How To Get Your Kids To Listen To You - Communicating with Your Toddler, Tween, Teen and Older Children – Know How to Get Through to Your Kids
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Being a parent is the hardest job in the world – there's no denying that!
Not only do you have to keep a child healthy and happy, you are in charge of disciplining them, turning them into a good human being for the sake of society. And there's where everything starts to go downhill.
No matter how fiercely you love your child and no matter how devoted they are to you, children doesn't want to listen! They don't want to listen to you when you want them to do something, and definitely not when you don't want them to do something. The result – utter chaos!
I should know – I've been through that chaos. With a 6-year-old and a 2-year-old who didn't listen to anything I told them, I was drowning in desperation and frustration. There wasn't anything left for me to try to get my kids to listen to me – threatening them, punishing them, bribing them, cajoling them, trying to buy them with gifts, and what not. I was never a bad mother, but I was definitely a clueless one!
Then, I thought of being an effective mother – the kind of parent who knows the right way of making her kids listen. Months of research and talking to other parents, I came up with a plan, and everything I've learned is in this book.
This book has everything every parent needs to know about making their children listen to them - not just hear the words, but listen and act on them. I've divided the book into chapters, each one dealing with specific phrases of their lives. There's also a chapter, at the beginning of the book, about why your children may not listen to you, which you can read to see where you're going wrong.
If you also have problems with getting your kids to listen to you, I really hope this book can help!
Jennifer N. Smith
We are a team of writers. We are a team of moms. We are Writer Moms! We have experienced what it is like to be a mother and to be completely clueless about raising our children. Through mutual support and help, we have risen out of our early mom days and we want to help you now. We love reading and writing self-improvement and self-help books, especially parenting books that will help you become the best version of yourself for your children. Whether you are a new mother, a veteran mother or an expectant mother, our books can help you. We have positive, practical advice for all the Mommies (and the Daddies) out there. Instead of just telling you what to do, we believe in giving you step-by-step user guides for your everyday problems. We love cooking and preparing delicious food for our children and our families. We love spending time with our loved ones. We are Mommies who have jobs, businesses and are stay-at-home parents, and we can help you with many of your questions. Most of our books deal with children and parenting, but we also love to write on other topics related to your home and family. Most importantly, we believe in a happy home, and we would love to help to make your life so much better, as it should be.
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How To Get Your Kids To Listen To You - Communicating with Your Toddler, Tween, Teen and Older Children – Know How to Get Through to Your Kids - Jennifer N. Smith
Introduction
It’s the same story everywhere.
The moment your new baby home, theirs is the only voice to be heard anywhere. Your newborn would cry to get your attention, and your toddler would simply ignore your instructions. Your tween will start showing signs of rebellion and your teenager would dismiss any suggestion or advice that you might have. Even your grown-up children aren’t much better, are they?
Kids never listen – that’s the universal truth. It’s not a comment on your parenting style, and certainly not your failure as a parent. You can have all the wisdom in the world stored in your brain, but your children would never want to listen to you. That’s just the way it is with children and parents.
Trust me, I know.
My Story
Even just a few months ago, my home was a daily war zone. With a 6-year-old and a 2-year-old, someone would be screaming all the time. Either it would be me, my kids, or all three of us simultaneously. Not an hour would go by that someone wouldn’t lose their mind, get frustrated and start to scream. As I was working from home at the moment, this would go on the whole day. My husband would come home from work to a screaming match, and it wasn’t something he appreciated. Not day after day, after day.
To say that all our relationships were suffering would have been an understatement. Tired of screaming at the children all day, nagging and repeating myself, I wanted nothing more than a break at the end of the day. As a result, I would simply hand the kids over to my husband, who was tired from work, and vanish into the bedroom, excusing myself with a migraine. The kids, who had both scream like banshees all day and ignored all my instructions, would behave like little angels in front of my husband, just because they were missing him all the day.
Things got too complicated within a few months. My eldest, 6-years-old at the moment, had begun showing behavioral problems immediately after the birth of her sister. Overnight, she had become a jealous, malicious child from someone who was sweet tempered and disciplined. I had noticed the changes in her, but I was too busy taking care of my newborn child, my home, and my part-time job, to properly assess the situation. She stopped listening to me, started to directly disobey me, and even ignoring me at one point. As soon as my youngest reached her 2nd birthday, she started following her sister’s behavioral patterns.
Suddenly, I was stuck with two children who, as it seemed to me, wanted nothing to do with me. I was their mother and they were practically ignoring me. My relationship with my husband, unfortunately, wasn’t so great either. In such a small family, we were all basically resenting each other, minimizing our contact with each other. Personally, I was counting the days till they are grown up and I wouldn’t have to deal with their day-to-day activities.
My Realization
One day, I suddenly decided that enough was enough. I wasn’t having any more impertinence and disobedience in my home. I was missing out on the best years of my children’s lives, and it was, to some extent, my own fault. Letting bygones be bygones, I was determined to make my kids listen to me and bring back some order into my home, whatever it took.
My Journey
I started researching parenting techniques. I must have bought tens of dozens of parenting books and gone through a million blogs on the articles. I talked to my friends who had children, to the other moms at my kids’ schools, and even asked my mother, grandmother and aunts for advice. I asked, unabashedly, for advice to help my situation. I laid down all the facts out to them and asked them their expert opinion on how to approach my kids. Some of the advice I got was gold!
We all have different parenting styles and I wouldn’t say I agreed to every advice I got. But I noted down every single advice that made sense to me, and decided on the ones I would apply in my family. I had a whole outline made, my take on each approach that I would use on specific situations.
I did, and – although it took time, they worked. No, it wasn’t a miracle. I didn’t say anything so special that my kids started to take notice of me immediately. It took weeks, even months, before I could get through the day without screaming. But after all the time and effort, I could finally get my children to notice me when I speak, listen to my words and follow my instructions.
It hadn’t been easy, but I had finally learned to connect and communicate with my kids, and my relationship with my husband eventually improved, as well. My eldest is almost 7 years old now, and I couldn’t have asked for a better child. It doesn’t mean that she never rebels or disobeys me, but her tantrums have reduced drastically. My almost 3-year-old follows whatever her sister is doing, and is also being a model child. Most of the time.
Then, one day, I suddenly bumped into an old classmate at a coffee shop. She was alone but I had both my kids with me, thankfully, in a good mood. Watching them for a while, my friend exclaimed: Wow! How did you get them to be so well behaved?
I wanted to take her through my whole journey at that very moment, but we didn’t have the time. Instead, I made up my mind, then and there, to share my story with other parents out there who are also having trouble making their children listen to them. I decided to share my history with the other struggling parents and try to make their journey somewhat easier than mine was. That’s how this book was born!
So. what can you find in this book?
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