Anger Management for Parents - Calm Your Reactive Emotions and Respond with Less Frustration to Raise Happy and Healthy Kids!
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Does watching your child lose their temper feel like looking into a mirror?
Your children look to you for everything; from lunch money and homework help, to impulse control and emotional regulation. You are the model by which they set their standards.
So when it comes to anger management, are you demonstrating model behavior?
If the answer is no, you're not alone. Even us parents need help learning how to control our emotional responses, especially when it comes to feeling frustrated with our offspring.
Anger Management for Parents provides you with the necessary tools to help you calm your reactive emotions and formulate a clear-headed response that will ensure your children grow up in a happy, healthy environment.
Take a deep breath and allow this book to show you how to:
- Recognize the common causes of anger in parents, and the effects your temper has on the development of your children
- Make a plan for managing your anger by reflecting, identifying, and taking responsibility for your emotions
- Effectively respond to your child's tantrums and understand the causes behind that behavior
- Reroute your impulsive anger into a more productive, active response by focusing on positive parenting
- Engage in social emotional learning that will have you and your child more in tune with each other's feelings
Make your home a safer and more accepting place for the emotions of every member of your family.
Show your child just how much you care with Anger Management for Parents!
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Anger Management for Parents - Calm Your Reactive Emotions and Respond with Less Frustration to Raise Happy and Healthy Kids! - Kara Lawrence
Table of Contents
Introduction: Anger Management in Parenting
Chapter 1: What's the Deal with Anger?
The Common Causes of Anger in Parents
It's How You Were Raised
When You Reach Your Threshold Because You are Overwhelmed
When Your Child Feels Angry or Frustrated Too
When You Feel Like Nothing You're Doing is Working
Other Common Causes
How Do Parents Manifest Anger
Yelling
Hitting
Giving Harsh Punishments
The Effects of Parental Anger on Children
Poor Mental and Physical Health
Your Child Will Live in Constant Fear
Difficulty Expressing Emotions
Your Child Will Also Have Problems With Anger
Your Child Will Get Too Used to Your Anger
Your Child May Develop Problems in the Future
Other Adverse Effects
Chapter 2: Getting Started With Anger Management
Look Out for These Signs
Physical Signs
Emotional and Behavioral Signs
The Thermometer Theory
Do You Need Professional Help?
Chapter 3: The Basics of Anger Management
Make a Plan
Make a Commitment First
Prepare Yourself Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally
Make a List of Things You Want to Change
Make a List of How You Will Handle Your Anger
If Possible, Involve Your Child in the Planning Stage
Continue to Look for Ways to Deal with Your Anger
Be Flexible With Your Plan
Reflect on Your Anger
Learn How to Identify Your Anger
Think About Your Triggers
Think About the Situations That Make You Angry
Learn How to Accept and Take Responsibility for Your Anger
Practice Self-Kindness
Learn How to Forgive Yourself
Try Not to Beat Yourself Up All the Time
Pay Attention to Your Thoughts
Make Self-Care Your Priority
Take a Break When You Need to
Make a Conscious Choice to Connect With Your Child
Surround Yourself and Your Child with Supportive and People
Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes and Fix Them
Deal With Your Anger
Accept Your Anger
Take a Few Deep Breaths
Try Different Ways to Calm Yourself Down
Learn How to Accept Your Child
Choose Your Words Carefully
Stop Yourself Before You Do Something You Will Regret
Be Consistent
Use I
Messages
Chapter 4: Dealing with the Dreaded Tantrums
What Are Tantrums and What Causes Them?
When a Child Cannot Communicate Verbally
When a Child Engages in a Power Struggle
When a Child Gets Into a Fight with Another Child
When a Child Isn't Feeling Well
Other Possible Causes
Knowing When Tantrums Are About to Start
Your Child is Struggling With Something
Your Child Is Losing Focus
Your Child's Body Becomes Tense
Your Child is Showing Other Physical Signs of Frustration
Your Child is Raising Their Voice
Your Child Starts Hitting, Kicking, or Biting
Your Child Starts Crying
Things You Should NOT Do
Not Sharing Your Feelings With Your Child
Saying That Your Child's Behavior Is Making You Feel Sad
Invalidating Your Child's Emotions or Perceptions
Using Sarcasm
Paying Too Much Attention to Your Child
Lying to Your Child to Stop Their Tantrum
Threatening or Bribing Your Child
Taking Things Personally
Trying to Console Your Child
Tips for Dealing With Tantrums
Be Prepared
Stay Calm
Try to Understand Why the Tantrum Is Happening
Deal With Aggressive Behavior First
Give Short, Direct Instructions
Move Your Child Away From Prying Eyes
Help Your Child Put Their Feelings Into Words
If Your Child Can Talk, Listen Attentively
Allow Your Child to Feel Their Anger
Distract Your Child
Avoid Punishments
Don't Dwell on the Tantrum
Know What to do Next
Yes, Older Children and Teens Throw Tantrums Too
Be Calm, Kind, and Sensitive
Find Out Their Triggers
Don't Get Hooked Into Your Child's Tantrum
Help Your Child Through Their Tantrum
Talk When You Are Both Calm
Discuss Their Behavior
Agree on the Consequences of Their Actions
Know When It's Time to Seek Help
Chapter 5: Focusing on Positivity
What Is Positive Parenting?
