Positive Parenting Is Easier Than You Think

By Jennifer N. Smith

More and more parents are dealing with children that are out of control, children that are angry and parents do not know how to handle. What studies have found is that this anger that these children are experiencing can be caused from the type of parenting technique that is being used.

Most parents begin by using negative discipline which involves spankings or time out, but when they do not see the results that they expect, they are left confused and not understanding what they should do.

The answer is positive parenting. Positive parenting is parenting done right. It is a technique that is based on preparing your child for the future and looking for teachable moments in a child’s life. This book is going to teach you everything that you need to know about positive parenting so you can start using it today!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Jennifer N. Smith
• Release date: Oct 12, 2017
• ISBN: 9781386962342

Jennifer N. Smith

We are a team of writers. We are a team of moms.  We are Writer Moms!  We have experienced what it is like to be a mother and to be completely clueless about raising our children. Through mutual support and help, we have risen out of our early mom days and we want to help you now. We love reading and writing self-improvement and self-help books, especially parenting books that will help you become the best version of yourself for your children. Whether you are a new mother, a veteran mother or an expectant mother, our books can help you.  We have positive, practical advice for all the Mommies (and the Daddies) out there. Instead of just telling you what to do, we believe in giving you step-by-step user guides for your everyday problems.  We love cooking and preparing delicious food for our children and our families. We love spending time with our loved ones. We are Mommies who have jobs, businesses and are stay-at-home parents, and we can help you with many of your questions. Most of our books deal with children and parenting, but we also love to write on other topics related to your home and family.  Most importantly, we believe in a happy home, and we would love to help to make your life so much better, as it should be.

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Introduction- how discipline is causing kids to be aggressive and angry

Kids will be kids, but something has changed the way that children are behaving, they are becoming increasingly aggressive and angry. What is worse is that these acts of aggression are not just happening at home anymore, they are happening in schools, at the grocery store and everywhere else that a child visits.

Many of us look at these angry children and wonder just what went wrong. The issues are being blamed on disorders, causing more and more children to be medicated.

No one seems to quite understand what is happening with the children, but the answer is quite simple it all boils down to discipline. Studies have proven that children who are disciplined negatively are more aggressive and angry than those who are disciplined positively.

Many people justify negative punishment by stating that the child will receive negative punishment if they did something wrong, therefore it is important for them to understand that bad things happen when they behave badly, but what if I told you that through using negative punishment, you were setting the child up for bad behavior in the future?

When you use positive discipline, you are going to watch the bad behaviors disappear, therefore ensuring that your child will not have to deal with any negative punishments when they are adults because they are not going to be the type of person that breaks the law.

Negative punishments vary from grounding to taking away privileges to taking away toys, spanking, yelling and so forth. Negative punishment can also be taking away something that a child was looking forward to when there is bad behavior, for example, if a child was looking forward to going to a friend’s house and you decided that since the child did not clean their room they could not go.

Many people believe that this type of punishment is only fair and that it works well, however, it only works when it is consistent and immediately follows the bad behavior which rarely happens, especially if the behavior happens outside of the home.

Negative discipline may also change the way that the child is behaving when he or she is around you, however, it is not changing the way that the child feels about the behavior and in order to really change the behavior outside of the home, when the child is not with you, you have to change the way they feel about it.

Negative discipline to a child is nothing more than retaliation, it is cruel and they do not understand it. Children who are disciplined negatively mimic the behaviors that they see, for example, if they are spanked, they hit. If they are yelled at, they tend to yell.

On the other hand, a child whose parent uses positive discipline tends to be positive and encouraging to other children. They treat people fairly, get in trouble less often and have higher expectations for themselves.

Chapter 1- What is Positive Parenting?

Knowing that negative discipline can have negative impacts on your child is one thing, however, it is also important for you to understand what positive parenting is. Many parents are concerned about positive parenting, thinking that they are going to end up spoiling their children. They look back at how they were raised and they feel a bit protective of their own parents, after all, they turned out alright.

The truth is, most of our parents used positive parenting before it was ever popular. Most of our parents helped us to set goals for ourselves, they communicated their expectations clearly and avoided severe punishments such as physical discipline.

However, if your parent was a negative discipliner, it may seem much more difficult for you to implement positive parenting into your life.

Positive parenting focuses on communicating well with your children, ensuring that your child understands the expectations that you have set for them, using praise as well as other positive reinforcements when the child behaves well and avoiding all negative discipline.

Let’s for a moment imagine that you have been a parent for a while, and now you want to start using positive parenting because you are not happy with the results of other parenting techniques. The good news is

Reviews for Positive Parenting Is Easier Than You Think

[AS · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Easy and handy guide which can be used as a reminder from time to time to be positive.

[Kate · Rating: 2 out of 5 stars]

I really wanted to like her books, since they all are short reads that I could actually make time for, as a busy working mom of 4. But after reading 3 of her books, I'm just giving up. She preaches a lot of idealistic goals, but gives no good suggestion on how to make them reality. As a matter of fact, her advice just seems to contradict itself every other chapter. Those of us without spotless houses are lazy according to her, but also we shouldn't spend time after work doing chores, but instead play Uno with our kids. We need to practice self care, meditate, and keep a daily gratitude journal, but after we put the kids to bed it's more important to go around and spend 15 minutes with each of them, instead of taking some alone time. Then to top it off, some her examples on how to handle a parenting problem just seem flat out manipulative to me. I'd rather build an open and honest relationship with my children as opposed to playing games to get them to confess or do as they're told.

[Ana · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

It is a good book, with lots of useful advises, but sometimes not very realistic when you have more than 1-2 children. How would you make time for each of your 4-5 children, when working full time, and doing all the chores around the house?! But well, we take what is suitable for our family, and we adapt it....I have enjoyed it!