiser than we think. Our guide is within, ever-present.

#4

We can draw a healthy line between ourselves and our nuclear family. We can separate ourselves from their issues, and we do not have to take on their problems if we want to be loyal to them.

#5

We are not alone. We can draw on the strength of our recovery group and our Higher Power to help us. There is an ample supply of people who care about us, and we don’t have to do it ourselves.

#6

Relationships are the blessing and bane of recovery. We must learn to own our power and take care of ourselves in relationships. Today, I will participate in my relationships to the best of my ability.

#7

We can’t gain control over our feelings by trying to punish others. We can only gain control over our feelings by being vulnerable enough to feel them, and then going on with our lives.

#8

We must be willing to feel hurt and pain, and we must take responsibility for our feelings, behaviors, and what we need to do to take care of ourselves. We must not analyze or justify our feelings.

#9

When we take care of others without taking care of ourselves, we are engaging in caretaking. When we take responsibility for others without taking responsibility for ourselves, we are caretaking.

#10

We may be afraid of making a mistake, what others might think of us, or success. We may second-guess our next action or word until we talk ourselves out of participating in life. But we mustn’t be afraid, and we mustn’t second-guess ourselves.

#11

We must stop feeling so guilty. Guilt can prevent us from setting boundaries that would be in our best interests and in other people’s best interests. We must push past the barrier of guilt that holds us back from self-care.

#12

The goal of recovery is balance, and we can achieve that by going to extremes. Today, I will be gentle with myself and understand that sometimes to reach the middle ground of balance, I need to explore the peaks and valleys.

#13

We can let ourselves feel good, and we don’t have to worry about injecting negativity into our lives. We can feel good, and we don’t have to analyze, judge, or justify our feelings.

#14

In recovery, we learn that we can shamelessly feel all our feelings, including anger, and still take responsibility for what we do when we feel angry. We don’t have to let anger control us, but it will if we prevent ourselves from feeling it.

#15

It is so easy to rally to the defense of others. It is difficult, however, to rally to our own defense. We need to remember that it is okay to stand up for ourselves when that is appropriate.

#16

Prayer and meditation are two ways we take care of our spirit. They are not necessarily connected to organized religion, but they are ways to improve our personal relationship with a Higher Power to benefit ourselves and our growth.