The Effects of Positivity on Children
Improves Your Child's Self-Esteem
It Teaches Mutual Respect
It Helps Your Child Communicate More Effectively
It Helps You Understand Your Child's Feelings Better
It Strengthens Your Relationship With Your Child
It Reduces Negative Behaviors
It Makes Your Child Feel Happy!
Applying Positive Parenting in Anger Management
Practice Self-Care
Create an Environment That Will Nurture Your Child
Spend Quality Time With Your Child
Set Rules and Boundaries
Take Hold of Your Reactions to Your Child's Intense Emotions
Find the Root of the Problem
Discipline Effectively
Avoid Giving Rewards
Learn How to Apologize
Be Consistent
Chapter 6: Mindfulness Techniques for Parents
The Beauty of Calm Parenting
You and Your Child Will Understand Each Other Better
It Becomes Easier to Solve Problems
Strengthens Trust in Your Relationship
You Won't lose Your Cool as Often as You Used to
Less Stress and Frustration
You Get to Enjoy the Time You Spend with Your Child
Other Benefits
Managing Your Emotions
Mindfulness Techniques for Anger Management
Close Your Eyes and Tune Into Your Emotions
Understand What Your Anger is and Where it Comes From
Bring Yourself Back to Feeling Centered
Learn What Calms You Down
Take a Break
Analyze the Context of the Situation
Blow Off Some Steam
Listen to Music
Find Other Distractions When You're Feeling Stressed
Accept Imperfection
Always Choose Love
Chapter 7: Identifying Causes for Your Child’s Anger
What Is Normal Anger
in Children
Anxiety
Learning Difficulties
Neglect or Trauma
Issues With Sensory Processing
ADHD
Autism
Why Do Children Get So Angry?
Personality and Temperament
When They Feel Disconnected
When Their Feelings Are Hurt
When They Are Always Ignored
They Are Exposed to Anger All the Time
When They Feel Like They Have Lost Control
When Someone Violates Their Boundaries
When a Significant Change Happens in Their Lives
When They Are Stressed About Something
Not Feeling Physically Well
Part of Their Development
Chapter 8: Anger Management for Children
Tips for Young Children
Establish a Solid Foundation
Teach Your Child to Notice Their Anger Signs
Encourage Your Child to Verbally Express Themselves
Teach Calming Strategies
Allow Your Child to Take Control
Create Anger Rules
with Your Child
If Needed, Offer Consequences
Help Your Child Avoid Their Triggers
Practice Problem-Solving
Create a Safe Space
for Your Child's Anger
Help Your Child Find Other Ways to Express Their Anger Appropriately
Model Healthy Anger Management
Promote Flexibility
Notice Your Child's Successes No Matter How Small
Be Consistent
Tips for Older Children and Teenagers
Don't Treat Your Teen Like a Child
Teach Your Teen to Analyze Their Anger
Calm Down, Pause, and Act
Set Limits
Suggest Healthy Distractions
Practice Positive Self-Talk
Practice Journaling
Teach Coping and Problem-Solving Skills
Teach Your Teen How to Manage Anger in Steps
Know When Your Teen Needs Help
Conclusion: Calm Your Anger and Show Your Child Just How Much You Love Them
References
Introduction: Anger Management in Parenting
Have you ever lost your temper with your child?
All parents are guilty of this at one time or another. Picture this. You are now working from home, which means that you need some alone time to focus on your work so that you can accomplish all of your tasks. You finish your chores, give your child something to keep them busy, and you go into your home office to start working.
Minutes later, your child comes into your office to ask you some questions about the activity you left them with. You smile, answer patiently, and your child leaves. As you open your work email, you see that you have a ton of work to complete by the end of the day. Now that you are feeling pressured, your child comes into your office again, this time to ask you if you would like to play. So you tell your child that you have a lot of work and you can't play right now.
But your little one doesn't give up as they keep badgering you about playing. Even if you firmly tell your child that you cannot play with them right now, they leave the room only to come back moments later with a handful of toys. While you are trying to concentrate on your work, the little person who is now sharing your office is making a lot of noise and moving around so much. You reach your boiling point, you stand up, and get angry at your child. After scolding your little one, you immediately feel bad as you watch them running out of the room in tears.
Does this situation sound all too familiar?
Even if such a situation hasn't happened to you specifically, do you relate to it on a deep level?
Well, you are not alone. Parents often lose their temper and express their anger when dealing with their children. Your anger can be unleashed in an intense moment where it gets manifested as yelling or spanking, or it can come out in trickles where you scold your child over and over again for things they should not be doing.
When you are feeling angry, you tend to lose the 'rational' part of yourself. When your anger reaches an intense level, you blow up on your little one, and often, this would make you feel better—because you were able to release your pent-up emotions.
This scenario is your side of the story... But have you ever thought about what your anger does to your child?
Children are naturally curious, intuitive, and exploratory. Since they are just learning about the world, they will ask a lot of questions, touch virtually everything about them, and try different things without thinking about the consequences of their actions. As your child's parent, your little one will always run to you to explain things they don't understand. Even if you feel sad, stressed, or upset, they will still approach you because they believe that you have all the answers.
If you meet your child's enthusiasm and curiosity with anger, it will negatively affect the little person who depends so much on you. Even as children grow up and start misbehaving, using anger to combat their misbehaviors isn't the best thing to do. Anger has the potential to cause low self-esteem in children, along with feelings of isolation, sadness, and other adverse long-term effects. When a child is always exposed to anger, they might develop their own anger issues, which you would have to deal with.
Even though anger is a natural, basic emotion, you need to learn how to control your anger,