How To Improve Your Child's Behavior Today: Secrets to Raising Well-behaved Children: Positive Parenting, #1

By Katrina Kahler and Karen Campbell

The three secrets to raising a well-behaved child are providing a great role model, consistency and expectations. Sounds simple doesn't it? Well, if you follow this book's advice and stick to it, you will see changes take place almost immediately.

Many parents are struggling to maintain control of their children. They are drowning and don't know how to shape their children's behavior.
And more and more children are displaying behavior problems in schools and homes. An increasing number of preschool kids are coming to school with anti-social behavior including swearing, fighting and non-cooperation. Many teens are out of control, disrespectful and unhappy.

Parents are responsible for shaping their child's behavior from birth. Some parents find this quite difficult and they tend to give-up and give-in to their child's desires and demands. Giving-in teaches the child that if they scream loud enough, throw a tantrum or become physically violent, then they will get their way.

So if you are struggling or just simply want your child to have respectful behavior, buy this book and follow the advice.

Karen Campbell and Katrina Kahler are highly experienced teachers who have changed many children's lives over the past 30 years. They are sharing their secrets to successful behavior modification and shaping in 'How To Improve Your Child's Behavior Today'.

They also have a number of other Parental Advice books on Amazon. 'Positive Parenting: How To Avoid The Pitfalls And Raise A Child You'll Be Proud Of' combines all 7 books in the series.

Start working on your child's behavior and level of respect today, they'll be happier and so will you!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Katrina Kahler
• Release date: Aug 9, 2021
• ISBN: 9798201085179

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Introduction

The three secrets to raising a well-behaved child are providing a great role model, consistency, and expectations. Sounds simple, doesn’t it?

Unfortunately, many parents are struggling to maintain control of their children. They are drowning and don’t know how to shape their children’s behavior.

More and more children are displaying behavior problems in schools and homes.

An increasing number of preschool kids come to school with anti-social behavior, including swearing, fighting, and non-cooperation. Many teens are out of control, disrespectful and unhappy.

Parents are responsible for shaping their child’s behavior from birth. Some parents find this quite tricky, and they tend to give up and give in to their child’s desires and demands.

Giving in teaches the child that if they scream loud enough, throw a tantrum or become physically violent, and then they will get their way.

Keep this saying in mind when you are dealing with a poorly behaved child:

What I allow, I teach.

So, if your child wants a toy and you say no, they put on a tantrum, and you give in and buy it for them...then you are teaching them that they can get whatever they want. All they have to do is behave poorly.

The next time they see something they want they’ll remember how they got the last thing. This can set them up for a lifetime of bad choices and acting negatively to get their own way.

Young children are self-centered little people. They are actually in a stage called egocentric. They believe the world revolves around them. As a responsible parent, it is your job to teach them that they can’t always have their own way. You also need to model and teach them socially acceptable behavior patterns. Your child will grow into a teen and adult that you can be proud of by starting young.

This book will give you the most successful tips and strategies that you can easily follow to shape your child’s behavior.

Consistent and Positive discipline is definitely the best kind when it comes to disciplining children. By implementing the strategies, we have outlined in this book, you can easily create the type of child you will like to be around and be proud of.

Chapter 1 - Tips to Encourage Good Behavior

We’ll discuss many of these tips in more depth in other chapters

Be a Good Role Model

Your child will copy everything you do. This is the most effective method of encouraging good behavior. Unfortunately, it also works the opposite way as well. By always saying please and thank you yourself, your child will do the same. If you don’t want your child to yell, then use a quiet, calm voice of your own. If you blow up in stressful situations and your child is watching, they will learn that they should react.

Communicate your Feelings Using I Statements

Let your child know how you’re feeling about their behavior, e.g., I’m really upset about the way you spoke to me just now. This gives them a clear message about how their behavior is affecting you. Kids don’t want to hurt or upset their parents. Most children want to please their parents. Children are often very self-absorbed and don’t know how their behavior affects others, but once they’re told, they are often surprised about how their actions made the other person feel. They will sometimes turn their behavior around and try to be more thoughtful and considerate. When they make an effort to change their behavior, use praise to further encourage the desired behavior.

Use Praise Often

Children thrive on praise and positive reinforcement. Make praise a regular part of your day and praise your child often. This is the best way to encourage them to repeat any desired behavior. Focus on the positive rather than the negative, e.g., I love the way that you’re sharing your toys, rather than waiting for something negative to happen and calling out, I told you that you have to share – that’s terrible behavior!  If you’re only providing negative feedback and attention, then your child will continue with that behavior. They would rather have negative attention than no attention at all, so it’s best to give as many positive comments as possible. Just make sure that the praise is sincere and earned.

Communicate Effectively with your Child

Allow your child to really communicate with you and vice versa by being at their level physically. With a younger child, bending down or kneeling next to them allows you to focus on each other’s thoughts and feelings and communicate on a much clearer level.

Also, try to understand and consider their perspective and point of view, which may be completely different from yours. We have a whole book on communicating that will teach you how to effectively communicate with your child. It is called ‘Communicating With Your Kids:

Reviews for How To Improve Your Child's Behavior Today

[Liz Varnum · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Very helpful. Easy read & very easy to understand, love it.