Spend some time with any group of women in their forties and fifties, who are in long-term relationships, and you’ll encounter some recurring topics of conversation. Add a few bottles of wine and you’ll hear even more entertaining anecdotes about the highs and lows of being with the same person for a decade or two. It’s inevitable, no matter who you are. Certain things happen when you are with the same partner every day for a very long time. One of these things can be a kind of drifting – doing more things apart than together, even sleeping in separate beds for some, or all, of the week. But how much of this is the normal evolution of a long-term relationship and when should you be worried that your “drifting apart” could lead to “growing apart”?
Serafin Upton has been a family and couples’ therapist and coach for 20 years. She has trained under world-renowned relationship therapists Esther Perel and
