Summary of Wendy T. Behary's Disarming the Narcissist Third Edition

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#1 The narcissist both appeals and appalls. He may look like a modern-day Sir Lancelot, replete with the most swaggering charm, but he is also a master of illusion. His arrogance, condescension, and lack of empathy lead to frustrating interpersonal encounters and chronically difficult long-term relationships.

#2 The majority of narcissists are male, so I’ll primarily use the male pronoun and male examples throughout this book. However, at the end of this chapter you’ll find material on particularities of female narcissists.

#3 If you checked at least ten of the thirteen items on the list, the person in your life most likely meets the criteria for overt maladaptive narcissism, the most common and difficult form. This type of narcissist is in your face and unwieldy.

#4 The term narcissism is derived from Greek mythology’s tale of Narcissus, who was doomed to eternally fall in love with his own image in a mountain pool as punishment for refusing to accept an offer of love from Echo, a young mountain nymph.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: May 21, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669396963

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Insights on Wendy T. Behary's Disarming the Narcissist Third Edition

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The narcissist both appeals and appalls. He may look like a modern-day Sir Lancelot, replete with the most swaggering charm, but he is also a master of illusion. His arrogance, condescension, and lack of empathy lead to frustrating interpersonal encounters and chronically difficult long-term relationships.

#2

The majority of narcissists are male, so I’ll primarily use the male pronoun and male examples throughout this book. However, at the end of this chapter you’ll find material on particularities of female narcissists.

#3

If you checked at least ten of the thirteen items on the list, the person in your life most likely meets the criteria for overt maladaptive narcissism, the most common and difficult form. This type of narcissist is in your face and unwieldy.

#4

The term narcissism is derived from Greek mythology’s tale of Narcissus, who was doomed to eternally fall in love with his own image in a mountain pool as punishment for refusing to accept an offer of love from Echo, a young mountain nymph.

#5

A narcissist may have grown up in a home where the notion of being better than others and having special rights and privileges was indoctrinated and modeled. His parents may not have adequately taught him how to manage or tolerate discomfort.

#6

The child may have grown up feeling entitled to have others take care of everything so he wouldn’t have to face dealing with frustration or the potential humiliation of making a bad decision.

#7

The most popular theory for the origins of narcissism