Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide to Understanding and Managing your Teen's Behavior: POSITIVE PARENTING, #2

By Susan Garcia

Have you noticed that your sweet little son has become rebellious and impossible to manage?

Is it becoming increasingly difficult to reach an agreement and every misunderstanding turns into a fight?

Don't be scared, your son is becoming a Teenager.

Like any parent, you find it hard to accept that your little baby is growing so fast. Until a few years ago you were able to keep him under control and he was the most obedient child in the world.

But lately you've started to notice changes. He has changed his way of dressing, he wants to look bigger to impress his friends and he no longer respects the rules of the house.

I want to reassure you, your child has no problem at all, he is only undergoing a series of changes both physical and mental that can confuse him and find him unprepared. His behavior is only his way of reacting to these changes.

Your role is essential at this stage in his life. You have the task of guiding him and directing him to the right path, otherwise it could assume attitudes that could create problems in the future. The choices that are made during adolescence will affect his whole life. If you now feel worried and bewildered, this book is what you need.

In this book you will discover:

•  How to understand when your child is becoming a teenager

 

•  How to change attitude towards him

 

•  How to continue to protect him but make him take responsibility for his action

 

•  How to connect with him and his new world

 

•  The best way to teach your child about useful life skills

 

•  How to raise a responsible teenager

 

This is not only a theoretical book, inside this book you will find practical situations of daily life with the right method to deal with them.

In this book I have collected both common problems such as poor academic performance, bad friendships, and situations that are more harmful and difficult to manage such as drug use or illegal and harmful behavior.

The advice contained in the book can be applied to both males and females and there are examples for both.

Stop hoping that things adjust themselves, hope is not a strategy and without a right strategy what is now a small problem could turn into something much bigger and irreparable.

If you want to learn more about how to manage your teenager and how to make him a successful person, then simply click the buy now button on this page to get started.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Parenting Tips Press
• Release date: Dec 6, 2019
• ISBN: 9781393877578

Book preview

positive parenting

An essential guide to Understanding and Managing your Teen’s Behavior

written by

SUSAN GARCIA

Sommario

Introduction

Chapter one: What is Positive Parenting?

A Teen’s Brain and how it Changes

Hormonal Changes in Teens and how They Affect Them

Physical Changes and What They Mean to your Teen

Teens, Friends, and Parents

Chapter Two: How Parenting Styles Influence Your Teen

The Fight for Control: The Drill Sergeant

The Rescue Parent: Helicopter and Permissive Parent

The Consultant Parents: Positive Parenting

Do Children Raised by Consultant Parents Still Rebel?

Chapter Three: How to Raise Responsible Teens

A Teen’s Self-Concept

Where do you go from here?

Building your Teen’s Self-Concept

Help teens feel good about themselves

How to use Convert Messages

Responsibility and Self-Concept

Let Teens Own their Problems

Chapter Four: How to Connect with your Teen

How to Listen to Teens and Finally get them to Listen

Help your Teen Communicate their Feelings

The Fight for Control and How it can Foster Connection

How to use Mistakes as Opportunities to Connect and Learn

Chapter Five: Enabling vs. Empowering

How to Teach your Teens Life Skills

Look for Teachable Moments

Use your Teen’s Interests to Teach

Teach your Teens how to Plan

Encourage Routines

Don’t be Afraid to ask for Help

Chapter Six: What to do About Scary Behavior

Friends or Lack Thereof

What if you Hate your Teen’s Friends?

Drugs and Alcohol Abuse

Teen Sex, Pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Diseases

Suicidal Behavior

Kids who Won’t Move Out

Conclusion

References

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Introduction

Adolescence is the moment when you realize that your little girl is no longer so little. These days, she prefers to dress like a rock star, wear tons of gothic make-up and loads of chains and bangles like rock stars do. She has even picked up playing the guitar, and the volume from her bedroom is unbearable. Your little girl rolls her eyes when you ask her to do something, never cleans her room (unless a friend is coming over) and spends half the day in her room with a ‘do not disturb’ sign on the door.

Who is this person? you wonder.

When she was born, your daughter, let’s call her Jane, was delicate, adorable and the sweetest thing you have ever met. You did everything for her from bathing her, feeding her and clothing her. As she learned how to walk, you took her little hands in yours and helped her to gain balance just before you learned to let her go and walk by herself.

You created a safe environment for her to grow, move about, experiment, and learn. As she grew, you learned to move aside and give her room to move about freely while continuing to be safe.

However, now, you have a teen who is learning to be an adult, and it is quite understandable why things seem a little confusing. Your little girl has moved from being cute and cuddly to a gothic rock star fan. Why wouldn’t you be worried?

What should you do now? How should you handle her development? Should you act out of fear and continue to protect and hover over your child? How soon should you let go and allow your child to master adulthood? How often should you offer advice (unsolicited or otherwise)? Should you report something to school when she shares it with you?

It is not surprising that, as a parent, you feel at a loss when you try to balance all these things. You know what your teen ought to do, but she doesn’t do it. Moreover, to make matters worse, she does not seem to listen to your constant reminders and yelling, and any attempt to ground her is met with hostility, arguments, and bargains.

It’s exhausting.

Something many parents do not understand is that positive parenting and understanding your teen's development could change this terrible, nerve-wracking years into a less stressful, more manageable period. Adolescence is a period where teens are learning to be adults. They are bound to fall and make mistakes, like we all do, and learn how to get up, dust themselves off and keep moving.

Your teen is likely to take on a new personality, sometimes every few weeks, as they try to identify who they are and get comfortable in their skin. It is a time of testing their limits, understanding themselves, and learning to love themselves. Believe it or not, your teen is just as confused as you are. Their bodies and their hormones are changing as well as their brains. 

According to research, the teens’ brain doesn’t grow much during this time. It is already at 90% growth by the time a person is six years old. A thickening skull accounts for most head growth after this, but through adolescence, the brain of a teen undergoes remodeling similar to a network or wiring upgrade.

The principles of positive parenting offer a way out of this confusion for both parent and teen. Using the principles you will learn in this book, you will not only understand your not-so-little child more, but you will also be equipped with the skills you need to set limits, discipline and help your child become a responsible adult. This book will educate you and challenge you to support your teen in an atmosphere of mutual respect that affirms your teen’s self-worth and as well as your self-worth as a parent.

Whether you have parented your teens with an iron fist or not, teens will love you for giving them more room to grow and make their own choices. They may misunderstand what this truly means, so it’s up to you to help them understand the responsibility that comes with choices. Preparing your teen for life is your primary job as a parent, and this book will help you make the ride a little more enjoyable and stable.

Chapter one

What is Positive Parenting?

Liam has never been what you would consider being a ‘bad child’. He was a normal child, but as he grew into his teens, he was not what you would call ‘good’ either. Instead, he was somewhere in between good, naughty, and bad. By the time he was 16, he was moody and detached